For many years, my family did the following: - My children and I went as a family to choose our tree on the first weekend in December and brought it home and decorated it. I did lights and tinsel and then the kids hung up the ornaments. Each child hung any ornaments that had been given to them or made by them in previous years and they shared hanging the "family" ones. I also hung a couple ornaments myself that were particular favorites and had been gifts. (In the earliest years, I also "re-dispersed" the ornaments hung by the children so that there were at least a few near the top!!) - Christmas Eve was spent with extended family (usually 60+ strong) at someone's home or eventually a clubhouse we rented due to the growth of our family. We had a pot-luck dinner and exchanged gifts from names drawn earlier. Lately, with economic times being tougher, we started doing smaller token gifts like ornaments. - After the extended family Christmas Eve, we went to the Candlelight Sevice at church. - Presents were opened on Christmas morning as soon as daylight appeared ("dawn" rule was made because Mom is a procrastinator and tended to wrap until the wee hours of Christmas Eve and I needed some sleep!). I always did stockings for each child - even when the were grown and those were opened first (each item individually wrapped to draw it out a bit!!). We tried to open the gifts one at a time, but were not always successful! So Santa's gifts were always wrapped in solid red paper with white bows and the kids were allowed to "tear into" them and we slowed it down a bit when it came to the others. - After presents, Mom cooked a big breakfast and then everyone tended to drift back to their beds to catch up on missed sleep. When my parents were alive, we went to their house Christmas afternoon. My children are now grown, and there are many pulls for their time on Christmas Eve and Christmas morning. So I have changed my traditions accordingly. So for the past few years: - Any of us who can will go to the extended family celebration on Christmas Eve (some of the children have spouses or significant others with similar family events, so they are alternating years with ours). - Afterward, anyone who is available goes together to the Candlelight Church Service. - Christmas morning is left to be celebrated at each individual home if desired. When my children eventually have their own kids, they will have this time to celebrate at home with them so that Santa can come to the children's own home and they will be tucked up in their own beds. This allows the parents to come up with their own traditions, ie cookies for Santa, reading of books, etc. For now, with no grandbabies, my children can still come to our house Christmas Eve night and be there for the morning if they choose... but we are doing it differently! - We are no longer doing the dawn rush for presents as there are no small children waiting eagerly for Santa. Instead, we allow everyone to sleep alittle later and I still do the big Christmas breakfast about 9am for anyone staying here or joining us. - In years past, Christmas evening tended to be somewhat of a "let-down" with the presents already opened and all the holiday merry-making coming to an end...and I was so exhausted from getting up at dawn and wrapping till whenever that I did not do a real "Christmas Dinner". So now Christmas evening is when we have our family Christmas celebration. In late afternoon (3p-4p) we have a big Christmas dinner with the best china and all the trimmings. This time-frame allows time for anyone needing to be other places in the morning or midday for other celebrations. Anyone staying home can help decorate cookies or assist with dinner or just watch football etc! I have asked the children to dress up for our Christmas Dinner and make it a bit more formal now that they are grown and I think they actually enjoy it! I asked for "nicer clothes" but now I see even suits and party dresses... and I love it since we rarely have dressy occassions and it makes for wonderful photos!! - After dinner, we open some wine, snack on desserts and goodies, take photos, talk, and play games...just be together till about 8pm. I like to wait till dark because the tree and lights and candles are so much more beautiful. Where my focus used to be on piles of morning gifts, I now spend my energy on the food and decorations...making it a warm, loving evening with lots of old fashioned, traditional charm. Tons of candles, a fire in the fireplace, soft Christmas music, and way too many sweets (I love to bake!) - Finally, we exchange gifts. Having changed the focus of our Christmas celebration, and also the "quantity" of gifts we give, we open them one at a time with everyone watching to make each one more special. I feel it returns us to the days when people selected one or two gifts for a person and they were very special with alot of thought put into each gift and maybe even doing some special wrapping...rather than the flood of gifts I gave the kids each year. We sat down a few years ago and discussed it as a family, so no one was disappointed on Christmas(well not too much!!). It was at first an economic decision, but I think it has challenged everyone to make more of an effort to choose special gifts with real meaning for each other. - After gifts, we continue the wine and goodies and games until people need to go home (only if they skipped the wine!) or retire here for the night. - The other side of our family celebrates the first Sunday AFTER Christmas, so this allows the holiday to flow alittle smoother! I am please with the new changes we have made and hope that it allows my children (and eventually their families) to celebrate Christmas together yet not feel stressed by being pulled in so many directions at the same time! Merry Christmas!!

