I'm going to take my time and try to follow the instructions mentioned by Bee-4-Me. The problem started with Facebook - I was trying to get to read my nephew's review of All Creatures Great and Small - clicked and the Parental Control page came up - on the bottom of the page it said override - which I pressed and then they asked for my password which I don't know. Of all things to block - one of the sweetest books. As merntioned no kids - use computer only for e-mailing and googling - not technical at all. Thanks again.

Circumventing parental controls is not rocket surgery to kids today. If your child, and I assume it's your child you're concerned about, wants to bypass a blocker they'll find a way...and there are several. They either have the know-how or they'll have a friend who knows how. They can also Google for instructions. I don't want to lick the red off your apple but no blocker is geared to "set it and forget it". Put your computer in a high traffic area of the house and try education and trust..with well defined consequences if that trust is broken.

Martinca, so totally true! My kids do not have unlimited access to the internet at home. No computers in their rooms, Mac is in the living room in plain view and laptop never leaves the family room or kitchen. My oldest, 13 y/o dd, got an iTouch for Christmas in 6th grade. The internet is turned off so she can't access it unless I put my password in (she never asks, if she wants to go online, she uses the Mac or laptop) and the iTunes account is password protected with my password as we all share the same account for songs, etc. If she wants to download an app, I have to put my password in. She is a good kid and I don't really worry yet about what she might try to get into but as she gets older, there is definitely more that needs monitoring but it's harder to do. Several of her friends have iPhones, so there is nothing I can do about it even when they are in my own home, unless I were to collect phones. Thankfully, her group of friends, while I'm sure not completely innocent, are not into boys yet beyond pining for One Direction, even though there are girls her age that are already "dating" and doing things with boys. But yes, it scares me a little knowing I can't control what happens beyond my own home. Last year, there was a scandal when some 8th grade girls, while at a sleepover, took pictures of themselves in their underwear and then texted the pictures to some boys, who then sent the pictures out to a wide group of kids at various private schools in the area. When I heard who some of the girls were it didn't surprise me as the parents in that "clique" are known for lack of supervision (not that even I could have prevented such a stupid thing w/o confiscating phones every time my dd has friends over, but these girls are known for being able to do all kinds of things I wouldn't allow my dd to do). Sorry, didn't mean to go off topic!

Hey! ... So your situation sounds like my life 100%. Im not sure how you can find my posts but one of them is POWER STRUGGLE WITH STEP-DAUGHTER. I have the same situation minus the parents. I am lucky enough that the parents respect me and realise the BM is a sad excuse for a parent. Before I say anything I just wanted to say that it may be a really bad sign that his parents are acting the way they are... because bascially they are telling you by not allowing you over that they do not respect you, your opinions, your relationship with your bf... and I am assuming you have said or did something or voiced opinions and they disagree... What I did after I joined this forum, with the help of the posters on here is I literally removed myself from the situation... The child is 7 just like you, and she runs the show just likes yours. Now basically what I did with my fiance is sit down and say listen, I had divorced parents and my dad was strict and my mom was a push over... I explained to him that for his daughter's sake he needed to teach her discipline and give her rules and guidelines. In the beginning he thought I was a complete jerk so I stayed quiet.. Then things started unfolding on their own. She acted out at a fam BBQ and made him look like a fool, she almost drowned at a cottage we rented because he cant get control of her, she physcially hurt my god daugher (who is 3 btw), she ruined a weekend trip away because she started crying again in the middle of a show because the attn wasnt all on her, and his own MOTHER will not take her anywhere anymore because she is out of control and drove her absolutely insane on a weekend trip... these are just some of the things and this was what i can remember all in a 1-2 month span...And we have her every OTHER weekend. Bascially then, he came to me and said listen I really dono what to do. I am so lost. And my response was well I'm not an expert but I can see what you can't because I am not the parent and she is SCREAMING for some guidelines and rules. I told him straight up if you do not get her under control and respecting you then when she is a teen I feel extremely sorry for you and her. As you said she adores me too. But I have had some things happen to my in the last little while as well.. One of my posts was about a day that she was being bullied at daycare so I kept her at home that day before she went back to BM and she did not listen to a single word that came out of my mouth the entire day. She has ZERO respect for elders, and MINUS respect for her father and in turn me. So now the rule is I do not take her anywhere without him. And he is giving the discipline... I like you, am trying to help him and her... but as the posters on here will never fail to remind you,.... your not the mom, you have no say. When this child's BM doesnt care for her in appropriate ways, I can't do anything about it. So now I just let him handle everything. When his BM freaks out and calls and acts like a 2 yr old. I just leave the room and let it go on. Because as much as you want to lose your mind on him, her whatever just remember NONE of this is your problem. Enjoy him, and YOUR relationship. And enjoy the little one when shes around, help her with her homework, cook together do fun stuff. But if he doesn't discipline her and she drives you nuts... guess what, shes NOT yours so you have the choice that you can leave. It really doesn't sound like the situation will change if he doesn't think there is a problem. And him constantly tellin you she is # 1 is telling you that whatever YOU have to say means F*%& all and you may as well give up saying anything. He is not listening. He is listening however to what his parents say (who seem to be quacks) by the way. I would suggest taking some time and thinking about the situation. Forget about the daughter for a moment and his family and really think about what exactly it is that you two have together... Is there even anything there? do you even do anything together or have fun or is it all based on HIS parents HIS kid and HIS problems with HIS BM. Just remember at the end of the day if he doesnt respect your opinions that what exactly do you have together? The best of luck, Dont forget to update us here lol I always wonder whats happening in the poster's lives after they post and get responses haha!