Depends on the room the chandy is in. In a more contemporary home, I'd probably use the white sleeves. Nothing to really keep clean. Dust the chandy once in a while. If you want to actually wash the sleeves, you just remove the bulb and slip the sleeve off and wash them. I have a small chandy like that in my kitchen, which was there when I bought the house. It has the white sleeves. I should change them to the honey, not that I think about it! The dining room chandy I have from Ace Iron doesn't have any sleeves (it's a ring-style chandy, so no pillars/sleeves for the bulbs). OP's house is a 1900s farmhouse, so I'd def. go with the honey or antique if that were my house.

Drum light will be a little anti-climactic to your other choice. I like the bigger one better because it matches your other lights better, and no, it's not too large for your table, especially when the table is extended, but even when collapsed it is still 18" shorter than your table's length, so that's fine.

It is a rectangular chandelier. Not fancy. The two main things I like are: 1) the light can be raised and lowered easily 2) the lights can be dimmed or turned on/off by touching the cables.

You select a fixture in a finish that works with the furniture in the room. You have a Queen Anne-style dining set. Fairly traditional in its style. The gilded fixtures are a nice complement. If you want to use bronze it cannot be too heavy or too modern. The furnishings in the foyer should also complement the furnishings in the dining room.