IMO, its still the HUBBY who makes the final choice. Anyone, anyone even his own sister can tell him off and convince him not to pick up his kids. but in the end its his choice. No one elses. So it doesn't matter what a SM or a BM wants. Its the decision of that person. And let me bring another perspective to this arguement. You all are ticked off when a weekend is missed from an already constricted schedual eh..???? WELL WHAT HAPPENS WHEN BM MAKES PLANS ON DADS' WEEKENDS OR CONVINCES THE KIDS ITS NOT A GOOD PLACE TO GO??? Then WHAT? SHE MAKES DAD LOOK LIKE A PUTZ FOR THE LOST WEEKENDS. Its happening now with us. Damned if you do take them, and damned if youdont. Well guess what, i'm keeping a log for the last 2 years now of all the weekends lost with his kids and the reasons behind it. When on misses and why. Whether its a school activities, grandma's bday, cousins bdya party, just not up to it, wants to be with mom that weekend...ALL OF IT!. This way, when bm accuses my dh of it , i will have a record with dates and who showed up and who didn't so she doesn't try any funny business. and even the kdis have lashed out at my husband saying, oh your msising alot of weekends. He said yah, and who';s fault is that? YOURS NOT MINE! you want ot be with your friends, and go party and i call you ever week to know if you are coming...so dont play the tag game on me and try to guilt me. YOU ARE DITCHING ME. Be responsible , accept it and stop blaming others for you actions! And this is what i would say about this situation. STOP BLAMING SM'S FOR DADS DECISIONS. She has an imput but not the ultimate say. I think the mentality of blaming sm all the time comes for the same mentality that kids have the final say in these divorce situation and i cannot stress the fact even more that kids have absolutely no say and power lies between the adults. Between mom and dad. And in the end , a SM can b****ch all she wants, if dad says otherwise, its otherwise. And to add, if dad wants to skip one weekend, its also his right. He can make arrangments to picck them up another time for longer.

One day I will take pictures of all my heuchera. I did it a couple years ago and never realized I had quite as many different one. I have forgot their names but the lime green one has the most abundant flowers this year of them all. It states that if you pick off the spent flowers they will bloom several times in a season. , They must all love our rainy cooler spring as they are all thriving and multiplying just great

My father has been dead for many years and my son is biking across the country and talked to his dad last night. But the daughter had a nice spread in her fabulous new yard which looks like something from HGTV. We had snacks and she and I did a walk around her town while the boys, her dad , husband, and son watched alternately golf and the Phillies. Grandson brought his big TV out in the backyard. They had grilled chicken thighs, orzo salad which was so good and corn on the cob but the dessert was delicious and it now is my fav for celebrations. She got it on Pinterest and it was strawberry cream lasagna which was so good with just-picked strawberries. I had two servings. His gift was the Phillies game two weeks ago and she also gave him more tonight. We'll miss them. They're leaving for Iceland for two weeks.

Those seedlings are so pretty especially the color on the Indian Giver seedling! The SMA seedling is no slouch either. You will love Cameroon Nights-it is one of my fave purples. And my temp at 5:30 this morning was a wonderfully cool 61. Reveled in it!!