Is it me that's nutty or is it my designer?
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Does this make me sound nutty?
Comments (14)kkny, the problem with DH telling her about the request is that it keeps BM, and her stupid request... even if he said no, in LH's head. But, partst is right... she will live in LH's head anyway.. well, I disagree with 10-12 years, and would say for the remainder of the marriage... even after SS is grown. I listen to the problems others are having with adult children in their 30's and it really is never ending. I am an optimist and while it feels like I'm beating my head against a brick wall most of the time... I am stubborn & not ready to give up. I believe there has to be a way for a stepmom that has a BM like this in her life, to disengage from the BM and build a relationship with the child... in spite of the BM trying to poison the child against her. I am dealing with this right now with my SD's mom and she is eerily similar to LH's SS's BM. At this point, I am removing myself from anything to do with her. My DH is transporting SD when he gets off work. He is with SD the entire time she is here, I am not alone with her at all. In fact, I go to work or find something else to do & do not give her any reaction to what she does... and she TRIES to get me to react even more. I hold out hope that this is temporary because I could not live like this another 8-10 years and SD is 10. I want a good relationship with her and it's my hope that when she gets no reaction from playing this game her mom has set up, she will realize that she is the one losing out. There are a lot of things I do for her that neither of her parents or anyone else can or will do for her. At this point, I am backing off because they are in a bitter custody court battle and SD is stuck in the middle of trying to please everyone. When the custody issue is decided, either way it goes, SD won't be under the pressure she has now and hopefully her and I can mend our relationship and be closer. Her mom will always fight it.. I know, but I have to ignore what her mom says/does and focus on my relationship with SD. Trying to do that now, with a court hearing pending, SD is torn and having a hard time with it so it's best to back off. I have also thought of leaving because it does damage the marriage. But, like I said.. I am stubborn and that is her goal from the beginning... to see DH as unhappy as she is in life and we are truly happy together. I disagree that anyone needs to learn to live like this... the men that had a relationship with these women, needs to step up and take a stand... for themselves as much as for us. If I leave, she will do it with the next woman he's with. She doesn't want him, she just doesn't want him to be happy with anyone else. He sees it too and knows it's true. It's just easier for him to bury his head in the sand because now that he is finally standing up for himself, he is taking on her full wrath and she is an angry, bitter, selfish, pathological liar. Her first husband has paid her $1200 a month in support for 11 years and only sees their daughter a couple of times a year and I can see why he keeps his distance... we don't like dealing with either. Maybe she hopes for the same result with DH... but that won't happen....See MoreMy "Nutty Forest"
Comments (6)OK. First, I'm not going to lecture you on this but merely point out, plant communities and all the other associated life forms are nothing less than the basket that carries our lives. It's a bit more than beauty, although that attribute too is undersold in today's increasingly harsh and ugly world. There, that part's done. As to the sort of "permaculture" thing you're after, that's cool too. But you must do your homework. As Gal has stated above, you want plants that are actually adapted to your climate, soils conditions, etc. Otherwise, you're really wasting your time. So again, I'd suggest a course of study, whether on your own or whatever, to bone up on what can work in your specific area. One tidbit I can state with certainty is that mountain states like Idaho have many tightly packed climate zones with changes in elevation. You will want to pay attention to that factor. I also think the U of Idaho-Moscow's nursery program might offer some good options for you. They have a great things going there last time I checked. +oM...See MoreWhat nutty things have your pets done? Show us!
Comments (128)@aok @my3dogs He has very strong big feet but his nails are never a problem. They never get sharp. I do have them all trimmed regularly at the vet. I think I posted this before but this video shows you how goofy caique's are: http://youtu.be/_DIMJ2eENow My little rescue green cheek also likes to lay on his back and wrestle with my fingers. My rescue nanday rolls on her side next me and sucks on her toe. It is so endearing!...See MoreA "Nutty" Story
Comments (12)I guess I wasn't clear on the grafting. What I meant was to have identical genetic material in case the original tree wound up dead, as in this case. If the tree proved resistant then of course pollen is the way to go. I'm all too familiar with a "one of" that died and the genetics were lost forever. As far as stump sprouts are concerned,my friend is a professional in his field and I'm sure he can tell a stump sprout from a seedling tree. There are several large trees that I've heard of in this general area that have served as pollen donors. I would hope they were identified as seedlings rather than sprouts. Why use a tree that has been killed by the blight as a pollen donor? My friend also made the following observations, pretty much also held by his cohorts: The Dunstan hybrids are more Asian than American, have the growth habit of Asians, are just as susceptible to blight as Americans, and are pretty much worthless. The 15/16th hybrids are more likely 50/50, have the growth habit of the Asians, but are probably resistant. Scarlet oak is a reservoir for blight, it doesn't kill the trees, but causes growths at the root collar. That's a new on me. Personally my friend has nothing against genetically engineering disease resistance, so long as the only genes that are involved are those for blight resistance. He feels that if disease resistance is found, a return to the way the chestnuts were in the past would take a couple hundred years, at least....See MoreUser
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