I have about 30 trees planted in the ground and I choose to keep them compact. I prune them down to six feet in the fall and try not to let them get much over eight feet at harvest time. I pinch them quite a bit in the spring to control the growth and shape of my trees. does it give you better and faster ripening fruit? maybe but if for no other reason than controlling the shape and size of my trees it does work. the size of this years growth will get thicker and more buds will send out shoots to make the top of your tree bushy. that is what I want in my trees so I can reach every fig without using a latter. I chose to pinch my trees really hard this year and I'm glad I did.

Thanks for all the comments. The idea behind my wanting to pinch out tips was to allow the plant to direct its energies toward ripening the already existing fruit and not wasting any of its energies on pushing out more flowers that will not have time to turn into ripe tomatoes. I'd rather have a few dozen ripe tomatoes than hundreds of green, loonie-sized ones. I have done some serious pruning on my tomatoes this week. I aggressively cut off everything that had flowers on them and only left the stems that have viable tomatoes already growing. I further put main stems and longer secondary stems that are very productive up on a 7-foot trellis, which now looks really awesome with all the beautiful trusses hanging on it, looking a lot like a crop of grapes. I will post here again in a few weeks to report on whether the ripening has picked up any speed at all. In any case, the weather has been chilly, cloudy and wet (tomatoes are now covered in mold), so that kind of slows things down, but we'll see.

Webegardnr ... I commend you and wish you much future happiness. I think BM getting along with Dad and SM is of vital importance. You have been able to negotiate a most difficult situation. Canine, if BM is a psycho now - just wait. It will get worse. Or perhaps, she is upset because her still married husband is seeing someone else. (That would make any woman psycho). That will also set the stage for her hating you forever because if she is in a situation where she was thinking she get get him back if you weren't in the picture - you will always be considered the villain and the tug of war will last forever. If you listen to statistics ... only about 30-35% of second marriages succeed. Childless second marriages fair much better. Its easy to see why. You are 38 yourself, so you are not a child and hopefully know yourself well enough to know if you are strong enough to handle what's ahead. If you have feelings of jealousy now - its not a good sign. You should resolve that now. I, for one, could never be a step mom. When a child comes into your home, you have to understand that it is much different than a child of your own that you raised for 10 years with your rules and expectations and desired behavior (even then - its dicey-LOL). Different people value different characteristics and have different disciplinary expectations. For example ... my sister in law is a finger print maniac. Don't ever ever touch the switchplate in her home when you turn on the light ... or use the wall to balance yourself going up the staircase. She is raising 7 children that know it is better to roll down the stairs than to use the wall next to the staircase to brace yourself against a fall. However, these same kids think nothing of riding their bikes over neighbors lawns, the 17 year old is allowed to go to drinking parties, etc. Definitely different priorities than in my home. Ok ... how do you take a child from one environment and have him fit well into a totally different one for 4 days a month. Its tough. I love children. I was a a Girl Scout Leader for 11 years, worked in elementary school, etc. I have dealt with some very difficult children, but ..... there were some that I was so happy to say goodbye to after being with them for 2 hours that I literally did the dance of joy!!! As much as I love children, I could never be a stepmother. What goes on in a workplace is different than coming home and having to deal with it. My home is my refuge. The only place I can control to suit me. My little world. Don't let me scare you away from this relationship, if you know in your heart that you can handle it and do whatever is in the best interest of the child (not you). That child will always be number 1 in many situations. If you think you could be a step- mom , that child could also be the greatest gift of your life in the long run. Step parenting is like a mine field from what I have read here. My sister is now going through a divorce after a very long marriage and we were laughing about her prospects of her finding a man with no baggage ... ex wives, children, ill parents living with him,addictions, incarcerations, nasty habits etc, etc !!! She knows that she could not handle children - adult or otherwise and would never attempt it. My brother has a wonderful girlfriend that chooses not to marry him until his 5 children are grown for several reasons. She is accustomed to her place being hers. (We get that way when we're a little long in the tooth). She also does not want to have her income pay for child support and other children's needs (which it would in the state in which they live). They have been together for 7 years now and when the youngest is 18 in about 5 years, they plan to marry and have a place of their own. She actually gets along very well with his children and they adore her, but she know she does not want to be a mother again, nor share her home with children. That doesn't make her bad. It means she's smart enough to know her own limitations and not get herself into a situation she doesn't want to handle. (She is so sweet I know she could handle it if she wanted to, but why add stress to your life). We had our first child after 12 years of marriage when I was on the shady side of 32 and it was a major (I am talking major) adjustment from the self absorbed life we had led as a couple to having to meet someone else's needs 24/7. Mine are in their teens now and believe it or not ... those younger years were the piece of cake. Our daughter just got her driver's license and we purchased a used car for her (12k), insurance costs 216 per month until she's 21, homecoming cost $500, senior year photos $860, and all that I give willingly because she's my angel .... the part I can't handle is the waiting for her to get home safely, the dating scene (quite a bit different than I was last out there in 1972), worrying about college acceptance, life choices, future plans, broken hearts, etc. I can see that I will be on prozac soon. Our son has completely different sets of problems (broken arm in football), doctor appointments that never end, driving to and picking up from football every single day (twice a day in the summer),miserable Spanish teacher, driver's ed, legs that grown an inch a week, a room that reeks of teenage boy smell no matter how clean it looks (what is that anywyas?). Its something you do gladly and willingly, do without financially, emotionally and logistically because they are your world. Could I do that for a child that I didn't raise - I don't think so. If you can, your rewards will be many or if you can't follow through with this relationship - it can be a living hell. Depends also on the Dad (your BF) and how willing he will be to support your needs as a Step Mom. Whatever you choose - much luck. Its not easy to make a rational choice when your heart is clouding your brain.

I just experienced the same thing, minus the bladder control issues, in May right before we left on our cruise. It was so bad I thought we'd have to cancel. Doctor took X-rays and said there was no bulging disk so I was told mine was caused by the muscles in the sciatic nerve area on my right side were tight and pressing on the nerve. Incredible pain and mobility issues. Never felt anything like it. Completely debilitating when I stood up from a sitting position. Once I was standing straight up, I was much better. Doc put me on prednisone and gave me stretching exercises. I was also told to take Senecote to regulate my bowels. Helped a lot. All pain was gone in about three weeks. And I hope it never returns! Jodi-