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Comments (7)I think so much of the confusion comes from people all over the world (really) growing their version of a species, tiny, huge, pencil trunk, monster trunk, great soil, lousy mix, natural humidity vs top-of-the-tv in front of the rad, plus very different bkgrnds in bonsai (diff. teachers, books, the guy down the street), and some trees are in-ground for fast growth in California, others crummy mallsai in a 4th fl. Manhattan apt. and no 'outside' at all... Terms of reference alone vary hugely and only time and rabid reading will eventually make sense out of some of it. Do check out www.bonsai4me.com, www.bonsaihunk.us/cultural.html, www.evergreenggardenworks.com, and whatever local clubs you can find (great learning places!). Good luck, and sorry for the attitude... sometimes one more mismanaged juniper is just one too many - and it's not your fault, it's those dumb 'care' tags - the same thing on African violets as on pines, plus clerks who give you ignorant info, and you just have to plow through somehow. Ciao...See MoreMy Bare Root is a Golden Meadows---yes or no?
Comments (31)Hey Moccasinlanding and Don B.---I love your Golden Meadows photos! Aren't those Golden Meadows so nice looking. "Is that photo a good color and leaf shot? Where is the pattern?" I have posted here another photo taken this morning and after the rain last night. The color is pretty much true to life. (I have added to the photo my gold euonymus to compare to.) I am thinking that since it was a bare root and started indoors, then that is why it has flowered early. I also thought that Golden Meadows loses its variegation as the season progresses, so I just figured that this is what happened to mine, but at an accelerated pace. The leaf in the 7 o'clock position looks to have a bit of a pattern developing, don't you think?...See MoreCan't change him, so how can I change my attitude about this?
Comments (21)Love - You said "He said fine, he would have to leave work early, didn't want to "inconvenience me" yada yada." and "I asked him what made him say that and he just said "well, I can't leave work early today." WOW. So I guess in his MAN MIND that is his way of acknowleding that I wouldn't do it." The way I see it is this was his way of making you feel guilty for being a SAHM, but unwilling to help him out with his kid. Don't give in!!!! Be strong in that HE needs to do what HE needs to do for HIS kid, and it wouldn't have to be this way if the (in the words of Sweeby) bat-sh*t crazy b*tch hadn't come in your home and punched you. Pseudo said "....I guess my point was if he puts BM before you ... if you had a child with him where would he draw the line ...." This is totally what I have been thinking for a few months now, but could never get the courage up to say anything. Where will he draw the line? Your DD has already been subjected to so much from this woman, and he's not even her father! How much would he put a child of his own through? Example: my friend has a DD with her DH who has 2 DDs with a crazy BM. The DH is a SAHD to the little one (DD with my friend) and would take her with him to pick up the other DDs on his weekend. It became a habit that the BM wouldn't be home at p/u time and wouldn't answer her phone. He would wait around for them to return (afraid that if he left he wouldn't get to see his DDs). One time, the little DD was in the car and carseat for 4 hours while he tried to track them down and waited for them. 4 hours! My friend finally said "You can wait around for 4 hours if you want, but you will not have MY daughter sitting in a carseat for 4 hours while you sit in your car outside their home." Basically, he had no problems putting BM ahead of his new DD. Remember...the squeaky wheel gets the grease. You just have to start squeaking louder than her. Jupiter said "I think that they need to see their ex's as good mothers (even when they clearly are not) maybe to somehow reassure themselves for when they are with her." So, so, so, true. My DH knows BM is a back-stabbing liar. But then he says stuff like "well, BM says it's SD's decision and she asks her all the time if she wants to visit". So why would he believe that one statement when he's caught her in so may lies before? The only thing that makes sense is he NEEDS to believe she's a good mother. Jupiter also said "I too run into arguments where he lets her slide on things that he wouldn't with me..I try to give him the example that if it was anyone else in his life he would have told them to go to h#$% because normally in life you don't do favors for people who don't do for you let alone someone who puts him down as a father..." and Love said "But it just totally goes against DH's overall nature, which is so frustrating." This is the issue. Which personality is the REAL one? I have this same problem with DH and I'm starting to think the way he is with HER is his personality when he's vulnerable and that scares the crap out of me because I guess I rarely ever see him vulnerable. I agree with FD. When I am flexible and accommodating with X, it is usually in the best interest of DS, and I do the work. I rarely (if ever) ask DH to do anything for DS, although he would be willing, because I feel like DS is my sole responsibility since I am the parent....See MoreMy ficus lyrata is slowly dying :(
Comments (14)That you could go 3 weeks between waterings is indicative of a soil that's very water-retentive, so being aware of that from this point forward is to your advantage. You might invest in a 5/16" piece of wooden dowel rod that can be sharpened in a pencil sharpener. Cut it in half and sharpen both ends on each piece and you'll have 4 'tells' that will help you determine when the soil is starting to dry down deep in the pot. When the rod comes out clean/dry, it's time to water. The next time you water, flush the soil very thoroughly by pouring water equal to at least 10X the volume of the pot through the soil. This will be like hitting the fertilizer (salty) 'reset' button. Follow the watering plan, and wait for new growth to occur. When you note new growth, you can fertilize. Foliage-Pro 9-3-6 is an excellent fertilizer for a number of reasons. You can trust me, or if you're interested, I'll list the reasons. It's an excellent all purpose fertilizer. I use it on everything I grow in containers, and that's a LOT of different genera/species. I think if you get the watering under control, the plant acclimated to its new digs, and a nutritional supplementation program you can keep control of, you'll see a favorable response from your plant that will please you. If you're really brave and have a place to move the plant outdoors next summer, you can completely defoliate it, which will induce a new flush of pristine foliage. You won't be able to do that though, if you decide it needs repotting and root work next summer, a topic to be discussed after you get your new charge back on track. Al...See More- 10 years agolast modified: 9 years ago
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