Made cookies last Sunday. Called my second son's live in girlfriend and we baked together! Just as I started to warm up the oven the element went out! I did have a back up down stairs as I have my old gas stove hooked up there so we had to go up and down all day but got the job done. The guys who were watching football in the family room watched the times for things to come out of the oven. Nine different kinds of bars or cookies later we are eating our hearts out and putting on the pounds! My 20 year old grandson and his girlfriend came and helped frost cutouts which I thought was nice. He heard from his dad that we were doing cookies and he likes to eat them so........! We had lots of willing eaters for the rejects. Connie

Oh wow...there is alot missing from the Death cookies, isn't there! I never noticed before and I've made this recipe countless times. I use the 12 oz bag of chocolate chips. I go big on everything! ;) Pat here is the Lemon Pistachio Cookie recipe from Mary. LEMON PISTACHIO COOKIES (Mary) 2 Cups flour 1/2 tsp. baking soda 1/4 tsp. salt 3/4 Cup butter or margarine, softened 3/4 Cup plus 3 Tbs. sugar, divided 1 Large egg 1 Tbs. lemon zest, grated 1 Tbs. lemon juice 1/3 Cup pistachio nuts, finely chopped In a large bowl, sift together flour, baking soda and salt. Set aside. Cream butter and 3/4 cup sugar until light and fluffy. Beat in egg, mixing until just combined. Add lemon zest and juice. Blend in dry ingredients, mix to thoroughly combine. Wrap dough in plastic and chill for 1 hour. Combine pistachio nuts and remaining sugar in a small bowl. Shape dough into 1-inch balls. Roll balls in pistachio-sugar mixture. Place 2 inches apart on ungreased baking sheets. Press cookies down with a small glass to flatten slightly. Bake 10 to 12 minutes until golden. Transfer to racks to cool. NOTES: I add the zest from a entire lemon. And I add about 2 T. fresh lemon juice. I worked and worked on a lemon cookie recipe and it took me about a year before it dawned on me to add cream cheese which made the cookies just perfect. I have to admit they are the best lemon cookies I've ever eaten but of course they are to my taste and puckery lemon. Lemon Cream Cheese Cookies (My recipe) 1 c. butter 1-3 oz package of Cream Cheese 1 c. sugar 1 egg 1 TBL fresh lemon juice (you can add a bit more juice I DO!) Grated lemon Peel (I grate the entire lemon) 2 1/2 c. flour 1 tsp baking powder Lemon Glaze Juice of 1 lemon Grated Lemon Peel (I grate the entire lemon) Powdered sugar Cookies: Cream butter and cream cheese. Add sugar, egg, lemon juice and rind. Add flour and baking soda and blend into cream cheese mixture. Chill dough. Use cookie press, drop and crisscross with fork or press flat or you can roll out and use a cookie cutter. Cool cookies before glazing. Glaze: Mix lemon juice and rind and add powdered sugar until you have a nice glazing consistency. You can grate more rind and sprinkle on top too. Michelle

My mother wasn't a baker - she was too impatient - but I'm the opposite. The weeks of marathon baking, candy making, caramel corn, fruit cakes (dark and light), pound cakes, party mix (and other snack-mixes), and any number of other assorted goodies I once loved doing are officially over. I honestly don't think I could afford it anymore!!! It was one time of the year we could share our bounty with others. The dining room table was filled with plate after plate, bag after bag, box after box, of goodies distributed far and wide. Now you have to worry who's gluten-free, dairy-free, nut-free, sugar-free, fat-free, cholesterol-free, low-carb, paleo, vegan, vegetarian, and cross-contamination....and it takes all the fun out of it. Years ago, this was about the only time we had these kinds of goodies, and now we are all trying to avoid them (LOL). I remember gallon and 1/2-gallon jars filled with those tiny little Peppernuts. Then there were pressed cookies, thumbprint cookies, whole wheat sugar cookies, gumdrop cookies, snickerdoodles, rosettes, Christmas mince bars, chocolate pixies, turtle cookies, shortbread, ginger creams, spritz, chocolate and almond teacakes, glazed fruit bars, peanut butter oatmeal cookies..... It was great fun to get the whole family involved in production because we always talk about those memories of all the things we made in our dinky little kitchen. How hubby's famous microwave peanut brittle took up the whole kitchen table to cool. Now all fond memories.... :-)