Hello, I have 3 daughters.....33, 28, and a 17 who recently graduated from high school and still lives at home. The older two on their own, married and have children.

Much to my husband and my surprise our youngest became sexually active approx 2 years ago. He and I decided to put our daughter on birth control. She dated this boy for 2 years. The sisters never met the boyfriend, they live too far away. We never mentioned to the older 2 girls that their younger sister was sexually active or that she was on birth control.

Just before senior year started youngest daughter's boyfriend breaks up with her. She did not date the entire school year but she chose to stay on the Pill.

Days before graduation my daughter started dating a very nice guy from school. Oldest daughter comes to visit with her family and when they meet the new boyfriend who is not new to us at all, the kids have been friends since 8th grade. Youngest daughter was watching a movie on her bed with her boyfriend. My oldest daughter made a quick survey of her sister's room and then jokingly comes down with these concerns- there were bras hanging off her sister's door handle, the kids were on the bed watching a movie and she says nothing to me about it at the time but then later tell her middle sister that the boyfriend had his hand near her little sister's breast and that she saw her sister's Pills on the bed stand.

Out of "concern" the middle daughter calls me feeling maybe her little sister is being pressured by this boy. She tells me that Her older sister than found Instagram photos they did not like. So I check out the pics....no booty shots, no busty shots, no sexy shots. I see pics of her boyfriend who is saying very kind things. So I don't get what the problem is.

Then I felt I was attacked by middle daughter. She tells me that I never addressed the hard issues with her and did not give her proper guidance growing up, that she made mistakes with boys because of it and she felt her sister was heading down the same road. This actually went on for several days.

I listened, I tried to understand where she was coming from. I reminded my middle daughter of herself as a teen, told her I felt these were growing stages for girls and typical teen behavior.

She then is sending me links on how to raise a teenage girl, religious based links.

You see my middle daughter has a baby in Jan, this was an unplanned pg even though she and her husband have been married for 9 years and have another child together. She was sick the entire pg and has been dealing with depression since the baby has been born. Shortly after the baby was born she found out her husband has a porn addiction and so I was feeling that was what she meant about "making the same mistake."

I tell my daughter that there is no way that any of us could have foreseen that her husband would have a porn addiction and I realized how hard this much me and how hard this be on her self esteem but that her sister does not need to pay the price.

She tells me that I should have started helping her understand male behavior when she was 6 and 7 years old and maybe she would not have got herself into the mess she is now.

She talked to her little sister, I found out later, on the phone and asked her all kinds of personal questions which I felt she had no business asking. In this conversation middle daughter asked if little sister was sexually active and if we knew about it. She admitted and well that didn't set well either. Middle daughter tells me that half the conversation would have not happened if I would have told her that her sister was on birth control and sexually active. She also tells me that her sister told her that it was her old boyfriend's mom that had asked them and she felt that I was the one that should have been involved and asking the questions.

I let my youngest know that she did not have to answer any personal questions from anyone. I told my middle daughter that I needed for her to trust my judgement with her little sister and that I hoped one day she could accept and forgive me. Then then told my oldest daughter that these issues/concerns should have been left here and not taken to the rest of the family as to me this seemed like she was stirring the pot and creating gossip about her little sister.

Of course both older daughters claim it was concern for their sister and don't understand why I am not as concerned as they are.

So I am asking some feedback here.