I have another take on the wedding picture.. possible she wants "fans" to think she's currently married? Same with the tat.. if "fans" see it, they know it's a guys name? On the photos on Facebook; are you sure they are on her page and not the guys? I am able to see pics by a friend of one of my friends on FB; in my friends photos page but they are not that friends pics if you look at the location on the bottom right of the picture. The tat.. I have an ex husbands name on my back shoulder; it's 3 letters and kind of merged with a larger tat. It is covered by a tank top strap; so not everyone sees it. I would love to have it made into a butterfly but have not; 1 due to the pain, I'm not sure I could handle tat pain any more and because the person I use lives too far. I do not trust just anyone to do ink on me. My hubby knows the name means nothing to me; but I also don't talk about my ex's unless it's to say something negative about them being fathers to my kids. My hubby has an ex as well As far as Facebook; my opinion is it's a relationship killer; especially in situations like yours. It is one thing if everything is private; you only have relatives & close friends; but adding people of the opposite sex or ex's can be asking for trouble. Call me old fashioned; I don't get sites like that and what the appeal is to have as many people as you can listed in your friend list; especially if your real name is used. Being separated from someone for 5 years without divorcing; I'm 1/2 & 1/2 on that one. I can understand because divorce can be expensive but the fact that she & her husband have moved on; well the adultery charge is BS. Would he really charge her with adultery at this point? Here in the states, a reason doesn't really matter. Did I read that you 2 are engaged? If the 2 of you are, I don't feel she's serious if she's still married. If you are not engaged, is it possible that this is what she's wanting from you? Without knowing either of you, you sound like 2 different people; she probably is not going to change and no matter how much you love her, it won't be enough to be able to live like this. One day you may find yourself married to her, she's pregnant & you're not sure whether you are the father. Then there is the fact that she goes out and sings; where will you be?

Bill thanks, I am going to try to put pictures after he tiles. If you think there is another company that you like better please let me know, as I am going to Philadelphia Saturday to my sons, there are many tile places there. It's funny the samples I have home that they thought matched the best are straw from the one tile place and mushroom from the other. They both seem to blend or a little drker than the tile. Do you know of these 2 which comes out lighter when up. I want to stay lighter if I can.. Those paper samples are so deceiving. Thanks so much for your help.

I do prune my adeniums even in winter if they look annoying. BUT--and this is a big but--I can do this because I maintain a near-tropical habitat in my office in winter and I provide them with bottom heating and supplemental lighting. I also have so few adeniums (26 plants at last count) that I know each of them individually. I can roughly predict how they will react to abuse. Since you know your plant, only you can know whether it will freak out if you pruned it now. If you are able to keep it warm and well-lit, I think you can do it now. But if it will spend winter on a window sill with no bottom heating or supplement lighting, you should probably wait. In fact, most of my adenium experiments happen in winter because I keep some of them in my office, they're on a desk and right above the drawer where I keep my plant surgery tools lol So convenient. Pagan

Better still mix in one third volume of aquarium gravel with one third perlite and the other third cactus mix. The gravel element will give more stability to the plant and weight to the pot IMHO. I do moisten all my mixes before potting on, whether they're rooted plants or cuttings and I've never had a problem with rot. There is a difference between moistening a mix and saturating it. Gill