I would leave him a note in some unexpected place, telling him that you've always wanted one. I know it's not as good as getting one as a surprise, but it sounds like that's not likely to happen. And he doesn't have to respond to your note by buying the candy, so if he does, it should make you feel good. Plus you'll have the box!

Hey Dottie,

Send one to yourself and see what happens. Just might stir up some action and if nothing else you'll have a pretty heart shaped box. Just play dumb as if you have no idea who sent it.

What about asking one of the kids to let him in on your big secret? That way he would think that its "his" idea.

hmmm...really covet the box, or the idea of receiving it as a gift from someone?...and like you said...what would you do with the box anyway?

FYI...Russel Stover candy outlets often have all the holiday candy on sale (up to 75% off) the day or two after a holiday.
You could likely pick up one cheaply.

Sue...who could care less about the box. Just give me chocolates in anything.

I love Sees chocolates. My DH is good about buying gifts but he never buys me chocolate - let alone Sees so I bought myself a 1 lb box yesterday. The proceeds go to the local canine rescue so it was well worth the $15.

What would you do with the box? Keep little mementoes and things inside it.

When I was about seven or so, my parents gave us chocolates. We all got the same box (at that time we always got the same presents except for christmas). I still remember how I gasped and held my breath when I saw it! Red satin, with bows and ribbons and some lace, and some fake plastic and fabric roses on the front. The bottom of the box was decorated with pleated material that stuck past the edges. The inside was flocked like velvet. It was the tackiest thing ever. AND I LOVED IT!

After the chocolates were gone I kept my box and placed special things inside. Disclaimer, special things for a seven year old aren't quite what you would imagine LOL. I am sure a toad or two lived in here at some time or another. And maybe a milkweed pod, some pretty pebbles, that sort of thing LOLOL.

In fact, I still had that box when I moved out to get married. My mother laughed and laughed, and could not believe I had kept it. "They were so cheesy!". But I had loved that box! Sure as I got older I got less appreciative of things so garish and bright and frilly. The flowers faded and it got bent and smudged. But I still loved it LOL.

Eventually it was damaged in a flood and I had to throw it away. But when DD was five or so, we bought her a box of chocolates in a heart shaped box - smaller but just as ornate as the one I had. She was THRILLED. Now she is nine, and she still has the box with little keepsakes in it - a few figurines from tea boxes she got from her grandmother, some pretty pebbles, a bit of paper chewed by her hamster, and so on.

Sometimes we can't explain what our hearts desire, can we?

There are many things my husband does for me, but Valentine's Day candy in a heart-shaped box isn't one of them. The year I wanted some, I bought it for the two of us, and gave it to us for dessert.

Buy one for yourself! Share it with your husband! The boxes are fun.

I always get one for myself. DH used to say he didn't get candy for me cause I didn't need the calories. Didn't get flowers cause he'd have to get off the freeway.

So, phooey on him! I get my own. The chocolate tastes just as good.

I say buy yourself one ......and send me the candy :O)

Vikki....who has the chocolate gene :O(

Awwww, Dotmam, I second what Mary says. Go pick out the box you want and gift it to "US". My husband is the sweetest, lovingest and loyalest guy I know. He would absolutely lay his life on the line for me and would die before he would ever cheat on me. But he would not ever think of giving me that box of chocolates....he's just not made that way. And tho he might think of giving me candy he would never splurge on the pretty box....his thinking would be that I would get more candy for the same money if he buys it in a plain box. Gotta love him.

Dottie, if you haven't gone out to buy one yet... hold out. The day after they go on sale! LOL, and I bet you would not just like to have one, but would love to have one at BARGAIN prices. Go to walgreens the day after, and buy yourself the prettiest one!

Moni

I'd go buy myself one.

What's his email? He could get... oh, about 50... little hints from little birds. ;o)

Although I usually go for the day after bargain ---- today I think you should go and buy one, then wrap it up and take it to the P.O. (No return address.)

When it comes in the mail, don't open it, because you thought he might prefer to be there when it was opened. Thank him and then open it. Be sure you don;t mess up the wrapping, because he better look it over to try to figure out who your admirer is! OH, that sounds like a lot of fun right now!

Gosh, I don't think I could deny myself such a simple pleasure as that, Dottie. I'm afraid the things I want are much spendier than that! Your sweet husband doesn't realize what a treasure he has in you. Well, I'm sure he does, but he doesn't know how little it would take to please you in this regard, and unless you tell him, he never will know.

