Linda, your home is lovely as is. IMO, if you darken the cabinets in a room without much natural light, it may get claustrophobic. I like the airiness you currently have and if you absolutely must redo the cabinets, could you consider lightening them or going off-white to work with your appliances? But leaving them as is works well since they blend with the lighter toned woods throughout. Try new hardware before stain or paint. It's a relatively inexpensive way to provide fun and oomph! Consider changing the dark valance to either a valance or roman shade in the colors you love -- watery aqua & chocolate wide stripe or print -- but only if you slip-cover the sofa and chairs. A flat, non-shirred valance in aqua banded in chocolate might look fresh. You can then slip-cover the sofa in a less imposing tone and reupholster the chairs in a complementary print. If you stay with the current upholstery, then pull your valance colors from the chairs, rug & marble. I'd opt for the simpler style my3dogs used in her office/sewing room. Stick with a solid and contrasting band so they don't compete with the chairs. Your wall color can then flow from the valance colors. Just remember, one change usually leads to many others as each component impacts the whole. I'd reposition some of the furniture to make the most of what you have. Try putting the lamp and table on the other side of sofa so that the area opens up a bit. Or you could place the table between the chairs and exchange with the smaller lamp, but in any event you still need to get the sofa as far away from the tv wall as it will go so it doesn't seem so squished. The area on the tv wall to the left of the fireplace is calling for a large airy palm or another tall plant. And the TIVO storage is too close to the lovely buffet. A mantle might be nice but you definitely need a large beautiful print over the fireplace in colors and theme that makes YOU feel peaceful and happy. The storage box under the window in the breakfast area is disproportionally small. Can you find or make a console (even a shelf ledge that will fit) even if you need to keep the storage under it? On my monitor your neutral paint looks good from the hall. If you change colors, I wouldn't go darker than the 2nd color on any of the strips. My preference would be #2 on the last strip or #2 on the 2nd photo. Let your upholstery decision and marble tones guide. Please buy a $5 SW sample and put a large swatch up for several days so you can live with it in all light conditions before you decide. Most of all, enjoy the process of finding what brings you and your husband joy in this phase.

I agree, what you have is too pink toned. It clashes with everything in your kitchen. I would take a chance and go with an actual color, like a light greenish color, or a light bluish greenish color. I dont mind the color of the cabinets, so if they looked a bit more yellowy orange, it would be fine with me. I do like the side splash and wouldnt remove that. I think it would look unfinished without it, and also would look off balance with the opposite side of the doorway splash. Your kitchen looks very homey. Love the few things, I can see on top of the cabinets, although, am pretty sure, someone will post soon, that they should be removed. Not sure what it is these days, with these boring, neutral everything kitchens. Kitchens should be a happy place to work in.

Dark-Gray Mirage , light -White dove matte finish Not sure about blues so maybe share the color of blue . It also is always good to show all the choices already made and for sure the floor color .

@tazzman2 that view looks like a feature. I assume you want to highlight that too? The way to highlight something is to provide contrast and choose something less exciting than the thing you want to feature. To accomplish your stated goal, a dark wall color is needed. A dark color will highlight the view and camouflage the big black box. It also will bring out the furniture better. And it will really show off your artwork. Someone said they saw blue in your furniture. I don't but perhaps you can get a better shot that shows colors. I see green I think. If you want blue, I suggest something like SW Anchors Aweigh. Green? SW Jasper. Teal? SW Dark Night.  To achieve your stated goal avoid neutrals or pale colors. Worst is beige for your goal.