reconnecting with estranged adult 'children'
strange that you can only have 150 replies, but whatever.
i am starting this new thread to plant seeds of hope in those who feel hopeless.
my oldest daughter did not speak to me for two years - but we have a pretty good relationship now and i don't feel any animosity towards her for doing that - that is what she needed to do for her growth. it just about killed me, but "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.'
now i am more aware of boundaries - i wasn't too good at that before and more aware of what triggered her. in essence, i am a little bit more thoughtful with her and more willing to give her space - she needs a lot. and more willing to try to work things out and not try to be "the boss" (which is what i was doing before).
now, with my younger two kids -
i think they need to grow up still (even though they are in their thirties) and experience life without mom - i didn't want it that way, but i am not going to be their emotional punching bags. i am not going to be devastated by their abusive behavior.
if they don't want me in their life, i am not going to force my way in (you can tell i am still angry and that's just how it is).
i will be open to reconnecting with them - will have to see what transpires. holidays and birthdays should be interesting!
to the person who said that people don't log on here because it is too depressing - why is it so depressing? why not take control of your own happiness - if your kids don't like you, are not speaking to you, do not respect you, i understand that hurts - feel the hurt but don't allow them to have power over your happiness. that's crap!