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Comments (1)Most of us have no Mango experience. Why not try the California Rare Fruit Growers web site where they have specialist in growing almost any fruit, available with free advice. www.CRFG.org...See MoreHold my hand*************
Comments (28)You guys are the greatest,really. Neil,Kat,Karendee,just off the top of my head, i know you are all new like i am,so i am hoping you all have great success,what a warm fuzzy feeling, Rosepedel,thank you,i feel like have asked WAY to many questions,i do so appreciate every one baring with me,see,from all your kindness,we all have sprouts,as there is no way i could have done any of this with out your help,be forewarned,i still have questions,:0(, and i am still fretting over my veggies. I am still doing the happy dance,i called my daughter to tell her,and we both screamed,she is as excited as i am,i sent her a picture,ha ha,you would think i just gave birth,her,see my new baby. I will keep you posted as new ones arrive,i love you guys! cAROL...See MoreNeed a little hand holding...
Comments (8)Thanks so much for all the support! I didn't sleep much Wednesday night but I'm doing much better now. Of course, I still have to deliver another deposit to the builder (since we did so many upgrades and my finishes are anything but neutral). joyce_6333: We are indeed in Colorado Springs! We actually looked at building in Monument but it would have been at least $30,000 more and meant a longer commute to the airport for my husband so we decided to build in Northgate. We still get the beautiful views of the mountains and the AF Academy and a great school for the kids. (Someday, when it's just us, we may get to live in Monument.) One of the reasons we chose COS was the strong military presence. We weren't ready to leave our military "family" completely! Chicagoans: Our floorplan is set (since we are using a production builder); after A LOT of looking we were lucky enough to find a floorplan that is perfect for us. We have an open U shaped kitchen (with an island) which flows into a eating area and great room. We did upgrade to white cabinets with crown molding, a big bank of drawers and a pull out for pots and pans as well as a pull out by the sink for the trash/recycling bins. (That last made me ridiculously happy!) We're doing a white subway tile backsplash with a decorative strip of mosaic tile of white marble, frosted and white glass (in a linear shape rather than square) with black impala granite counters. We requested no standard hardware so we can install our own nickel cup pulls and hexagonal glass knobs. (I also used the mosaic on the fireplace surround in the great room.)I love the choices we made but I keep worrying that minor things like the grout colour (we had a choice of two whites) will ruin my expensive choices! shmeal: I have been faithfully reading the decorating, paint, kitchen and bath forums the last few days. This dream house has been a long time coming and I keep reminding myself I don't have to hurry (good thing, since we won't have much money at first!), that I don't have to do the usual "try and get everything decorated and done quickly so the family will feel settled right away." Before I never knew how long we'd be there.I don't have to worry about getting orders as soon as we get settled ever again! dekeoboe: I'm actually from the SF Bay Area and would have loved a Carmel-style cottage, too, but the plan we ended up with was more of a farmhouse. I love coastal homes and ended up choosing a mid tone grey for the siding with white trim, a black front door and dark grey roof so it just seemed very Nantucket to me! (I've seen some pictures of Nantucket homes with that colour scheme with aqua front doors, too, so maybe I can talk my husband into it when we upgrade the door down the line.) And I certainly know what I like after years of tear sheets in my dream house file, even if I can't get it all (like my smooth walls. I love in the land of knock down and it would have been outrageously expensive to do smooth walls.) Again, thank you all so much for the hand holding. I have a feeling I will need a lot of it before the end of next May!...See MoreOk, I need some hand-holding here (family issues)
Comments (33)Hi Rosemary, I am sorry that you are feeling rather isolated from your young ones. It sounds as though they are either in process of, or on the verge of, getting more and varied responsibilities. As you realize, and a number have said, even the nearby ones sometimes don't visit a lot, though there are more opportunities of seeing the grands (even if for babysitting). And one can get a fleeting glimpse of them from time to time. Rosemary, do you find that you sit at home quite a lot? Don't sort of stew in your own juice, I hope. Have you found some social, church, sport, community, etc. functions where you can meet new friends? How about some volunteer activities? There are many people who find it hard to get around, or are lonely, who would apprciate a friend. In our area they have organized a goup of younger seniors who help some older ones do chores in their home, to permit them to live there longer. There's Meals on Wheels in a number of areas, and driving people dealing with cancer for treatment, etc. We've heard of Big Brothers and Big Sisters but I haven't heard of Big Grannies (Oh! Oh! I think I made a boo-boo!) but many families with children have the Grands at a long distance, so could use some substitutes. When we were in Korea, our children used to call a number of the other unrelated adults Aunt Helen and Uncle Frank. Our chilfren's mother was head of food service in major hosp. for 20 years and I overseas missionary for several years, parish clergyperson, liberal protestant, for a number of years, then a personal financial advisor for several. Our children were taught by both parents to choose their own way, and I've often said that it seems to me that one of my main jobs as a parent is to help my offspring prepare themselves for independence. Two children, both in their 40s, no grands. My daughter is rather footloose. She spent a year in Hamburg near the end of H.S. (2nd last?) and later a recent German immigrant, initially speaking German to me, thought that daughter spoke it so well that she'd learned it at home. She spent a few years in AZ a few years ago, then was connected to a S O 120 mi. away for several years, but now breaking up and she's moving to back to AZ - planning to buy a place and taking her stuff with her. So helping her move the last of it to storage on Sunday was rather bittersweet. Serious business. Bachelor son lived in Toronto, 120 miles away, for several years, and here in London for a number of years recently, and we have spent quite a lot of time together. He hasn't had a driving licence and I've driven him around quite a bit in rcent years. He'll be getting his licence back soon. Their mother died in this city about three years ago and they were busy for some time disposing of her assets and selling her home. I've always felt rather close to daughter (her mother and I parted when she was 6, son was 9). AZ is a long way away. I've done some long distance driving, going 1,600 mi. from here through U.S. to Sask. several times. But I'm nearing 80, and my son is making objecting noises about my idea of driving 1,600 mi. out there for family reunion at brother's farm in July. Would also like to visit former colleagues in British Columbia, and son doesn't like that idea. Also have some idea of visiting NC (former overseas workers' reunion) and GA (niece's family) at the end of July. Daughter is thinking of attending family reunion at my brother's in Saskatchewan in early July, I said maybe get one way ticket, we drive her home to AZ, then I head for NC. Son doesn't like that idea, either. This business of his vetoing my major travel is a new thing. So I am feeling rather bereft at the idea of "losing" daughter. We call back and forth and send emails. I have an old computer but may upgrade to one that will allow me to have a mike and webcam. But, living in the country and unwilling to use satellite, I am confined to landline and am not sure whether webcam works on that. M a y be sl o w m o t i o n! Rosemary, I hope that you find ways to alleviate some of the sadness and emptiness (empty nest syndrome?) that have been part of your experience lately. And not just some sort of stop-gap alleviation, but some ways of operation which will prove increasingly satisfactory over the long term. ((((((Rosemary)))))) ole joyful...See Moremorz8 - Washington Coast
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