What to do about neighbor's dogs?
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Comments (2)Keep bugging the landlord. I know that sounds mean, but the landlord isn't going to do anything until it becomes easier for the landlord to deal with the complaints than to refer the matter to the Deity. This is assuming that you have already spoken to the neighbor and gotten nowhere. Start documenting each occurrence of noise, washing after hours, and the other problems. Weekly, present them to the landlord. Tell the landlord that "giving this to God" has not solved the problem, nor have your polite requests to have the maggoty trashcan moved, or loud music lowered early in the morning. Then start looking for a new place, because I doubt this landlord will deal with the problem. (Why landlords refuse to deal with problem tenants and allow the good ones to move out, I will never know.) Show the landlord you are serious about moving--ask what it will take to break the lease. This may be the only way to make the landlord realize that you are serious about moving away from the noise and the mess. Also, google your state laws on landlord/tenant laws and housing laws. It could be that the trashcan violates some state regulation, what with the maggots and all. Or there may be state requirements for quiet. And check with your town. There may be noise ordinances in place (in my town, you can get in trouble for excessive noise before 7 am (8 am on weekends) and after 11 pm. There may also be ordinances or bylaws regarding trash. Even if you can't get the landlord to act, sometimes an official visit from the town can stir someone into action. And I'd stop being nice to the noisy neighbor. I'd still be polite, of course, but I'd stop asking and start telling. "This is our doorway. You cannot keep your trashcan here." "We need you to stop playing your music so loudly before 8 am." Firm, but polite. With an air of expectation that of course she will do this. What's the worst that can happen? Can she play the music any louder?...See MoreWhat can I do about my downstairs neighbor with sensitive hearing
Comments (6)It is really a shame that your dog has to suffer the consequence of a nosy neighbor. Really, do they have nothing else to do in life? Our upstairs neighbors have two cats that are Manx and they are HUGE. They rip around the apt, 1400sq feet that is a straight shot! They love it. We can hear them about twice a day, tearing after each other, thudding across the whole unit but we laugh about it, you can hear their paws hitting the floor. They are helpless animals and we have better things to do. I have never heard the people above me and in fact they asked us if their cats bothered us and we said no way, we have a large dog and she barks when someone comes to the door so we all have to give and take. I would let your dog live his life. If you have an agreement with your LL that you can have a dog and as long as he isn't barking 24/7, then ignore this person and just live your life. If you start pacifying this person with each little whim they get, you most likely will never hear the end of things. If they know up front that you will not play such a petty game perhaps they will back off. Good luck...See MoreWhat to do about friend with untrained dog?
Comments (47)sue36- that sort of behaviour ("shovel nosing"...cute!!!) should be discouraged. The dog shouldn't tell you when it expects you to pet it and by doing so you're rewarding that sort of demanding behaviour. I don't think that it's an agression thing but it's definitely a dominance/demanding thing. It depends on the dog as to whether it's going to lead to problems. That said, our incredibly submissive rottie does this & I don't mind it. I do make her sit and I'll stop if she hooks a paw around my leg to bring me closer but she does lean right into you & mush herself as close as possible, putting her head underneath your hand, etc. I'm probably wrong in doing so but I allow her to do this with me, my better half, some select friends, etc. She was such an untrained mess when we got her and SO afraid of any strange person to enter the house that I always praised her when she'd let herself be petted (always on the neck) or take the initiative to go up & sniff at an offered hand. sigh...our last rottie would actually place her rump under a dangling hand & rub herself on it to encourage the owner of the hand to give her butt scratches (this is on the dog's back, right next to the tail, a spot especially loved by rotties). Horribly ill mannered but I didn't know nearly as much about training & behaviour as I do now. And I miss it terribly. She was a WONDERFUL dog and she just loved contact with people. I don't take my Amber to dog parks. The only time that she's unleashed around "strange" dogs was during agility class when she's working the course. Dog parks bother me because I may know my dog and any "issues' that she might have pretty well but I don't know yours. And as submissive as Amber is there's always the risk that if she (or any dog) feels threatened by another dog she could snap. Back to Carolyn's original post, sharon sd was very succinct in her observations. Tell your friend why you don't want the dog in the house. I guess that I had just assumed that the friend already knew that the dog's urinating indoors was a problem. As previous posters have mentioned I would have been MORTIFIED if it was my dog urinating in someone's home & never brought them back again...after first having scrubbed the carpets for them. Unfortunately Carolyn's friend doesn't seem to realize that the dog's behaviour is a problem. Berlin- Thankfully my friends don't seem to mind my inadvertant work with their dogs but it's so funny as we have a dear friend with a very dignified and well behaved but never formally trained pit bull mix. Oh she knows her basic commands but she can't really see the need to do them (he's a veteranarian & she comes to work with him each day and as a result is so horribly spoiled but for all that a lovely dog). Oh the put upon expression on her face when I tell her to sit for a treat! She knows that she's not getting it until her butt's on the ground but it's as if she keeps on hoping that I'm going to change my mind & give it to her anyway. "You can't possibly mean for me to sit...on the floor...like a DOG...can you?" Too much. Nina...See MoreNeighbor dogS peeing on my fence
Comments (37)LOL!!! i had this same problem when we lived in a townhouse. tiny yard, stupid neighbor, 2 big labs. but our problem was a *little* worse. we had a grass yard but the neighbor had his whole back yard decked. he rarely, and i mean RARELY ever cleaned up dog poop. and the dogs' pee would seep through the cracks of the deck so there was no way to clean it up. it was the worse smell you can imagine. my son was a toddler but we could not use our back yard for anything because of the horrid smell. as if that wasn't enough, this guy was gone for days at a time. one of the dogs would get on top of the dog house and jump the fence so the other dog would bark incessantly ALL DAY LONG. i finally got to the point where i walked around and opened the gate to let the other dog out. this place was out in the country, surrounded by woods, so the dogs never went far. it was a last resort because the noise was so overbearing! i finally had a belly full of the smell and ended up calling the health department who gave him several warnings. he finally sold the place and moved. we celebrated!!!...See Moretrinigemini
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