Get a good real estate attorney and have him/her deal with this. Your realtor is no help, and you need someone to pursue your best interests.

I'm curious as to why you didn't write a contract contingent upon the sale of your existing home? No offense intended here - but if you were buying your home from me, I'd be totally annoyed to say the least at your buyer's remorse. It just seems as if you're looking for any reason to walk from the deal. The fact that the relo company hasn't responded to the inspection report may be your saving grace. But if you're thinking that the relo company won't agree to fix everything in the inspection report, think again -- typically relo companies look at bottom line and will replace or repair a lot more than a traditional homeowner would.

Take the advice offered by xamsx and consult a real estate attorney to see what recourse you have for breach of contract on the part of the relo company for not answering your inspection report findings on a timely basis. And also a word of advise, the next time you commit to buying a property, make sure you intend to follow through with the contract. Sorry if this sounds negative, but at the moment people that walk out on contracts is my pet peeve.

Hi Cordova Mom & XAMSX,

I understand what you are saying and believe me, I do NOT want to walk, but my husband is freaking out and has me freaked out. We didn't go into this with a "we'll see what happens and pull out if we have to" ideal, we really want the house. We understand we signed a legally binding contract.

We didn't put a contingency because of two reasons: 1.) we were told by our agent and the listing agent that they would not consider a contingent offer and 2.) we did the math based on what we would both make off of our houses (after checking comps, paying commission, DOM, closing, etc.) and with those figures we figured we could suffer with 3 mortgages for a few months, knowing that our houses would sell. Also, as an extra cushion we originally asked for a 100 day settlement period, we got a 75 day. Avg. DOM in both our neighborhoods was 30, no more than 60. Our inexperience obviously shows as my house is not going to sell for anything close to what we figured or what comps support. I can't even get any calls on it!!

Fortunately, DH's house sold in less than 24 hours at full-price; unfortunately, prices in my neighborhood have dropped dramatically in a short span with a glut of new homes on the market. They are currently selling for $30k-$25K less than they did even in the Fall. I will make about $30k less than what we thought.

As I said, we are obviously very inexperienced with this whole process and our agent is a new agent w/no experience either. 3 doofuses = holy crapola!! I have been very frustrated with our agent as well...she really didn't "do" anything for DH's house and it sold on it's own which I'm definitely not complaining about; however, mine has been a disappointment. I have asked more than 1/2 dozen times to have a correctly spelled listing, a good, solid description and better pictures (w/o raindrops on the lense; daylight in the pictures instead of darkness would be nice too). I have asked them to put me on different sites, my realtor.com listing shows the picture of the closet! She is late too everything, doesn't do what she says she will and "too nice" to other agents rather than being aggressive in getting answers.

I'm just overly depressed and frustrated. I feel I have DH in one ear and my desire for the house in the other.

From your other post
Unfortunately, I did something I always vowed not to do and used a "friend" as a real estate agent. She is very, very new to the business so was hoping to help her out. In hindsight, I KNOW it was a mistake.

I spoke to her tonight and told her that her broker needs to call this lazy agent's broker and the light the fire!! My agent's broker is a big dog in this state RE market and sits on many boards, but you think she would have done something before this. Not only are we buying THIS house, we are selling 2 homes through this broker as well. So, they are getting 3 commissions from us, totalling about $30K!!

Perhaps it's time to go over her head? You said it yourself, you shouldn't have used her, she has no experience. Take her out to coffee, be honest, tell her you'r not happy and that she needs to show some teeth. Give her 2 days to do something, then go to her boss.

Gardensgirl, are you sure you are not feeling depressed and over reacting? After all, DH's house sold for full price, and you calculated that you could swing three mortgages for several months if you had to.

Where is your house? Is the local market so bad that you fear you won't be able to sell at all?

Thanks everyone. I know I must sound incredibly stupid or crazy or both. I feel that way about everything. I literally haven't been sleeping or eating.

Roselvr: Yes, she is my friend and I totally regret using her. I love her like a sister, but didn't think about all the stuff involved, esp. needing an aggressive, go-getter type personality in case things like what's happening to us happen. She also has to defer to her broker on everything, which is really annoying. I definitely will never use anything but a top-notch bulldog agent from now on. To anyone looking for a RE, let me be a lesson.....pick an experienced, go-getter..someone who knows how realtors work and isn't afraid of other agents (that's very important!). Someone who has an actual marketing plan rather than placing it on the MLS and hoping someone buys it.

Kaleber: Yes, I'm VERY depressed and may be overreacting. I think we will be okay, but then DH starts in on the whole how will we afford that, or better........how will *I* afford it since it's my mortgages. He doesn't want to have to pay for *my" mortgages, I don't blame him but that's a whole 'nother subject...........

I had zero calls on my house today as well. I had asked yesterday for them to fix the listing on realtor.com, and as of today it still isn't fixed. My agent had to send a message to her broker to do it as I guess she doesn't have the photo card or whatever. Ridiculous!

Again, thanks for letting me vent..........

Oh, our houses are in the same city, less than 1 mile apart. His is a SFH, mine is TH. The location is very, very good in the DC suburbs. I'm sure it will sell, just when is the big question.

Try to hang in there. It is very stressful. Not to steal the thread and not the same situation. It has been a bad past year with deaths in our family and I just found out my father has cancer and a bad prognosis. He is refusing chemo and giving up. We have been building a house/pool for over a year which has given us our share of ulcers. At the same time the home we were selling has been on the market for 5+ months. Dropped price 2x. Not many showings. Getting depressed. We missed the boat. Out of the blue we get a call from friends of a friend. We battled/negotiated for weeks. Realtor dropped his commission to 1.5% :-) Just sold yesterday.Still made out well. Our deadline was this coming Monday for our preapproved loan based on the sale of our home. If the house didn't sell we would have to restructure adding $$$$ to the loan temporarily and having to go through the loan process all over again. Nothing like waiting to the last minute. Wish you the best and hope it works out.

gardensgirl -- friend or not, you have to cut this agent loose, and now. Sit down with her and explain that you love her to death but because of the complicated situation you need someone who is more experienced. If it makes you feel better, take the blame upon yourself and tell her you didn't realize things would get this complicated. Then stand firm on that. I wouldn't give her a time period in which to 'fix' things -- this person is never going to be the person you need for advice and help through this. (Frankly, it doesn't sound like she's ever going to have the right kind of personality for this career).

Then, find another agent who can provide some leadership to you as to the best way to get yourself out of this situation. You need someone who knows what they are doing. Your mental and financial health is worth it.