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Comments (25)Yes, building is stressful, but it's not as though remodeling is a lavender scented hot rock massage... The stress of building can be greatly reduced if you-- 1-have the right plan, with EVERY detail spelled out in black and white. 2-have the right builder: honest, trustworthy, who won't try to hose you by cutting corners [ie, deviating from the plan]. 3-refuse to worry about confronting the builder when he does deviate: remember, he's signed the contract. Reminding him of the details therein is an act of kindness, not aggression. Be polite, clear, and firm. Any change from the plan must be negotiated between the parties to their mutual satisfaction. 4-keep your expectations realistic. Nothing is ever perfect, and if we expect it to be, we're just setting ourselves up for dissappointment. Don't make the perfect the enemy of the good. 5-keep things in perspective, don't allow yourself to dwell on petty details, remember how lucky you are to be creating this place called home. If you spend anytime in the kitchen forum, you'll meet otherwise sane people who are in actual pain trying to choose between two brands of identical white subway tiles, or two minutely different shades of beige paint, as though paint is more permanent than plastic surgery: a HUGE portion of building stress is self inflicted. Mind, I'm not claiming to have mastered the art of the stress free build-- quite the contrary. If only I could find someone to tattoo the 'Serenity Prayer' to the inside of my eyelids, I'd make some real progress......See MoreGeothermal Groundloop - Where did you put yours?
Comments (9)Ha! Think I've seen that picture before, but it still makes me laugh!! Some people just have a fountain in their front yard and a couple flower pots on the porch! ha! What a great visual..... HHmmmmm.....Thanks for the input about the vertical loop. It appears that most all of the discussions that I've read on here have discussed vertical loops - not horizontal. This was not an option that was presented to us. Will pick up the phone and ask more questions in the morning. So that I can go in "armed and educated," can any of you tell me .....would we need the same amount of linear feet if we went vertical, or is that figured using different calculations?? Well depths in the area are only about 275 feet. So, would we be talking about drilling several shallower holes?? And what about the cost of drilling vertical versus the cost of trenching horizontal?? Anything else that I should be aware of before I start stirring the pot?? Again, thanks for your shared wisdom!...See MoreDid Anyone Help You Buy Your House?
Comments (34)I think there is a misconception about gifting in most of the preceding posts. The $12K amount is not a limit. It's simply the threshhold at which the donor has to file a gift tax return. And that's just so the IRS can keep track. Unless it's a really huge amount of money, it doesn't trigger any taxes. This is an exact quote from the IRS web site: "Generally, you do not need to file a gift tax return unless you give someone, other than your spouse, money or property worth more than the annual exclusion ($11,000 in 2002, 2003, 2004 and 2005; $12,000 beginning in 2006) for that year. Although a return may be required, no actual gift tax will become payable until the cumulative lifetime taxable gifts exceed the applicable exclusion amount. The donor is primarily responsible for the payment of the Gift Tax." So, unless someone is going to be getting more than a million bucks or so, taxes are not an immediate issue. The only time the $12K amount is a consideration is when someone expects to have an estate of millions of dollars and wants to legally whittle down their assets each year by giving as many $12K gifts as they can (since none of these "small" gifts are taken into account by the IRS upon the death of the donor). As only 1-2% of estates have enough in them to trigger estate taxes, most of us don't have to worry about this. Having said that, I think it's always a bad idea to be beholden to anyone for the roof over your head. Large gifts of money can produce strains, and affect even the best of relationships in unpredictable ways. When I was about 25, I wanted to buy a house and didn't have enough for a downpayment. I asked my father for a loan, and he wouldn't do it. I was angry for a while, but, when I got over it, I realized it was a really good thing, and I appreciated his decision more and more as I got older. For one thing, it reinforced to me that there is merit in living within one's means, and that has kept me solvent and out of the clutches of credit card companies my whole life. I was also glad that, when I later had occasional differences of opinion with him on other matters, I could do what I felt was right for me without being obligated to him because of a loan or a gift....See MoreDid you build a house with your pet(s) in mind?
Comments (31)What Is the Ideal House Temperature for Dogs and Cats? https://www.minisplitairconditioningsystem.org/ You love pampering your pet with gourmet treats, designer toys, and automatic pet doors. But are you confident your dog or cat is happy with the thermostat setting? The best temperature for your pet depends on various factors including breed, health conditions, and other circumstances. Consider the factors that affect your pet’s ideal temperature and how to choose the perfect thermostat setting to balance comfort and energy efficiency. Factors that Affect the Ideal Temperature for Pets There isn’t one perfect temperature setting to accommodate the needs of all pets in every season. Consider the following factors to help you determine whether your pet prefers a warm or cool home: Coat type: Dogs and cats with thick, long coats tend to be more cold-tolerant. In fact, they often overheat faster than humans. On the other hand, pets with thin, short fur (and hairless varieties) aren’t able to retain body heat as well and therefore prefer warmer temperatures. Size: Smaller pets have a higher surface-area-to-volume ratio. This means they have more skin through which to lose body heat relative to their size than larger animals. That’s why small dogs tend to get cold faster than large breeds. Weight: Body fat is also a contributing factor. Overweight pets have a thicker insulating layer to protect against the cold. However, the health risks associated with obesity greatly outweigh the added warmth in the winter, so strive to keep your pet lean and fit. Age and health: Young puppies and kittens, as well as elderly pets, tend to require warmer house temperatures. Animals with acute infections or chronic joint conditions benefit from higher temperatures and heated sleeping areas as well. Choosing the Best Temperature for Pets With the above information, you can set the house temperature to the ideal setting for you and your pet. Here are our recommendations: Summer Temperature In general, you should set the thermostat between 75 and 78 degrees F when you’re at home in the summer. If you have a large, long-haired dog, such as a Husky or Samoyed, around 75 degrees may be best. If you have an elderly short-haired cat, 78 degrees could be preferable. When you’re gone at work all day or on vacation, don’t set the temperature any higher than 80 to 82 degrees. To ensure your pet stays comfortable, provide fresh water and an area to cool off, such as the basement or a room with tiled flooring. Winter Temperature Plan to set the thermostat between 69 and 72 degrees when you’re at home in the winter. Large, animals with thick coats tend to prefer temperatures on the lower end of this spectrum, while you may want to set the thermostat higher for your hairless cat or new puppy. When you’re away, set the thermostat no lower than 60 degrees. Keep the temperature a little higher for small, young, or sick animals. Always provide your pet with a soft, warm bed, and open the curtains so the sun shines in, giving the animal a place a sunbathe....See Morekats
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