My Mom is gone 1 yr on fri.

darzie

17 years ago

How crazy 1 yr.I miss her so much!!Any thoughts on how to honor her?

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amykath
17 years ago
Darzie,

It was my mom's one year anniversary since her death last Saturday. I wore her wedding ring all day and every time I looked down I would see it and think of how wonderful she was.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I have lost both my parents and it is so hard.

Big hugs to y ou.

Amy
darzie
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17 years ago
Thank you so much.maybe I'll do the same.
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butchcassidy
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Darzie.....I lost my mother 6 1/2 years ago, and just lost my dad this past November. It gets better. You'll always miss her, but the thoughts will hopefully change to pleasant memories. It takes time. I hope that doesn't sound contrite, but I do believe that time heals all wounds. My thoughts are with you.
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The wedding ring idea is such a good one. I lost my mom almost 5 months ago and I have her rings inside my jewelry box tucked in a little velvet pouch that the funeral home put them in. Where does the time go ? Somedays its like I seen her yesterday and others it feels like 100 years. I know you must feel the same. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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