Barring that idea, you should buy yourself the prettiest box you can find, feed him a few of the candies and have a lovely evening, knowing you now have the box of your dreams.

What's his email? He could get... oh, about 50... little hints from little birds. ;o)

I always want to do this!

I vote for mentioning a couple of times to the kids, how you love those boxes, and wish someone would give you one, etc. And mention that dad would probably never think of it.

My kids would both of them tell dad right away.

I would just go out and buy one for myself. I am not very sentimental when it comes to "Hallmark holidays".

You want the box then go out and buy one, share the candy and enjoy your treasure.

If you are not too particular about which box they all go on sale the day after. Our stores have loads of them .

I got a heart shaped box of chocolates from DH the first year we were together. I was disappointed that it wasn't See's but I loved the box. I hung the box lid on the wall of our bedroom when we moved in together.
Now if I wanted a heart shaped box of chocolates, I would just buy myself one. Sometimes we set ourselves up for disappointments.

The only heart-shaped box of Valentine's candy I ever received was from my cousin. LOL He was 9; I was 12. He said he wanted to buy Valentine's candy, but didn't know who he was supposed to give it to, so he gave it to me. We ate the candy together; I kept the box; it was about five inches across.

Of all the boyfriends, lovers, and pals I've had...not to mention husbands...I've never, ever received another heart box of chocolates. Cue in the song "Poor, Poor, Pitiful Me!" LOL

Wes did give me a small decorative tin of candies one year. It was lovely, with exotic parrots painted on it. I use it to store sewing bits and pieces in my craft dresser.

So, Dotmom,

What have you decided to do? Nosy and anxious minds would like to know!

I still vote for buy it yourself, and give it to the two of you. He might just get a clue, but if he doesn't, you still have a gift.

Dotmom, definitely tell him or get the kids to do it. Those boxes are so pretty, and anyone would feel special receiving one. Sometimes DH's need a little direction

My DH isn't much for stuff like that either,and i havn't helped over the years,because i tell him i'll get it on sale after the holiday,and i do and i get some for him as well.I also tell him not to waste his money on flowers unless it's something we can plant.We are both avid gardeners,so why go spend that money at the florist when we can get better and fresher in our own yard.

He buys me the important stuff though,like today he got new tires for my car,and paid my car regisr=tration the other day as well.So for all that i can forgo the little stuff.We have each other and our health,and that's what's important.
Kathi

I hope you have a Happy Valentines Day even if you don't get anything, Dottie. I'm with the others.... go buy yourself exactly what you would like.
Lulie

Awwww--- just go buy the prettiest one you can find for yourself. Life is short -- and if DH won't do it, YOU do it! I learned that about 4 yrs. ago when my Mom, my inspiration, my mentor died. Her life was hard. And she did without those little simple, inexpensive pleasures. Well, I was in the mall with my brother & sis-law, getting him nice clothes for the funeral, and we passed the jewerlers and I saw an inexpensive diamond ring. I've never had a diamond -- married 34 yrs. at the time & could afford this ring that my DH would never think to buy for me. I wear it every day -- it reminds me of my Mom & I smile. Buy the box/chocolates and ENJOY!

I'm another one who would vote for telling your kids, but doing it in such a way as to not tell them outright to go tell their dad, but in such a way that they will think they've got a great secret that they're telling him.

Or, just go out and buy a box for yourself, either before or after the holiday, depending on how much you want to spend.

But I am totally against sending it to yourself or doing anything that would lead your husband to even remotely think that the candy was a gift to you from someone else. That's game playing, and at this stage of your marriage, especially since you say he's always been faithful and provided well for you, that's just wrong.

(((DotMOM)))...I'm with the others...go buy yourself the box...(if you need someone to help you with eating the choklit...I'm your gal!) after 53 years of marriage...he can't be all bad...he just needs a big club taken to the head now and then...(most of them do)

I would go buy it myself. You deserve it!
I wouldn't ask the kids or anyone else to tell him to buy
it. It just wouldn't have the same meaning if someone had to
tell him to buy it.
So go get yourself the biggest, prettiest heart shaped box you can find!!

Thanks for all the posts.....I'm better today, the pity party seems to be over. LOL It must be all the ads for valentines day in print and TV. I'm layed up with a bum knee right now bit hopefully it will be better by wed or thur and when I get to the grocery store, if they still have any, I'll just buy myself one. What I'll put in it....I'm sentamental and print out some special emails. I;ll puut them in there and re-read them once in a while. Thanks again gang, Dottie