Im sorry I got back to everyone so late. I was sick through the weekend. Thank you all for the responses. So hereÂs how the meeting went. I thought it was just going to be me meeting with the teacher, more of a planning session. But then she took me over to talk with the principal right away. I wasnÂt really prepared for it and neither was the teacher, so when the principal asked for specific points, we both were much too vague. The bottom line was that the principal said that unless there is a specific diagnosis, we canÂt actually have a 504 in place, as merrygardener said. She did also offer that at their elementary school, it might not be necessary to have one anyway. It is a math/science magnet and so many kids are so bright, but have wildly different strengths and weaknesses and they seem to accommodate them as a normal course of events. Also, if he tests as gifted, he will be eligible for alternative classes, work, etc. The principal then offered that a number of students in the school go forward with pursuing 504 plans for middle school because the environment there is much different. Sweeby, DH and I did have a really long meeting with the psychologist after all the testing was done. And we have all the detailed test results, but I really got the feeling that she was trying to only build a case for ADHD, and really ignored, or only casually mentioned other possibilities. For example, one of the minor suggestions at the end was that DS be examined for possibly needing vision therapy. He was not reading well and had lots of dyslexic tendencies. Well, he had really bad focusing/teeming/tracking problems, and after 6 months of work, he went from being below grade level in reading to now testing highest in the class, well over 6th grade level. So now, IÂm taking more time with each section in the report and trying to gleam any more clues. The "write it or learn it but not both" is really spot on with him. Repetitive work is worse than useless. Once he "gets it" if he has to drill over and over, he makes more and more mistakes. Also, as was consistent with the testing, his response time is slow (both visual and auditory), but heÂs highly accurate. He just doesnÂt seem to need to go fast on anything. And the more you tell him hurry, the more flustered he gets and the less that he can do, but yet, put a timer on sometimes, and play beat the clock and he can fly through any task for short bursts of time. Holly, I will request next yearÂs teacher based on the current teacherÂs recommendation. I really respect her judgment. But I wonÂt have any final say in the matter, or will she. Good idea on the "notes to the new teacher." This year, his teacher specifically requested them and I really appreciated it. Somehow I think that and regular contact with the teacher is more important than a diagnosis at this time. So after this really long response, I guess my next really long series of questions are Should I have him retested by a psychologist? After the first testing, the therapist was almost trying scare tactics, telling us that if we donÂt pursue ADHD treatment, heÂs going to end up with awful self-esteem and will be a drug addict. I definitely wonÂt go back to her as there were other issues (i.e., she calculated all the results on his age when he took the last test (age 6-1/2), but he took most of the tests just before age 6.) Is it reasonable for me to take these results to another specialist to help interpret and perhaps retake portions that seem inconsistent with other observations? I strongly put him in the Gifted/Visual-Spatial/with Learning Disabilities category so what? What do I do with this information? Everything I read says this category doesnÂt typically do well in regular school Ok, I know that, and he's now in about the best environment I could find for him. Is that enough? The point is, thereÂs a lot we know about DS intuitively. Is it enough to keep things informal and undiagnosed as long as heÂs a well-adjusted child and doing reasonably well in school, or is it a problem waiting to happen down the road in junior high? I appreciate everyoneÂs insights as you travel your own paths and I continue to learn from all the responses on the other threads as well. TIA.

Thanks friends - And yes, Doodle, my mother just passed away. Whatever wisdom I may have picked up over the years, I learned it from her. Patience, understanding and discernment were some of her many strengths. Also an irreverent sense of humor which had us all laughing up to the very end. She left us with many happy memories and a fine example to follow.

hollylh. That Fired Earth shop is amazing. I could spend months in there. :) Thanks Kat. Now your kitchen-- that is one lovely kitchen! mercurygirl, by all means. I will do my best. My counters will be dark (we had a bit of a disaster with the counters, but are in the middle of having that fixed). mandylee, those numbered plates are from Asya Palatova (she is one of my favorite ceramic artists) her site is www.gleena.com and her etsy shop is called gleenashop

I'm wondering the same and felt bad about highjacking the other thread too. Is there a link that might show a floor plan for TS Diver's kitchen? I love it and would appreciate any info since it looks similar to what I would like to do. Thanks so much.