Dotmom, your husband is in the hospital? I'm sorry

kacram

15 years ago

When? did I miss a post? (or am I just forgetting?) I hope it's nothing

really serious and he gets to come home soon!

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glenda_al
15 years ago
dotmon, thinking about you!
kacram
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15 years ago
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My situation has many similarities to yours, and I agree with everything Silviatexas has said. My stepson was recently diagnosed with PTSD and some ODD. It's sad and we're getting him counselling, but we need to keep him in line to protect the wellbeing of the other kids, and adults, in the house. We also need to protect our marriage because it's the foundation of the family. You and your husband need to set boundaries right now, and enforce them in every single case. There must be a consequence for every rude behaviour. Communication can be quite simple - "rude comment means no cell phone for a week. Next time, it's a month". It works like a charm in our house. Therapy is essential, and you might also want to consider some extracurriculars for the boys to given them some structure and self respect. The psychologist recommended cadets for my stepson. Sleep away camp this summer was also very good for him. They will not want to do these things but, again, the adults control the computer, cellphone and TV. If your husband is a decent father, he will enforce the rules and ensure that the boys stay in line. If not, you need to reassess whether this man is a good stepparent for your children. It is not your job to be patient while chaos ensues in your house. It is your job to support your husband while he raises his children. If he isn't doing his part, then you are already on your own.
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Dotmom- could you start your own Red Hat Society?
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Absolutely nothing wrong with what you said yesterday. And it's just possible, if we all toss out a few suggestions, maybe we'll come up with something you can use to increase your enjoyment. I wondered about senior citizen transportation? Does your town or county offer free or inexpensive bus service? Around here, the senior bus has scheduled trips (one day it's a supermarket, another it's the movies, or the mall, or a different supermarket). All you have to do is call, and they pick you up at your door, and from what I've seen, the drivers are very considerate and helpful. If that doesn't pan out, check to see if some of the local churches or service clubs might offer transportation. Have you tried calling your local senior citizen center to see what they offer? Good place to get a line on senior trips, services, volunteer opportunities. Volunteering at the high school is a good idea, but don't limit yourself. Maybe a local elementary school would love to have you share your expertise by starting an afterschool theater club. How about some interest you can pursue at home? With heading to a new area, too (DH will be retiring in a year or so), I was in the position of wanting to find a way to get involved in our new community, where I really know no one. Long story, but this opportunity just sort of fell into my lap--I've landed a position as one of the food writers for the local paper. I just have to write my column, create the food, and do the photos--it's a lot of fun, and I do get to interact with other 'foodies' in the area. I'm NOT saying that specific activity would be right for you, but maybe if you get creative, you could work out something involving theater? or some other interest you enjoy? Along with the other volunteer suggestions, other have made--if there's an animal shelter in your area, they always need folks to come in and visit with the pets. Libraries always need volunteers, as do senior centers and senior living facilities. How about checking out the local organizations--service clubs like the Lions or Rotary (most are hurting for members and I bet they'd be happy to offer you a ride if you were interested in joining), The Woman's Club, churches always have groups that can use new members if you're interested. You did sound sad, as regards to your new home--I just want to see you find a niche that increases your contentment and makes you happy.
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Good morning, y'all, . Thank you for the kind words, Mike. Laura, I will definitely hit you if I ever head towards Annapolis :). And thanks to all of you for the well wishes for Dave. It means more than you know. . He's better, I think. He's starting to be hungry again, and he now eats 3 meals a day. Granted, they are much smaller meals than what he used to have, and they are almost fat free, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. We haven't had any setbacks since he left the hospital, so I must be doing something right in what I feed him. We are scheduled to go see some big wig at Hopkins that is specializing n Pancreatitis, so we'll see what he tells us. . The trees have been spending their days outside (except yesterday since temps were in the friggin 40's), but I've chickened out on the nights when I saw it go below 50 this week, so I brought them back in for the nights. As soon as it's steadily staying above 55, I'll just leave them out 24/7. I can't wait for that, either. I am so sick of that rain and constant drizzle and cold. I need some sunshine at least as much as my trees do. . I've also just finished giving them their first feed since last October when I brought them in for the winter, and their very first FP feed, since we decided to stop giving them the organic Grow More fertilizer I gave them last year. I've fumbled a little with the strenght to give them, and figured out 1/4 Tbsp for 1/2 gallon, as described in THIS POST I intend to use the "mikerno-approved method", and feed them every day about 10 minutes after their daily watering. I was uncertain of my FP per gallon proportions, so I decided to start low at 1/4 Tbsp / 1/2 gallon (1/2 gallon being the volume of my "fertilitzer pitcher"). . I haven't seen any scales appear back, but that doesn't mean squat, I still have to redo the Neem oil next week (Tuesday will be a week since my last application), and then the week after that, again. . I'm sorry I'm not contributing more to these boards, these days. It's just that by the time I'm done with all I have to do, I'm so drained and bone deep exhausted that I can't summon the energy to actually "write" anything. I do read your posts and replies, though, it's relaxing and allows me to think of something else, no matter how briefly. . I hope y'all have a great week end. God bless, . Atheen
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mamatoad
15 years ago
Dotmom, I am so sorry your husband is in the hospital. I can only imagine how tired you must be, also. I hope he is resting comfortably and will be able to be home soon. Please keep us posted.
OklaMoni
15 years ago
Kat, I am thinking the same as you. We must have missed something.

