Age Difference
silversword
15 years ago
Featured Answer
Sort by:Oldest
Comments (59)
gardenfrog
15 years agoathlete2010
15 years agoRelated Discussions
Son Dating Older Woman With Teen
Comments (11)Ok, I'm looking at this differently.. Sometimes mature adults do need someone to 'help them' This is not a teenager who is going to do the opposite that mom or dad tells them. At least I hope not. I have a guy friend who is in a mess with a woman and I am absolutely shocked that no one in his family "cares" enough to tell him how they feel. My friend is in his late 20's and I think he thinks what he is doing must be ok because his family never says antyhing. I think a little comment or discussion from them would works wonders. Even if he wants to act like it's not their business, I think he needs, and in the long run, would appreciate their concern and guidance. A 24 year old is mature enough in some ways.. but maybe not be so mature and worldly in many things. I find no fault into talking to your son about this. Now, there's a difference between talking/discussing and sermonizing. But if his relationship gets serious, pointing out the fact that he may possibly be responsible for the daughter if the mother's gets sick or killed, etc.. (I don't know wher the father is but I would guess at that young age that he's maynot be around at all). Explaining that children always come first and that braces trump trips, etc may not be a bad idea too. I can't imagine a 24 year old has any idea what he is getting into. I really think some guidance/education from his parents would be ok. And I think them staying totally out of it is the wrong route. If he's not mature to have a discussion with his parents about this, then he's difinately not mature enought to be a parent figure to a teenager. And, that's a huge problem for everyone involved....See MoreAm I the Wiked step mom here?
Comments (27):) There seem to be a lot of conversation going on about my age and the fact that I moved out at 16. Now by all means I was NOT advertising it was a good idea it was something I had to do : problems with my mom. And yes you can dissaprove and yes you can find it weird but I don't think this is the point here. Anyways I didn't move in and try to change everything. Tell me finedreams... you deceide to go and have a bath or a shower... and then you realise there is hair all over the bath/shower. What do you do? Obviously you tell the person who did it to clean it up. Which at first I did ask DH to go and tell to SD because I didn't think it was 'right' for me to go and ask her... but I still wanted my shower and I might be weird I don't know but I do not like to take a shower with a mess of someoneelse's hair at the bottom. And after a while waiting and nothing's happening I just gave in and cleaned it myself because I was sick of waiting for SD to get up her arse and clean it. After all I WAS waiting after that to take my shower. This is a comun example of everyday. I do not clean after themselves because I WANT but because I NEED to. If I want to cook in a pan and the pan is encrusted with food because they can't cook properly and let it burn... I still need to clean that pan because they don't listen to DH when he tells them to go clean it so I can use it... so I end up having to clean it because I NEED to use it. After a while of living here... I got tired of it. I started going to ask them (I was asking nicely) and at the start it did work. They were actually listening to me. But then they stoped and it was back to square 1. And then this is my problem. I KNOW it is DH's job to tell them... but they don't listen to him and they don't listen to me obviously. I personally think he should dicipline them as in... well if you don't do it there will be consequences (not dicipline as a slap in the wrist as everybody seem to think I'm talking about). But who am I to tell him how to raise his children. Yabber seem to have gotten what I was going on about... should I tell him he should dicipline them or should what? should I just wait and wait and wait for my shower until they decide to listen to him. You know? And these are only few examples. They are slobs yes but I'm not trying to change to house or change them... it's just I cannot live the way they live so we obviously need to meet in the middle somewhere. DH wants a clean house but has given up on them because they are slobs and because they don't listen to him. And I just feel I'm the one cleaning the mess. Anyways, as I said previously I think I will take some time away from this place... time for me to think. Again thank you all for your responses. As blaming as they sound they do help... every little bit helps. Ocarina PS finedreams I do believe sometimes they are doing it on purpose... I feel very low these times because obviously I feel like I'm a wiked evil step mom or that they think I hate them, which I don't trust me. I would just like them to make a bit more effort so we can all live in peace but I don't know... I moved in because as I said previously I thought I could maybe 'fix' it. I did clean the kitchen top to bottom and was more than HAPPY to do it. I thought I was helping everyone here. Who in hell would say no to a free cleanup of their kitchen? But I just thought they would help me keep it that way. Or at least not make it worst you know....See MoreI feel lost in my life
