I hear someone's lookin' for me? :)
I just tried to post a long update and lost it.
Thanks for checking in on me. As usual, I haven't been able to get here anywhere near the rate I would like to. We've been super busy.
Brian is trying to recouperate from bronchitis which turned into pneumonia. It kicked his butt for a couple of weeks, but just this weekend, he seems to be doing a little better. It's killed the running season, but oh well. Worse things can happen. He had a mini-breakdown a few weeks ago. Everything just got to him at once and he came into my room crying. He said he wanted to talk to dad. I asked if I could help and he said he just missed his dad and wanted to talk to him. I can relate. So I called the school psychiatrist the next day and they met with him (he doesn't know I did it, although he probably suspects). It seems to be helping but he has to understand he's not Superman and can't do it all. He's a 16 year old boy, not his dad.
Connor...man, this kid is one in a million. Brian is very smart and excels at everything, but Connor just has it all together in a different way. I come home late and dinner is on the table. He mows the lawn when it needs it, helps his sister with homework and puts her to bed if I'm working on something else. He's keeping the house running alot better than his mom can do!
Mackenzie still talks about Bob all the time and that makes me so happy. She tells me if I'm not cutting her pancake the way daddy did or folding her clothes the way he did. She misses him but talking about him makes her happy, not sad.
The older boys are doing well. Patrick has a new girlfriend. Brendan is working full time and his girlfriend just moved in with him. I think a ring is in their near future.
They still check in on us all the time and take time to see the kids' games and other events. I was blessed in the step-sons department.
I've had some medical issues to deal with. Severe headaches in the back of my head, ringing in my ears, and some minor dizziness. Had an MRI to rule out all kinds of scary things, but it's probably just stress. Doctor thinks it's Menieres Disease (anybody know anything about it?) I did have some major dental work done and my bite has changed, so it might be something related to that.
I got a note in the mail about a support group for young widows. I went and was the youngest person by about 15 years. I was a little frustrated with that at first but after leaving realized it was very helpful. I went to another one and will go to a third next week. I start individual counseling next week. I'm not sure there's anything she can help me with, except listen to me cry for an hour. You guys do that and you're free. :)
I think grief just needs to run its course, so to speak. But it can't hurt. I'm sure an hour or so out of the house will be good for everybody, so we'll see.
Ten months, can you believe it? I think "celebrating" the anniversary will be tough. There will be the whole Christmas thing again (what do I do with his stocking? Remember that?) and general traditions, starting new ones.
Sometimes I laugh and feel so guilty that I do. I worry Bob will think I've forgotten him. I've learned that's called survivor's guilt.
So, we're plugging away, doing what we do to get through the day. Every day I say the phrase, "I still can't believe it."
I've aged a ton. I look like sh!t. LOL I don't do much for myself, but I don't care to. All my time is taken up with the kids and I'm fine with that. They are my life, and other than having Bob back, I wouldn't want my life any other way.
So, that's an update on me. I'm going to go check out what all of you have been up to.
Thank you for the post checking in on me, and Jessy, thank you for calling my attention to it.
Love you all!
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dlynn2
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