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Question about something borrowed (wedding tradition)

15 years ago

Does it have to be something the bride wears? I'm in my husband's cousins wedding next weekend. She doesn't have a "something borrowed" and I can't think of anything to loan her. I have 2 diamond necklaces I offered her but she's not wearing a necklace. I have earrings too but she has some already. She has a garter already too.

Any ideas on what I (or anyone else) could loan her?

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ont_gal
15 years ago
I dont think it has to be something the bride wears Steph...do you happen to have an old feminine hankie,like a lace one,she could use?

Or a special "lucky" trinket she could tuck into her bra for the day?
OklaMoni
15 years ago
My daughter had a really nice hand embroidered hanky from me. :)

Moni
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houstonmom_gw
15 years ago
Perhaps a bracelet? I also thought of a lace hankie like ont gal mentioned. This is strange but, maybe you have a beautiful shade of nail polish she could borrow for her manicure or pedicure.
stephmc72
Original Author
15 years ago
Thanks so far, for the suggestions.

She is not a hankie kind of person, at all, so while it's a lovely idea, it's not for her.

She doesn't plan on wearing a bra (doesn't need one with her dress type) so tucking something into it won't work.

Her nails will be a french manicure and she's picked a special shade of pink for her and her wedding party, so that won't work either!

More????
monica_pa Grieves
15 years ago
Another tradition is...a penny in her shoe.
Loan her the penny.
nodakgal
15 years ago
Can you borrow her a dollar bill? She could put it anywhere...in her garter, tucked way down in the bouquet?
A bracelet she could tuck in her bouquet or earrings very carefully added to the bouquet?
Borrow her one of those removable tattoos to put on her ankle!
nodakgal
15 years ago
Of course as I hit submit I thought why not borrow her a few pins for her hair? Even bobby pins!
Vickey__MN
15 years ago
Could you borrow her a hankie to wrap around her boquet?

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sjarz
15 years ago
What about an elegant little white evening bag that she could tuck a few things into?
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sandy_in_ia
15 years ago
Kalie is using a hanky that was my mothers...it has her maiden name on it. Caryn now has it, so it will be her something old and borrowed. She is having the hanky wrapped around her bouqet of flowers, then a pin that was my grandmothers and I wore on our wedding day, that will be pinned on the hanky.

Not sure where/what she is going to do about the blue...possibly the garter. I see that the new trend is to wear blue shoes for the blue! I don't think so tho! LOL Her dress will be new.
sheilajoyce_gw
15 years ago
You can get the hankey worked into the handle of the wedding bouquet.
Lindsey_CA
15 years ago
The "something blue" is traditionally a blue bow or ribbon on the bride's garter.

If you do decide to do something with the bride's bouquet, just be sure to get it out of the bouquet before the bride does the bouquet toss!!!!!

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