That post from the Jolly Nguyen (jolynguyen) in Can Tho, Viet Nam brought back fond memories. I had a McNamara scholarship (all expenses paid) to the University of Viet Nam after high school and spent a little time around there. The Basa/Swai fish you buy at the market is raised in pens in the Mekong River down there, just downstream from the outhouses hanging over the river. I hope that doesn't mess up anyone's dinner plans.

Hi Deva: I'm sorry I haven't respond to this post ... I thought it's advertisement for flowers. Own-root roses are great gifts for Mother's Day, they last longer in the ground and more disease-resistant than the cheap bare-roots at store, which are grafted on Dr. Huey. Grafted roses decline and have more diseases. Roses Unlimited have a sale 1st week or 2nd week of June, half-price. Last year they sold roses for $8 per gallon own-root. See the below link as to which roses are most disease-resistant, and no spray. Here is a link that might be useful: Your most healthy and no-spray roses?

Thank you, yes this is my son. He is 3. He, his sister,my mother, and my grandmother were picking flowers that day. There is a picture of my grandmother on the same day in another post. I was really inspired that day and have several other pics that I have not posted yet. jvann

Sunny, One of the things that my husband agreed to early on in our marriage, is that if one of our kids wants/needs the step parent to do things for them (because the parent can't), then the child has to ask the step parent, not the parent. When my son wanted a co-signer on a car, I couldn't help him because I had just started my own business. I talked to my husband and he agreed to help but I felt that my son should ask him, not me. My son did ask him and got the car with my husband's help. My husband does the same with his daughter. If she wants something from me, she has to ask me. She still asks him all the time and he tells her, 'you have to ask SM'. My sons got angry a while back because they don't like when my husband has an opinion about anything. They think he should stay out of 'our life' but then I remind him that he's my husband and he is a part of 'our life' and I remind him of the things my husband contributes and that they don't mind when he does something where they benefit. They don't like it but they know it's true. What your husband should have told his daughter is that she would need to ask you to cook the food because he doesn't know how or can't do it all by himself. It really is up to the parent to expect their children (even adult ones) to respect their spouse enough to ask for themselves instead of going through the parent. It's much easier for kids to let themselves believe that their parent is doing everything for them and they don't need the step parent if all they have to do is ask the parent who then asks the step parent. Then they don't really appreciate the step parent because they can tell themself that their parent is the one doing everything for them. It's funny that my son will ask me for something and when I say, you need to ask stepdad yourself... he'll decide 'I don't really need it.' He has been giving my husband a hard time and would rather go without than ask my husband, well, that's HIS problem, not mine.