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I lost my best friend today

13 years ago

We met when we were 12, were friends all through junior and senior high and went off to the same college. We doubled dated all through HS and college. She was on my first date with my husband. She was a mother of two grown girls, wife, grandmother, high school teacher and good friend. She died from advanced Parkinson's. RIP Carol. I love you.

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vannie
13 years ago
Bless your heart. Our friends are so dear and precious. I can't imagine my life w/o my BFFs. May she rest in peace.
lydia1959
13 years ago
So sorry (((Lily))).
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angela_nor_calif
13 years ago
I'm sorry to hear that.
JennaVaNowSC
13 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. Hold on to your wonderful memories.
chisue
13 years ago
My sympathy to you. Some friends are as or more dear than some family! All those shared memories, now yours alone.
juellie1962
13 years ago
I'm so sorry Lily.
gardenspice
13 years ago
Oh Lily, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that losing your closest friend is losing a part of yourself.
Peace be with you.
petra_gw
13 years ago
I am so sorry. I didn't know Parkinson's could be fatal. ((((((((lily316))))))))
Jodi_SoCal
13 years ago
I'm so sorry Lily. I have feared losing my best friend as if she was one of my own blood. I'd be lost without her.

Hope you find peace soon.
Marilyn Sue McClintock
13 years ago
Lilly I am sorry you lost such a good friend. Good friends are hard to come by. My sympathy goes out to you.

Sue
patti43
13 years ago
I'm sorry for your loss, but glad for all the happy memories you two shared.
ont_gal
13 years ago
So sorry for your loss Lily...((((Hugs))))
jannie
13 years ago
So sorry.
gadgets
13 years ago
I'm so sorry you lost your best friend. That can be as traumatic as loss of a family member.

Shirley
des_arc_ya_ya
13 years ago
Lily, as somebody who has lost two of my closest lifelong friends, I can sure understand. I wish I could tell you that it would get easier and it will, in a way. I WILL guarantee that for the rest of your life there will always be things that you want to share with Carol. I am so sorry for your loss. ((Lily))
kittywhiskers
13 years ago
So sorry for you loss. ((Lily))
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lynn_d
13 years ago
I am so sorry, Lily, losing such a big part of our life is so hard. What a good friend you are, you were lucky to have one another to share your lives with for so long. Bless your sad heart.
Toni S
13 years ago
A life long friend is very special. I'm so sorry.
bulldinkie
13 years ago
So sorry...
marry
13 years ago
(((Lily)))I'm very sorry!
Kathsgrdn
13 years ago
I'm very sorry. ((((Lily))))
socks
13 years ago
Oh Lily, that's a terrible loss. You had a wonderful relationship and enriched each other's lives. Keep the good memories close at heart. Deepest condolences.
nanatricia
13 years ago
(((Lily)))
petaloid
13 years ago
Oh, no. I'm very sorry.
hale_bopp
13 years ago
God bless you all. RIP, Carol.

Blessings,
Haley
kim_okla
13 years ago
I'm so sorry Lily.
alisande
13 years ago
I'm sorry to hear that, Lily. I know you will remain connected forever.
trixietx
13 years ago
I am so sorry!
kacram
13 years ago
I'm sorry, Lily
Lily316
Original Author
13 years ago
Thank you all for your sympathy. It wasn't a total shock, and I guess it's a blessing. If this would have happened five years ago in an accident, I would be reeling. But as sad as it is for me and all her family and friends, it's a blessing. She was a super intelligent woman who taught advanced math and physics and was healthy as a horse. . She was knocked over by her 180 pound mastiff dog almost five years ago and suffered a concussion and subdural hematoma. From that point she slowly began to deteriorate. She started using a walker, then when she called me ,her speech would be so slurred I could not understand her. The next time I saw her, she was in a wheelchair and her daughter was feeding her baby food. She has been in a nursing home for the past 18 months since she required so much care. Her mind was as sharp as ever, but she could not speak. She blinked once for yes, twice for no. She had a feeding tube since last summer. So she's at peace now. The funeral is Friday. I'm wondering if the messy weather here will postpone it.
jackie643
13 years ago
I'm so sorry Lily.
ronf_gw
13 years ago
You're in my prayrs, Lily

Ron
margad
13 years ago
So sorry to hear this, saying prayers for you

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