I think Ann Sacks will send samples. I'm lucky enough to have a showroom here in Dallas and I went down and got some but then I wanted some other colors and the sales person offered to have them Fed Ex'd to me but I drove down and got them. I would definitely call the showroom nearest you. Once I had the samples and the email address for the rep, we did all the buying via online docs and then they just shipped directly from their warehouse to us. We bought twice, first time enough to do some boards and second time enough to do backsplash. The big load came freight as LTL (less than a load) which is pretty standard for stuff like that and they sent a bob cat truck with a pallet dolly to bring them to the house. Painless buying experience, tile was packed perfectly and I think of all the tile we bought, one had a tiny chip. Shipping was not cheap but I don't think it was out of line for any kind of heavy purchase like that.

BM Stonington or Coventry grays are distinctly blue gray. I totally know what you’re saying about green or purple undertones. If you need something lighter have them mix it at 50% or 75%

Alabaster white is not white, white and I worry about paring it with a slightly darker color as it could make the alabaster look dirty. My suggestion is you do the cabinets in a high gloss finish and use alabaster on the walls in a flat/matte. The difference finishes would look spectacular. For the adjonng room, I would stop with the beiges/tans…too much of the same, and do a gray (as in your counters),

I like white trim on your house. I agree, the door needs replacing. I would wait to choose a color for that, until you get a new door. You may want a stained door, rather than a color, since that is very popular right now. My choice would be, a dark red, or a dark teal on your door.