Doctor says I've beaten the record
marie26
15 years ago
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Comments (24)hhireno explained it perfectly. DH is going to the appointment also, we're not sure if her husband is going...he claims he's 'not up to it'. This is his MO...he has given up on life years ago and while perfectly healthy, has become an invalid, and she's his primary caregiver. It's pretty sickening. And the reason I am going is she has asked me to go for the reasons hhireno mentioned. She has one other son, who lives out of town-this is the anti-Buddha BIL. He is essentially worthless and she makes excuses for him not being able to come help her. She is the queen of making excuses for others! Her DH has children but he's pretty much estranged from them, due to his attitude on life. They may or may not offer to help her, but I've already made it clear that I WILL NOT step in to help him...that is entirely up to his children. I'm not happy about her depending 100% on my DH because it'll be too much for him to handle. He's got a mysterious health issue going on-long story-he's gone thru virtually every test known to man and they STILL can't pinpoint the issue. That has been causing me a lot of stress, as well as him. He wants to be there for her, and will, but he can't do it all...his business is at it's busy season, he's got order he HAS to get out; he's also sick, etc. If he were her only option for help, then I'd be ok with him doing it, we'd manage, but there are others who CAN help, she just doesn't want to put them out. I guess what is getting to me is that she's already ruled out offers of help from others and is expecting DH to do it all. I will not tell him I don't like that, it's his right to do what he feels he can do for her, but I don't have to be happy about her essentially taking advantage of his being self-employed. That is also a deeper issue...everyone he knows tends to think that because he works from home he's available to drop anything and do their bidding. He's not good at setting boundaries, so he tries to serve everyone and he and I ultimately suffer the consequences. So again, her wanting him to do everything is an issue of his not setting the boundaries. I am not going to do any more than I want to do for my own well being. My role is essentially going to be the one who transcribes the pertinent information. Others can take it from there. But having been thru this with my father and her once before, keeping it all written in a note book helps with every appointment, doctor, pharmacist, etc. That's all I'm going to do, be the recorder-the rest of them can figure it out. Oh, and I'll be an advocate for my DH...if I see it's getting to be too much for him, I'll direct someone else to step in for a change....See MoreHow loyal are you to your doctor?
Comments (17)There are two kinds of people I hate to switch - doctors & hair stylists! LOL the latter because I hate to describe to a stranger how I want my hair cut, even though I'm not that fussy. I like to say 'same as always'. For doctors I think the continuity is important and that's why I have had the same guy for over 15 years. When I was a toddler I climbed up and fell out of a crib. My parents who had moved here to the USA from Ireland shortly before I was born didn't really have a family doctor at the time. They got the name of a Dr. Shore out of the phone book because his office was only a short distance away and Dad didn't drive at the time. They called the doctor and he made a house call (early '50s as you might guess) to people he never even met. Mom & Dad were so impressed our whole family went to him & his wife - also an MD - until they retired over 30 years later. Now THAT'S loyalty!...See MoreKeeping Track of Medical Records
Comments (7)I always ask for any test results to be printed and handed to me before I leave an appointment. I also have started asking for results to be emailed to me. This is working out well. I can save test results documents in a folder on my computer. I also started tracking blood test results on a spreadsheet. I find it so much easier to see how things are changing from one year to the next, when I can see them side by side in one document rather than sifting through many documents. I do have a lot of old records stuck in an old briefcase somewhere and I need to go through those and weed through them. I would never in a million years, store any of my personal information or documents on an online site, like 'Cloud', and especially medical records. I cannot understand how people cannot anticipate the problems that could arise from doing things that way. I would not shred any medical document no matter how old. Once they are gone, they are gone. Try getting a copy from the medical records department for old medical procedures or tests and find out they can't find them and you will never shred another medical document....See MorePlaying Doctor (No, not Nursery Games)
Comments (6)Thanks to you all. I neglected to say that my MD did run a blood panel and took an EKG, and I did a stress echo test -- all 'normal'. My own 'diagnosis' is stress -- delayed stress after DH had some health problems the first half of this year. Now that he's better, my body thinks it can rebel! I will ask my MD about the test for thyroid antibodies and a referal to a cardiologist. I feel obligated to follow through with the monitor he prescribed though. Seems odd to be hoping for *something* to record! LOL I've only had three tiny, 'maybe' episodes to send in over two weeks. That's not much evidence of *anything*! Over the last few years, I've had possibly ten episodes where I feel a sudden light-headedness, a sort of 'whoops' feeling, but it's gone in a flash. I recall having them while seated -- reading or driving. Six weeks ago DH and I started doing exercises using the Wii Fit Plus. I can feel my heart rate go up, but have no trouble doing these things for 30 mins. and feel fine afterwards. Thanks for listening. I'm just puzzled!...See Moremarie26
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