Don't mind me, I'm just rambling...like I don't have anything better to do! haha Auck! I HATE bras! I'm sorry I can't offer any advice here for what you want/need. Personally I feel very uncomfortable and confined while wearing a bra. I've always heard that you must support yourself with a bra...to 'prevent' sagging, or whatever else 'they' want to tell you. Of course, one was considered a 'bad girl' way back then if you did not wear a bra. Maybe it's STILL that way today - I donno... (Oh! BTW - Have you always worn a bra? If so, did it help to prevent sagging? I'm curious if the myth holds true!) Unfortunately (?-lol), I don't have that problem of big boobies sagging...I have little boobies sagging down to my waist :~) Many years ago my Mother was in hospital for some reason & she asked me to go buy her a bra...a certain underwire "Ahh-Bra" from ~Sears~. Well, heck...I didn't know nothing. It took me a couple hours probably to find 'the exact match', but I found it, (I think?) I later went back and tried some for myself, and I started buying these for myself. They were great while they lasted. Many years later, I needed to have a breast biopsy & was told I need to have a tight or "snug" fitting bra. Well, since I had been only using bras for work and ripping them off first chance I had (which was usually in car on way home from work LOL!), I went shopping. Took HOURS to find one that 'worked'. So many choices - so much time trying them on in dressing room. The ol' 'Ahh-Bras' were at various stores by now - not just Sears... Of course like everything else, the 'new improved' were out for purchase. The old trusty not to be found. (I had lost a lot of weight within a year, thus my boobies shrunk too) What I found to be most insane...even tho the bra fit great, they started using a different THREAD stitching - like nylon or something! So, that 'plastic' thing was jabbing me in the back and everywhere...VERY uncomfortable. Well, I hate shopping for clothes. I hate trying on clothes. Haha - I am SO low maintenance! So I have a question for all: Is there REALLY evidence of any bad 'complications' of NOT wearing a bra? No 'advice', but: Why don't we all just "let 'em sag naturally"? Or, maybe it's time for suspenders? lol.

Hi Young, "One big cyst" lol! I'm just one big stretch mark! I had a follow-up ultrasound, and one cyst went away and the other one is smaller, so hopefully they're on their way out. My ovaries are persistent little boogers! It's amazing how long they're hanging on!

I've been having a lot of symptoms of peri-menopause since July. I've been doing research and my dh is a physician, so I kind of run stuff by him a lot. Anyway my symptoms started with that weird "out of sorts feeling" like I wanted to crawl out of my skin. Then I started having anxiety attacks in the most unlikely places, like the grocery store. I talked to my obgyn about it and they said "we could prescribe an anti-depressant" but I knew I wasn't depressed so I said no. (Hate the side effects). I said what about anti-anxiety medication just in case this happens at work or if I feel really out of control. She said "well, anxiety is not clinically associated with peri-menopause so you will have to ask your internist." But the weird thing is that on every menopause forum (like this one) women talk about anxiety. So at least I didn't feel crazy. I only found one clinical study that associated anxiety with hot flashes. To make a long story short, I went to my internist and asked for Xanax for anxiety. It was hard to do anyway and she wasn't eager to prescribe it so I felt like a jerk. I wanted to say "look lady, I'm not a drug addict." I just wish there was more help for us in this phase of our lives and I'm sorry for all the women on this forum who have to go through it and feel humiliated to boot. So anyway, that was about a month ago and I have taken the Xanax 3 times, at night when feeling anxious to help me sleep. It's been a great blessing. I know it's not a natural remedy, but I tried everything else and it hasn't helped much. I just think the best approach is to tell our docs that we are having anxiety attacks and not blame it on peri-menopause because they don't believe it's related.

As I lay here in bed reading this, I have a large pad on 2 sheets of paper towels folded long ways two line that pad, 2 depends pull-ups on, a disposable Chuck, a fabric Chuck and a towel underneath all of that. I along with many other women that I've read about on this thread have suffered these 'monster' periods for a very long time, well actually to the tune of 25 years. I have left my stamp (flooding Period gushing pools) at work at home, at the child Gymboree class, on Greyhound buses, on every form of Transport known to man. I have always had to have the heaviest flow pack of pads I can find along with Depends pull ups and tampons and black pants at several strategic locations during my day. One kit in my car, one at my job and always in the house. I could identify with the frustration and I was happy that some people mentioned the mental anguish and the feelings of being just out of it. Feeling isolated and unsociable. Over the last 25 years I have adapted to living with the memory loss, fog and just kind of drifted through my day on auto during these episodes. I was not financially position to be able to stay home during the illness, and on one occasion I remember coming up off the subway train and bent over on the street screaming in pain. But this was New York so everyone passed by and ignored me, indifferent to what they were seeing. At that time a taxi driver saw me and had pity on me. He insisted that he take me home. but I was adamant because I didn't want to lose my job; so I told him to take me to work. By the time I got to work they had to call an ambulance and rush me to the hospital. I was dehydrated and anemic due to the blood loss. it was the first of many occasions like that, and I would frequent the ER bleeding heavily and dizzy over the following years. 10 years ago I had three fibroids removed of which one was the size of a grapefruit. The monster periods lightened up for maybe a year or two but then it came right back with a vengeance and was like Clockwork every 3 weeks as per usual. Heavy and uncontrollable with massive clotting. I was too afraid to have the hysterectomy because of people's horror stories including my own mothers; and the fact that it apparently brings on menopause, along with all the syndromes almost immediately. My little sister had gone through menopause at age 43, so I figured I'd wait it out thinking I can't be that far behind. I am 51 years old, and to my absolute Delight had not experienced a period in the last 7 months; so I thought I was done with it all , thinking that it was all behind me, that the nightmare was over, and got rid of all my stationed 'kits.' Yes it meant I had terrible hot flashes, but those paled when measured up against those monster periods... Which brings me right back to today laying here reading all your heart wrenching stories. At this point I don't know what to do and I really don't want a hysterectomy after suffering so much with the fibroid removal. moreover I don't have the luxury or option of taking time off of work. I guess I will make the appointment with the gynecologist and see what options are out there two decades on. I'm hoping for a miracle. Again I want to thank all you ladies for being so candid and sharing your stories. It has been really helpful to me and, I'm sure, to many other women going through this nightmare. I wish you all success with your various treatment options. I will definitely come back and update you on what treatment the gynecologist recommend.