Neighbor tore out my plants
SusanWIN
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Comments (11)bboy, the information I provided indicated certain strains of buddleia will survive zone 4. That's not my opinion, it's information about them from those who know. The best advice is always to consult with a reliable local nursery/horticulturalist before purchasing/planting. I disagree with your opinion that fertilizer spikes are an ineffective and expensive way to fertilize buddleia. Possibly where you are? Certainly not here. It depends what you want,I guess. We want - and now have - a 20' tall, full, reliable screen that produces countless deep purple 1-foot-plus-long blooms all season and is also a hummingbird and butterfly magnet. In the wild (without fertilizing) they look weed-like with sparse, small blooms. Considering the fertilizer spikes we use are 20 cents apiece (we use five of them) and we have a 100% privacy screen covered in blooms to block an unsightly yard across the road, I don't feel that is either expensive or ineffective. BTW, we live rurally and the specimens I'm talking about were dug up for free(with the owner's permission) from a lot about to be bulldozed to build a house. They grow wild here and we like to naturalize as much as possible . I wouldn't dream of putting them in my rose garden or other more cultivated areas. As a perimeter screen, they have worked perfectly. I guess what constitutes a "pest" is in the eye of the beholder. Best wishes, Sue...See MoreNeighbor's Fence - My planting options?
Comments (16)Ink, there is much you don't know about the situation, and I would ask you to refrain from comments about my attitude until you know what I know. These children are being done a disservice by their parents, and my tax dollars are paying the price. Their son needs honest to God parenting, and I think then, he would be far more manageable. His step-dad works most of the day and most evenings, as a pizza dlivery guy. his mother doesn't come out of the house unless it is to smoke. She now has the county providing a 40 hour a week caregiver for this child, because she simply doesn't interact with him. Last week, he was outside in his underwear for nearly 30 minutes, running through the historic park flanking the birthplace of our 18th President; mom and caregiver were inside. When they came to look for him, he ran into the highway. Neither picked up their pace from a leisurely stroll to save him, and he was nearly hit by traffic. This week, he grabbed a knife, attacked his 9 year old sister and is currently in the local Children's hospital for mental health emergency treatment. I'm not disputing the child has issues, and it would probably be safer for them to have a fence for the boy. But I know from my own experience, a high functioning autistic child with a parent who is active and involved and willing to provide structure and discipline copes far better than one who's parents are only out for freebies at the taxpayer's expense. My daughter doesn't need a fence, because I go outside with her, watch her, and interact with her. She is continually reminded of the boundaries and behaviors that are acceptable and she mostly stays within those boundaries. Tomorrow, the neighbors promise the fencing company will be here to start the fence install. Once it is done, we are going to backfill so that the gap between our lawn and the fence is leveled a bit, and then I'm going to be focused on keeping my area nice, and my children close at hand. And hopefully, the fence will be beneficial to this child, because with parents like those, that kid needs all the help he can get. Hopefully, in the future, the parents will learn not everything is handed to them and that sometimes, you have to work to earn the things your family needs. No one is "entitled" except perhaps our military. And if some think that means I have a bad attitude, then so be it....See MoreHow To Keep Neighbor's Ivy Out Of My Yard?
Comments (18)What do you do about neighbours who come from reckless, entitled backgrounds and have been conditioned to believe 'they know it all' AND 'can get away with anything'? I've wasted nearly thirty years on a succession of these types (one of whom tried to trespass claim and stole my metered water and hose, I caught him once, Him saying he'd left his at his church: yes, a pastor). I'd sweetly advised such types of what they Should Do to enable civil relations, but they intimidated ME to get ME to move, sometimes by secretly contracting a real estate agent to help me along or by making false claims to the cops. Even their friends and relations defend their ignorant actions and think it's OK to also mow you, your dog and random birds down! U think I kid? So they steal two of my fences and let their ivy eat the third one: pulling it kills my hands and my trees. If trees fall because of their ivy, I hope it's in their direction. So I have to document everything = exhausting! You won't have a chance of success in a BC court against Old Families. Otherwise I'd sue....See MoreNeighbors wiping out half my vege garden!
Comments (11)So the property line is fairly drawn over on my side. Of that I can't dispute, now that I have researched last night. The fence that has been there for years and years was misplaced by previous fence builders. I don't begrudge my neighbors for wanting their 3' back - fair is fair and land ownership is land ownership, regardless of ineptitude of fence builders of yore. But they know I've had a veggie garden there for years and that it's important to me (they've lived there for only 6 months.) They even have told me how much they admire it and recognize how many hours I spend in it. What's so frustrating to me is that once they budgeted their fence and other repairs and selected a vendor, that they implemented it with no notice or consideration at all. They have the right to do it, but it's just not neighborly, dangit! If they had been considerate enough to have told me on Friday - before a 3 day weekend - that they finalized their plans, I would have had time to dig up much of this stuff and containerized it or relocated it for the rest of the season. I tried to reason with them to give me some time, but they pushed back and said the vendors were already scheduled. OK, I've vented enough. :) I'll stop complaining. As my neighbors said, "they're only vegetables, you know?" Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr....See Morebooberry85
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