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Swapper's Stress and OCD

19 years ago

Am I the only one who goes crazy after sending out a package? Did I put this in? Did I put that in? Did I put the note in? Did I copy the address right?

Before I sent out my package, I re-opened it to make sure I put everything in. Then started to close it and opened it again to make sure the note was still in there.

Insane...I tell you...I'm going insane. LOL

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Terri_PacNW
19 years ago
Well, I stress till it gets there..And now I'm stressing because according to the Post Office it arrived yesterday, but I haven't seen anything from the receiver. Although she did post earlier today on another post.

Waaaaaaaaaaaa hhhhhhhh
Now I'm wondering who got the parcel? And if it did arrive, was anything broken???
lindainct
19 years ago
I'm usually don't stress about sending, just waiting for it to arrive, hopefully intact. Like terri the Post Office says it arrived yesterday morning but the receipient hasn't posted yet although I did say in a post the other day that they might want to wait for the letter which I forgot to include and sent the next day. Now I am stressing.
Linda
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Terri_PacNW
19 years ago
LOL Linda..I'm glad we are feeling the "pain" together.
User
19 years ago
Terri, you must have missed Pam's post to the "I Got It but Can't Post yet" thread.

* Posted by dedtired (My Page) on
Fri, Nov 3, 06 at 9:33

After I posted last night I took a second look at my box and I have to say that it is just so special and thoughtful. I can't wait to tell you about it (I'm at work now). It canme from a part of the country that I have always wanted to visit.

So, TGIF and look for my post this evening.
Terri_PacNW
19 years ago
Thank you Ann..It was hiding...
dedtired
19 years ago
So now I'm going to post ALL about it, you silly worry head.
Terri_PacNW
19 years ago
Yeah that's me....
User
19 years ago
I'm in absolute panic mode after I have sent, will it get there in one piece, will it even get there (had a parcel go AWOL in an earlier swap). When I am sending contraband (like this time) I worry like heck about customs.

My package has shown that it has been in the "destination country" for 3 days , but says nothing about moving past customs and on to delivery....oh oh!

Just hoping that the USPS doesn't regularly update the Canada Post tracking system.

so I wait, bite my nails and pray! LOL
robinkateb
19 years ago
Chase, I am sure that USPS does not regularly update the canada post tracking system as I have often heard the complaint that they do not update their own. LOL!

I am also in the worry wart camp. Once it leaves my hands the worrying begins, from will it get there to will my partner like it. As I alsways use UPS I worry once more when it is deleivered and I do not hear about it being delivered here. I am always sure my husband copied the address wrong or something and it is on the wrong person's porch.

-Robin
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19 years ago
Sharon, Once it says that it is in destination country it is my understanding it has cleared customs. So I think that you can stop worrying about that. With any luck your partner will be receiving their box today.

Ann
compumom
19 years ago
Hey all, if you're counting on the USPS to track, DON'T!
They are awful at tracking. This week's experience proved it once again. I sent a grant proposal by certified mail, return receipt right here in L.A. It never posted as signed for so I called the foundation to see if it had arrived by the deadline. Luckily my phone call proved that it had arrived, but the P.O. never updated my tracking number. The following day the post card arrived proving delivery, but it still never showed on the site.
I know some would disagree, but I like FedEx for tracking.
shaun
19 years ago
I never worry about it getting there, I just worry......

Will they like it? Is it enough? Will everyone else like it? Will it match their kitchen? Will they think it's lame? What if they already have one...........

I make myself nuts.
phyllis_philodendron
19 years ago
"Will they think it's lame..." LOL Shaun! I know what you mean!

My fear this time was "did I read the threads right that she said she liked this and this? Did I confuse her with someone else?!" LOL Then I go back to re-read the thread and can't find it, thus adding to my panic! I'm always afraid I'm sending it to the wrong person - "No, that was so and so who likes that stuff...I hate it!" LOL That would be just my luck.

I noticed this time that the tracking info for my partner's package wasn't updated until it got there. So it went from "accepted at x facility" to "delivered." Oh well, at least it got there. 2 1/2 days from New York to Nebraska is pretty darned fast, if you ask me.
annie1992
19 years ago
Heck, I've never sent a swap package that I remembered to put the note IN. LOL

I do obsess, though, when I participate. Just because I like it, will they? What if it gets broken, I'll feel so badly. What if....what if....what if.....

Annie
jimtex
19 years ago
After getting the swine flu or the equivalent, breaking things, running out of wrapping paper and getting a box that was too small I think this swap almost did me in. Let's go back to a big old box of stuff where my swapmate is bound to like something.
Gina_W
19 years ago
LOL, Jim - just throw a bunch of stuff at 'em! I stress too, but I would REALLY be stressed if I shipped a TURDUCKEN or a couple of LIVE LOBSTERS, for example!!!
User
19 years ago
James darlin' if it' from you and your Dear wife it's a treasure. Oh how lucky you are , whomever you are!
dedtired
19 years ago
Okay, my turn to stress. UPS says it was delivered to "Met Man Cust". Huh? Maybe the UPS guy met the man customer?? I hope he remembers to tell the wife, although it's hard to miss a red box that says Office Depot on it. It was a recycled copy paper box.

I hope it wasn't smashed flat. Ugh. Also, the way I packaged it, the recipient it going to end up with a lot of shred on her floor, so I hope they aren't upset.

Okay, now I begin the vigil to watch for her post.

Pam
mustangs81
19 years ago
Oh yeah, I stress! I have this thing about packing, that's why I could never be an eBay seller. Then there's that competitive thing that I have. With this swap, I am throwing in the towel. I will do the best that I can for my partner and hope that he/she appreciates it.

When we did a swap on the Home Organizing Forum, it was a piece of cake. We just sent junk from our home or garage to each other.

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