is the pic upside down.. something really weird about it .. any fragrance when you petted it.. almost reminds me of a tiny variegated thyme... without a scale ... ken

Doesn't look like it's in full sun :-)) And i'd expect the smaller flowers are just not quite fully mature. FWIW, that is a variety of Spanish lavender, Lavandula stoechas, and they do not form full flowerheads like English lavender but a long, slightly fuzzy bract with that characteristic tuft of sterile flowers at the top.

I don't grow this polygala myself, but only because the flower color (leaning magenta) does not work well with my other landscape plants. If you want a natural hedge-row plant (not pruned into formal squared-off form), it could be a good candidate. Allow for 2-3' height and width for 'Petite Butterfly'. If you are along the coast, it will like full sun, or close to it. It is very free blooming; best in well-drained soils with regular water amounts.

They may die in western exposure.