Comments (5)Is there any reason you can't go back to school now...the SS is in school fulltime (except summer). Why sit home in an empty house? Finish your schooling, work, get into a social setting (office, hospital, clinic) where you'll meet friends and do lunches with co-workers. Not to be mean, but Lady you worked far too long and hard to be sitting home miserable. Sign up for exercise classes if you'd like to meet people who might be walking/running buddies. Share recipes with and start feeling good about yourself. You are special, you count and you sound quite capable of being a every social good friend. Don't waste yourself staring at walls all day. You sound so very depressed. None of my business but if you are taking something for depression that can sometimes snag your sexual interest away (as can just plain a sense of low self esteem and feeling of total despair). While you've done the counseling route, have you had a good physical (blood work, checked for diabetes, blah blah)? It is possible that you are having the hard time 'loving' the SS because of the way your new marriage started out. Kinda placing the blame of your unhappiness on the child? You didn't say you dislike him or that he's a brat child or anything...that's a postive. How do the other children feel about SS and do they all get along? While you may never 'love' the child as you do your own children, I'm not so sure that is really something to feel guilty about. You're good to him, care for his needs...maybe if you get yourself up and out of the house and find some happiness and enjoyment in life you'll find the little guy is kinda likeable. You got smacked from being an active working woman with friends and comfortable surroundings to being the outcast and living in the shadow of a deceased first wife. You felt lost, alone and having serious second thoughts and on top of it all got handed an instant 'son' and told 'here, love him'. How is your anxiety levels. You mentioned several things that could point to problems there. Actually not knowing where a store is located should not be reason enough to not go...perhaps if you really wanted to go you'd figure it out fast enough. Are you using not knowing as an excuse for hiding. Again, none of my business and you certainly do not need to clarify for us, but sometimes depression meds (if you take any) do little for anxiety. It's really all up to you. You can stay and be miserable just as things are. You can explain to husband that you no longer see a need to 'babysit' a school age child (put him in daycare during the summers)and go out and meet the world again, or you can pack up and go back to where you came from and hope you can pick your old life back up again. Your posting was one of the most honest and saddest posting I've read here in quite a while, you poured it out from your heart and I'm not sure anyone here can actually advise you...only you know what you must do and only you can find the strength to do whatever that is. I wish you all the best and hope you can somehow find yourself again....See MoreWife cheated on me three times what to do now
Comments (2)Well, she has shown you over and over again who she really is. She can not be trusted to not cheat on you. I would not want to be married to someone I could not trust. Forgive one time, yes, ok. But many times she has cheated on you. You have gone to counseling and it did not work. It is time to end the marriage and move on. Do not stay together for the children. Don't make them the scapegoat for doing nothing. End your misery (and the children's too I'm sure), get a divorce and start anew. NancyLouise...See Morewifetojoeiii
15 years agopopi_gw
15 years agoathlete2010
15 years agoMeghane
15 years agobonelady
15 years agophoggie
15 years agoabejadulce_z9b
15 years agosilversword
15 years agocatlettuce
15 years agobnicebkind
15 years agodeedlesmom
15 years agosilversword
15 years agocolleenoz
15 years agodeedlesmom
15 years agojemdandy
15 years agojohnny52
15 years agostargazzer
15 years agokayakingkris
15 years agokckc6339_hotmail_com
15 years agosilversword
15 years agokayakingkris
15 years agohappy-go-lucky
15 years agoclaudiar398_aol_com
13 years agoasolo
13 years agostephgi_yahoo_com
13 years agovala55
13 years agodhhardo_hotmail_com
13 years agoasad9d6_yahoo_com
13 years agoasolo
13 years agosilversword
13 years agoromans62874_yahoo_com
13 years agoritaminka_hotmail_com
12 years agoasolo
12 years agosuzieque
12 years agoAnaCeleste16
12 years agomkroopy
12 years agosuzieque
12 years agoasolo
12 years agoobbopp
12 years agodotz_gw
12 years agoasolo
12 years agosilversword
12 years agoDramaAnime
9 years agocolleenoz
9 years agodeespoohbear
9 years agoCharley Johnson
7 years agosushipup1
7 years agocolleenoz
7 years ago
Related Stories
KITCHEN DESIGN10 Ways to Design a Kitchen for Aging in Place
Design choices that prevent stooping, reaching and falling help keep the space safe and accessible as you get older
Full StoryUNIVERSAL DESIGN12 Must-Haves for Aging in Place
Design a home that will continue to be accessible, safe and stylish as the years go by
Full StoryLIFEThank U 4 the Gr8 Gift: How to Send Thanks in the Digital Age
We click open invitations and RSVP via text, but a handwritten thank-you is sometimes still best. Here's how to tell
Full StorySHOP HOUZZShop Houzz: The Bronze Age
Go for the bronze with pieces made with this opulent metal
Full StoryCRAFTSMAN DESIGNBungalows: Domestic Design at the Dawn of the Auto Age
Craftsman details, open floor plans and detached garages make the bungalow-style home an enduring favorite
Full StoryGuest Picks: Advent Calendars for All Ages
Treats for each day until Christmas hide inside, but these charming calendars are a decorative treat for walls or tables too
Full StoryLIFEAge Is Just a Number: Houzzers’ Homes Old and New
Hear the stories behind homes ages 1 to 171, then share yours
Full StoryUNIVERSAL DESIGN11 Ways to Age-Proof Your Bathroom
Learn how to create a safe and accessible bathroom without sacrificing style
Full StoryAdd Character to Your Home With the Look of Age
Distressed finishes give furniture and other surfaces a sense of history — and lots of charm
Full Story
phoggie