I wasn't sure if you were angry with us or what ... that's how confused I get! lol! It is so easy to come across the wrong way on the internet. I think we have all been there and done that. I often feel bad when I don't see a response to a post but it is usually something I am a total ignoramous about. I don't post anything because I figure someone with more expertise surely will. Unfortunately, as it sometimes happens, people aren't sure of the poster's request/question or no one really is an expert and they don't respond. Suddenly the post disappears. I am a very visual person. If I had seen a picture of what a keystone paver looked like, I might have understood better what you were looking for. Just think of some of us as little kids who needs pictures to understand the words! lol You did point out the importance of responding to a post regardless of whether one knows the best answer. Even if it is to point out that the request/question is unclear. Good reminder!

I had mother in law problems, big ones before she died. I also have in-law problems in general that we are able to manage only because we do not live close by, we are 4 hours away. In my experience with our mother-in-law problems, it was all about her inability to let go of her son (my husband) and or love/parent him the way she wanted, despite the fact that he was a married grown man. The only way I felt better about the situation was to put it completely on my husband because it was HIS mother. A healthy mother/child relationship wants the adult child and their marriage to be happy and peaceful, and they just want to share in their lives - the ups and downs of life. Unhealthy to me indicates a desire to control. This is not your problem, it is your husbands. I would sweetly, without anger, with all things that she brought to our home say "well thanks for thinking of us, although I don't know where we will put it, we're pretty maxed out as it is and we're donating boatloads of stuff at the moment because we're trying to downsize and make life less cluttered and stressful. But is always nice when you think of us". If she made inappropriate remarks about my house or anything else, I wouldn't hesitate to say "That is enough. You're out of line. Perhaps you should go". I would put everything else with this woman onto my husband if I were you. I would start a box in the bedroom, basement, or garage with HIS name on it. Anything she brought over that I didn't want or didn't know what to do with would go in that box. I would remind hubby from time to time that he needs to do something with "his box" because it's getting full. HE needs to be the one to confront his mom and stand up for your family. HE is the one with the long standing relationship and its HIS mom. Also, watch alot of "Everybody Loves Raymond" and remember that you are not alone in trying to understand mother's and sons, and all of their dynamics. I just don't think this is about you at all other than you took her son. This is about her need to control your marriage and force an unhealthy expression of love onto her son. Many husbands will stand back and let their wives attempt to handle their husbands and do nothing, especially if they tend to be the peacemakers in the family like my husband. Too bad I say. Make him man up and handle his mom and protect your family. That's his job, it's HIS mom. JMHO

"How do you go about finding a competent person to restore the the travertine which I love? Can I do anything myself to clean it and should it be sealed in the shower?" Karenseb: My customer contacted me through www.homeadvisor. It's free to homeowners and you can read the ratings of potential contractors. You must be a contractor customer to write a review and contractors are unable to remove a poor review and can only respond in writing. I highly recommend them. Truthfully, I got a little spanking on my review on this job. She loved the work, but the vent apparently didn't suck as much dust on the island as it did next to the stove. Even though your kitchen becomes a fab shop for a day on a job like this, I offered to reimburse her cleaning expenses. I'm going to do more protection, and charge more for it, on the next one. You can get a one pound box of MB 12, the stuff I use to make it shine, for $29.95 at DeFusco Industrial Supply as well as Tenax Proseal in a pint. Ventilate well, the MB12 is pretty stinky during application only. The Proseal not so much. This post was edited by Trebruchet on Tue, Oct 14, 14 at 14:41

I'd say you are beating yourself up a little too much... those plants don't look too bad at all! I like ziangirl's plan A (plant half outside). Make sure you harden off first. You may even want to consider keeping the peppers inside and planting out the tomatoes (especially if temps will be in the low 40s - I feel better about tomatoes at those temps than peppers). I would probably pot up the ones you are planning to keep inside and don't worry about potting up the ones you are going to put out in the garden. That will give the inside ones more soil volume to wick water and it wont shock the transplants twice within a matter of a couple weeks. The yellowing could be from a lack of feeding or it could be overwatering...either way its not something that's irreparable.