Dottie, I hope all is going well.

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dotmom
15 years ago
Thanks, KT gang, no there wasn't a post, because I really don't know what is wrong. He has COPD and is 81. Saturday he had been having trouble clearing his airway which made breathing difficult. I called the ambulance about 2:30 in the aft. noon, he and I got to the hosp abt 3:00 or so (I followed in the car) He was laying on the gurney with oxygen and seemed to be better and they were going to send him home, but about 5;30 he went to the restroom and almost passed out being off the oxygen for just a couple minutes. They decided to give him anti-biotics and steroids, by IV, and said it would take 2 hrs for them to run in, but they figured he would go home, so I went home to get his wintergear and talked to a couple neighbors about helping me get him up to the APT. We live in a second sory APT...no elevator. I use either a cane or walker, so I needed help with him. I got back to the Hosp about 7:30, he was done with the IV but they wanted to see how he was he was coping, We sat there and waited, and waited, To be fair, the ER was so busy. It was after 9:00 when I was getting panicky and told the Med people about the problem getting Al upstairs. After another hour, they decided to admit him, for at least overnight. Yesterday i went in and when a therapist tried walking him, his oxygen level dropped quite a bit, and he was still getting oxygen, so they decided to keep him another day, because they don't know exactly why. I;ll be going in this morning to see whats up. So I really don't know what to say about whats wrong. Thanks for the kind words and thoughts.
User
15 years ago
((((((((((((Dotmom and husband))))))))))))

I'm sending prayers for both of you to get through this.
cynic
15 years ago
Oh Dottie I can imagine your mind is just spinning! Thanks for the info. Try to update if you can but you have better things to do right now. Know that my thoughts are with you both and wishing the best for a speedy and smooth recovery.
susanjf_gw
15 years ago
dot.. my pal in south bend dh has been going thru the same with his copd, only now they're checking with bi-op'ed tissue, to see what he might have...he's home, but with the temps he's really afraid to get out at all...
williamsburgjane
15 years ago
Dotmom, Hope your hubby is doing lots better today. Sending special thoughts for him and you.
patti43
15 years ago
Hoped they've figured out what's wrong. Poor guy! And poor (((Dottie))). Would it be possible for you to switch to a first floor apartment? That would be a big worry of getting up and down with him.
nanny98
15 years ago
Keeping you and DH in my thoughts today,. Nanny
Georgysmom
15 years ago
You must be so worried. I hope all turns out well. Healing thoughts and prayers coming your way.
Tigerlil
15 years ago
You and DH are in my prayers also.
Patti43-I was just thinking the same thing! Make the manager install an elevator.LOL
linda_in_iowa
15 years ago
I was thinking the same thing as Patti43. Could you move to a ground floor unit?
dotmom
15 years ago
I just got home and he is doing better, breathing-wise, but he will be moved to morrow to Transitional Care for a few days to a couple weeks to get him string enough to make it up the stairs.
As for moving, we have our names in almost every APT in the area, for a first floor or one with an elevator. I have a call into our building manager, because there are two-two bedroom Apts downstairs, and the fellow in one of them lost his wife over a year ago, and I'm going to ask the manager if we can get our dibs in, if he moves. We like it here and our neighbors, so that would be super if we could just move down there.
Thanks again, for the good thoughts and prayers. I'll go back tomorrow morning to be there when the Dr comes in and be there for the move, so I'll know where to find him.
deemarie5500
15 years ago
Wishing your DH a speedy recovery and a permanent view from the first floor!
Dee
nanatricia
15 years ago
Prayers for you so sorry you are going through this .I do understand my DH has lung prob. also.
jackie643
15 years ago
Sending prayers out for your hubby and you.
sleeperblues
15 years ago
Hope he continues to heal. Sorry he is feeling so poorly. I will agree that you really need to live on the first floor. But moving is a lot of stress and strain, too.
tami_ohio
15 years ago
Adding my prayers for both of you. Good luck with getting a ground floor apt. Hope you get one soon.

Tami
Pieonear
15 years ago
Dotmom, I'll bet you are just worn out!

Thinking of you and your husband and hope he's better soon.

Dotmom, your husband is in the hospital? I'm sorry

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