As for my oldest... 10yo
He is a really good advocate for his younger brothers, will step in to help them at any point in time. However, when it comes to himself, he shuts down.... to the point, that he didn't tell us that he didn't have any lunch tickets all week!!!
At his last parent-teacher conference, his teacher also made the comment that he needs to be his own promoter and speak up for himself.
While he is very chit-chatty and loves to tell you about everything else, how can I help him speak up when he needs something even as basic as food? I get it that oldest siblings can sometimes be self-sacrificing, but I think it's getting a bit out of hand with this last one...