Here is how I would expect a pro to spray paint kitchen cabinets. An amateur job should follow the same path. A brush painted job would differ slightly in that you wouldn't hang the doors to paint. You'd place them on a work table or easel instead. It's time intensive work, and should take 7-14 days for a Pro to accomplish completely and cost between 8--10K depending on kitchen size and amount of detail in cabinets. Remove doors and drawer fronts. Remove hinges and hardware. Clean with Spic and Span Rinse and let dry. Scrape any loose finish. Fill any damaged spots or hardware holes that won't be reused. Sand fill smooth. Scuff sand the rest. Tack off dust. Hang in dust free paint booth with wires through hardware points to spray both sides. Or lay on a spinner, and do one side at a time. Tack off dust again. Spray with shellac based primer. Scuff sand again. Tack off dust. Spray with second coat of primer. Spray with first finish coat of a polyurethane enamel (DIY) Or conversion varnish, (Pro product) . NOT house paint. Never house paint. Spray with second coat. If glazing is to occur, that is next. Spray with clear over glaze that is compatible with base coat and glaze. Add more molding or decorative details to boxes, filling nail holes and sanding smooth. Repeat prep process with face frames and exposed cabinet sides using plastic to create a spray booth on site. If interiors are to be done, they are done before face frames and sides. Interiors are difficult, and add both time and expense to the job. Most interiors are laminate and don't accept paint well. Allow everything to fully cure. That's 7-14 days. Clean hinges and hardware and clear coat if you're keeping the old hardware. Install new (or old) hinges and hardware. Re-install doors and drawers and adjust for proper clearances. If you are receiving or doing a job without this amount of effort, then you are not getting a quality job. You are getting a poor quality job that will not last. Anyone who paints cabinets with the doors on is an amateur and a Philistine, and should be fired immediately. If they paint the hardware too, go straight to shooting them also, and saving the world from such criminal ineptness.

Probably not the answer you want...but I think your kitchen looks good the way it is, I would just wait until you re-do the whole thing. I think painting the walls may make a big difference to start. I'm not sure what 'reasonable' is for painting the cabinets, but it's usually not an inexpensive endeavor and I don't think I would spend the money to paint them if you're planning on remodeling in a few years. It may be more cost effective to just replace the counters instead of painting the cabinets.

what are the floors? some grays are warmer, some are blue toned. some are green undertone Stormy Monday is a purple undertone and rather dark. Here it is on these cabinets. I don't think it's the best pick for these countertops Storm (lower right) leans a bit more silver toned. Shown here on these cabinets. closer look. this one could be nice. make sure to use 4000K bulbs or this will turn yellow What about this one? this is Smoke Embers. I've actually painted w/this color and it's very nice. BM Iron Mountain? this is nice w/a light, natural white oak flooring Really need to know what color your floors are going to be. Floors come before paint colors and check out this link for gray colors https://www.kylieminteriors.ca/the-9-best-benjamin-moore-paint-colors-grays-including-undertones/

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