I know this for a fact. If you are an authorized user, you are only authorized to use the card and the c/c does not report anything about you to the credit reporting agencies. Your mom is solely responsible for the card. If you became a JOINT user of the card, then you are equally liable for the charges and they report the payment history to the reporting agencies. How I know this is I am from Canada and married an American. I had no US credit history and they do not take Canadian credit history here even though I had good credit back home. At first I was an authorized user of dh's cards, thinking they would report the info to the credit bureaus. When I checked my free annual credit reports, tehre was nothing on me. No info whatsoever. It wasn't until dh made the cards joint (and me ultimately responsible for the cards too) that the info was reported to my record. I also have almost the same high fico score as dh. Basically, all his credit history transferred to me and I reaped the benefit of his high score. Authorized user = no reporting to agencies Joint user = report to agencies and the user is liable for charges.

You have my sympathies for your loss. Thinking back to when my mother passed away, and I was already a grown adult with a child of my own, but as I recall, my father, although he was battling alzheimer's and wasn't always in tune to reality, I remember that he knew this was a blow for me, and I remember him coming over a couple of days after, and just getting me out of the house. He took me to a park and a couple of other places, and him just being there was a big lift to my spirits. Just being there with your kids is the single biggest thing you can do. I am sure you will find out, just through their body language, if they are comfortable about talking about mom, or recalling old memories. For me, it also seemed that getting out of the house and doing some types of activity of hobby really helped take my mind off my greif at the time, and I believe it would for my children as well, if I were in that situation with them.

Do you have a friend of your mother, whom you can visit and recall some of the things about your mother or things from the past that might have involved her? Possibly you may hear of some of your mother's adventures (escapades?) that you weren't aware of, earlier. Something more to add to your list of memories about her. On the other hand, another older friend/substitute that you can visit who may be lonely at times and who would appreciate a visit, and with whom you can discuss some of the events from the past that will help you recall matters close to your Mom. (((((Kathy))))) (((((Jasdip))))) (((((Socks1 ... and counting))))) (((((char2))))) ... (there's the 2 that I needed) (((((Kat _ WA))))) (((((juellie1962))))) (((((SylviaTexas))))) ole joyful

Happy Mother's Day everyone. We will be having a cookout at Amber and Mike's with everyone pitching in and bringing food. We are not going to have ours until around five in the evening. I went to a Mother / Daughter banquet at our church this evening. Had a nice meal prepared by the men, I think mostly by the preacher. Had cubed steak with brown gravy, chicken tenders, mashed potatoes, green beans, cottage cheese and coleslaw. For dessert we had ice cream, sherbet and some little pastry things with fruit in them. Very tasty meal and very much enjoyed. Sue