My cousin was found dead yesterday

18 years ago

He had always been a loner of sorts, never married and lived with my aunt all his life. She passed away almost 2 years ago and he kind of disappeared until yesterday. the coroners called my cousin (his sister) to tell her they found him about 100 yards from his house near an irrigation ditch in the back yard. It appeared to them that he fell in the ditch and then crawled out and died. They seemed to suspect hypothermia. An autopsy will be done today. He was in his late 60's. He was a very quiet, but nice man. It has worried us for the last year wondering where he was. The house was in terrible condition and not lived in since my aunt died, and he was never there when anyone went to check on him. I just hope he didn't suffer. It's a mystery where's he's been and how he got along for so long.

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talley_sue_nyc
18 years ago
has he been dead for that 2 years?
petaloid
18 years ago
I'm sorry to hear about your cousin.
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Happy_Go_Lucky_Gayle
18 years ago
Goodness. That is just awful. I'm sorry to hear about it.

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kacram
18 years ago
How very sad, I'm so sorry.
nodakgal
18 years ago
Oh gosh Vikki!
I'm sorry.
gwanny2three
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18 years ago
Not sure how long he's been dead....sounds like maybe a day, a week or so. Not for 2 years though. I'll hear more tonight when I hear from his sister. she went today to make arrangements, they live about 2 hours apart, so it's a full day for her.
summer_tx
18 years ago
I'm sorry Vikki. What a very sad story. I too hope he didn't suffer. My sincere sympathies to your family.
tannatonk23_fl_z9a
18 years ago
Please accept my condolences Vikki. I hope your cousin is at peace now. It sounds like he was a lonely man.

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Jodi_SoCal
18 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin. What a sad ending to what sounds like a long solitary life.

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ritamay91710
18 years ago
gosh, that is really sad. So sorry for your whole family.
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kayjones
18 years ago
I am saddened by your loss - it's never easy, but we are thinking of you and your family with deepest sympathy.
Eliza_ann_ca
18 years ago
Such a sad story....hugs and prayers for the whole family.
gramzeeinmd
18 years ago
Vikki,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you find out where he has been for last two years
and what caused him to lose his life. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs, Deb
grammahony
18 years ago
Vikki, I lost my closest cousin last week. He was 63. I'm sorry for your loss. It's sad to think he died alone, as did my cousin.
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susan_on
18 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Linda Wayman
18 years ago
That's very sad for all of you. Please accept my condolences. I hope your family will find some answers about the past two years of his life.

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tami_ohio
18 years ago
Vikki, you and your family are in my prayers.

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FlamingO in AR
18 years ago
I am so sorry, Vikki. How sad for you.
glenda_al
18 years ago
Sad for your loss!
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18 years ago
I'm sorry to hear this.
gwanny2three
Original Author
18 years ago
Thank you all.....I still haven't heard from my cousin (his sister) yet. I can imagine it was a long hard day for her. I hope to hear something soon. It is sad that he died alone, I just hope he went quick, I hate to think he laid there for days in the freezing temps. Such a horrible way to go.
msmarion
18 years ago
Keeping your family in my thoughts. I'm so sorry. I had a cousin in a similar situation. Our family didn't learn of his death for two years.

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