Christy, your daughter isn't going through what my son has (he has an eating disorder...yes at age 3 and has had since two weeks after birth). My son goes to bed at 10 and sleeps to 9. That's what he needs for sleep :) he also takes a nap now (he didn't sleep more than 15 mins at a time the first year and never more than an hour at a time for the next year and a half so he owes me naps until he's 40). I think swapping out the meals (snack with you, "dinner" when you were doing that snack) is a great solution. But just for grins and giggles, I'll share some of my son's lessons (we spent three months in the hospital with therapists and doctors learning to eat). First, I wouldn't try the big guns since it sounds like your daughter is healthy. If this issue is causing a dangerous weight loss (more than 10%) big guns are necessary...but again ;) It does not sound like that's the case. So for the little guns :) Those hugs and napkin drops are control issues and you need to learn to be tough about them. If she drops her napkin, do not pick it up without the help being earned. Ie "dropped napkin...complaint" then you say, I'll pick it up after you take a bite. Do not address the issue beyond that. Don't ask her to take a bite again, do not pick up the napkin, do not give her a hug, do not laugh if she trys to preform her way out of the situation, just move along and eat, and even if she's screaming like a banshee...don't touch the napkin. Yes that's hard, but it's a big deal. That alone has made a huge difference in getting our son to eat (he's chronic fail to thrive so we do use the big gun techniques as well). If she takes the bite, immediately pick up the napkin and return it to her, or give her the hug or whatever it was that she was stuck on :) And say "Good Job taking that bite" with great enthusiam, and make sure this comes from both you and your husband. She's 3...that positive attention (on the YEA ON THE BITE reaction) is going to be a big deal to her. If she drops the napkin, wants the hug, whatever, do it all over again. We do it aproximately 40 times a meal..or did. The great thing about this technique is eventually they don't need the over abundant praise after each bite. And you don't end up with the power struggle. Many of the kids in our feeding program developed their problems in the toddler years. The stubborn little poops like control, and they can learn to turn off their hunger drive (my son has no natural hunger drive at all). You've nothing to worry about if this is only a dinner time thing...but if it extends to other meals, you have to nip it in the bud big time, and really, this is a good time to start so it doesn't extend as she continues to struggle to gain control of her life. There is no answer for every solution. Every child is different, and some have bigger issues than others. Bed times vary per child, and that's ok. Eating times do as well. And eating patterns, and even eating habits. We are so thrilled if our son eats voluntarily that I could give rip what he eats...that means we don't limit his food to "healt6hy food". If he wants an M&M while we're eating dinner (he joins us at the table late as well, but he only has his chosen snacks which he mostly plays with) we're happy to see him eat the M&M. He needs the calories. Unlike most children though, while he's allowed as many M&M's as he wants, he rarely eats more than a couple. Anyhoo, I'm a professional "mom" who's spent over a million bucks on my son's eating disorder, so I just wanted to share a trick that made a big difference for us (and one we saw work with all of the other kids as well). It's hard as a parent to listen to your child scream for whatever it is they want...but it's a control issue on your side too :) They can't always win (my son is 3 now...I totally get how much they try to win LOL) Best of luck!!!

Our son was about 18 months when we did the switch. He was climbing out of his crib all the time and we were at the point where we left the sides down so he wasn't falling from the top of the rails. At first he did the same things your son is doing. Just continue to be consistent and start shortening the length of time you lay with him. Tell him you have to go the bathroom or something if he's still awake. Soon enough they start going to sleep on their own. Could he be waking for a drink or something? Or just because he's not used to the bed? We have left a sippy cup in our son's bed with him for years now. He's almost 3. This way he wakes up, finds his cup, takes a drink and goes right back to sleep. He's not getting everyone in the house up and we're not stumbling around to find his cup and fill it and all that. We all get a good nights rest this way. ~Leslie~

All of us alive now lived through unsafe practices, but that doesn't mean they are safe. Car seats, in particular, reduce the risk of death by 71% in infants under a year old. You can be the safest driver in the world and it won't matter if somebody else slams into your car and the force of physics throws your child out of your arms and into the windshield. Since the recommendation, based on studies has suggested putting babies to sleep on their back without blankets and bumpers, SIDS rates have dropped dramatically. I'm sure some of those moms in the 50s- 80s whose babies died from SIDS wish they could go back and do it the "modern" way, even if others around them laughed. Drop side cribs were outlawed after years of recalls and over 30 children dying because the side came detached at the base and suffocated or strangled infants. My oldest 2 daughters were in drop side cribs, when the recall and ban happened and the company sent me repair kits to switch the beds to fixed side. With my next two, yes, it was slightly more of a pain but I wouldn't go back to drop side. Even my mom realized the issue and she and I took a saw to her old drop side from the 90s that she had kept for keeping grandbabies and threw it in the trash so no one else would try to use it. She has given me a hard time about modern parenting safety until I reminded her that she was an early adopter of car seats, before they were required and I'm sure she got chastized by her family for it. I sure do wish they still had merry-go-rounds on the playground though!

Girl or boy or .... and any specific look that you're going for? I just did this a couple of years ago, so here's what I learned ... avoid placing the crib on a window wall if at all possible due to curtains and cords (I'll spare you the gory Google details - cords can be super dangerous as your bub gets more curious and starts pulling on EVERYTHING around - they can actually strangle/hang themselves on drapery cords - I read that it happens around once a month on average actually - scary). Invest in black out shades or curtains ASAP. Everyone is different, but our daughter slept in her Snoo in our room for six months - after that, I was really ready for her to be in her own space! Decorating above/behind the crib - we used vinyl decals we got from Etsy (that looked like a giant Tetris game - super colorful) - there are tons of options to choose from, and although they can be removed, I've found dexterity limitations for the average toddler prevent this from being a significant issue (I have a master explorer/mischief maker, and she's removed zero decals so far - fingers crossed). This allowed us to avoid hanging anything near her crib (both to avoid the aforementioned pulling issue and because we're in earthquake country). I got a felt ball mobile, so in the off-chance that it does fall into her crib, the damage is hopefully minimal. Our rocker is right beside the crib - you want it pretty close so that you can quickly transition that sleepy kid into the crib. About a year into this thing that will be crucial to your sanity. And as much as I agree with @anj_p on the rug issue (cleanliness/maintenance), you'll need something under the rocker so that it's not loud on your floors. The table and chairs are super cute, but honestly, you won't really need them for at least a year (maybe longer). As ugly as those foam playmats are, you'll get way more mileage out of something like that so that you can do tummy time and play time. One safe option for infusing something cool in the minefield of safety hazards that is a baby's room ... lighting. It looks like you only have can lights from the picture. Are you able to add a cool light fixture? Not directly above the crib - just to add a little something to the center of the room? Those closets are going to be awesome for gear, toy and clothing storage. Good luck and congratulations!