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Comments (17)HOME HEALTH CARE - this is a service that can also be provided by a home health care agency AND PAID FOR BY MEDICARE....Mom had that for several years, however, it is very limited in what they provide. When she had that level (home health care paid for by Medicare) she was still able to get around with a Scooter, feed herself, use the toilet; as her abilities declined and after a ten day hospitalization with massive bladder, kidney and lung infections, her urologist stated that we needed to consider Hospice care. I contacted the agency we use (Heartland) to ask what the requirements were....did it mean six months to live? They told me NO, you needed to have an incurable condition - they told me they had folks who had been clients for more than five years. I am in Texas - you may find it different in your state, but Medicare did pay for home health services for several years prior to hospice; the rules may have changed on home health care since she has gone to hospice. If you have a loved one needing more care than the family can provide, your best bet is to simply call one of the agencies in your area that provide HOME HEALTH CARE and HOSPICE CARE. Ask them what qualifications you need to be accepted. Once you know if you qualify for either one, then ask them what the regulations are regarding care....that is your best bet. Carolyn who is now dealing with a 95 year old father who is feeling guilty over putting wife of 71 years in a nursing hom; Mom aged 91 who cannot do ANYTHING for herself, and who has some dementia and DH age 58 who is fighting esophageal cancer. Does anyone have the timetable for when I am allowed to have my nervous breakdown?...See MoreNeed care-giving advise
Comments (15)I was wondering if he wanted sex also, wonder if mom would tell you. Thing is she may not want it & if he forces her it is basically rape. She might want it but doesn't enjoy it because her body is dried & needs lubricating to do it. If that is off the table then does she want to get back in the car or is he forcing her. This may require you going & spying on the house to see if you can find out what is going on. If there is yelling or a fight to get her back in car then you need to record it to show a lawyer. Might be as simple as just wanting to stay in her own home or something else. I take it she has dementia, or wears diapers, something dad doesn't want to have to deal with. Not fair to you tho for him to do this. Is she cooking for him? Need to find out what is going on at his house....See MoreHow to give new Tall Fescue sod the best care - Help!
Comments (17)That's getting a bit low for any real nitrogen uptake. It would do no harm to apply a "wineterizer" type fertilizer. Uncoated, fast release, a high percentage of WSN-water soluable nitrogen, but likely not much benefit. You have been given good advice on lime. You want calcitic lime not dolomitic. If you get pulverized or crushed, you want the highest mesh number you can get and as close to 100 calcium carbonate equivalent as you can find. If pulverized, you will want to use a drop spreader rather than a broadcast spreader. Some unsolicited advice: You do want to get the pH up into the 6s, but 5.9 isn't a major problem by any means. Your potassium on the otherhand is quite low. I'd give potassium priority this fall. It plays a major roll in root health and growth and putting it down now will give it time to move down into the soil and for the salts to wash out before next spring. Potassium and lime should not be applied at the same time. There should be 3-4 weeks between adding them if you decide to do both. You want to find 0-0-50- potassium sulfate SOP. Avoid muriate of potash 0-0-60....See MoreCare to give layout feedback?
Comments (10)Thanks all! You have given me a lot to think about, and I will consider your ideas! A few answers: Would you be able to extend the kitchen wall into the existing dining room area instead? Yes, I considered completely moving the kitchen to where the DR is. Two things hold me back: 1) The hall to the bedrooms; it's already kind of a weave around the LR wall into DR then cut back right and up that hall. By shortening the middle wall (between kitchen and LR), we can line up the walk way past the DR and to the BR hall. Can't eliminate it altogether because it's a load bearing wall. 2) When I have big family dinners, it's nice to expand the DR table and set up extra tables in the LR, right near the main table. Can you move the new mudroom towards the exist. foyer to have a straight wall on the kitchen side? I would love that. Tricky, as that's a load bearing wall and we're already planning some kind of big beam work in the attic just to open up the wall a few feet more and move the header between LR and DR up to the attic. I'll see if the builder faints at this suggestion. When you stand at the front entrance, is the sight line directly back to the powder room door? Yes, in the original flow the sight line was past the closets, then a peninsula, to the PR door. Do you need three main-level toilets? No, and there's even a full bathroom in the lower level. But I can't close off that little vestibule, even if I moved the back door, because the stairs down to the lower level are there. Is some part of this home an addition? No; the whole thing is circa 1985 when it was built. As built drawing below, from the listing. Sorry so squishy....See Morecarrie630
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