Nope not gonna happen for me BUT son/wife

2 years ago

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Son and wife should be on the water by now. Know they will have a fabulous week: scuba diving Turks and Caicos Today thru next Sat on yacht. First of 3 scheduled that have been on hold.

5 dives a day, 7 days

!8 divers included

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lucillle
2 years ago
That looks like a gorgeous vacation, I hope they have fun!!! Wile they are gone, visit the KT and we will keep you company!!
morz8 - Washington Coast
2 years ago
Looks like a beautiful trip. But 5 dives a day? Pretty sure I'd be exhausted. I have great interest in what's under the water (as long as it isn't bigger than me ;0)) but would need to find another way to enjoy it than repeatedly diving. Maybe glass bottomed boat?
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Judy Good
2 years ago
WOW, looks great!!!
glenda smith
Original Author
2 years ago
Son usually dives 3 times a day, but this expedition of divers are experienced and look forward to the extra dives.
nicole___
2 years ago
last modified: 2 years ago
Yep! It's called a live aboard. That's what we used to do. We've done Turks & Caicos twice. We did a land package the first time, a live aboard the second. Actually the last day it's only a morning dive, because some people need to be able to fly without getting the bends.....and it's a two hour boat ride back to land. But....it's a pre-sunrise dive. You enter the water while the moon is still up...the fish are still asleep. ♥
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bpath
2 years ago
Oh, my, that looks wonderful! I hope they send you lots of lovely photos.
glenda smith
Original Author
2 years ago
Thanks nicole. It is a live aboard.

It is wonderful that his wife, Amy, enjoys diving
satine100
2 years ago
Looks beautiful Glenda but I would be on board enjoying the surrounding water and not in the water!
nicole___
2 years ago
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Glenda....it is nice that Amy likes diving! There are always a few single men aboard, who left their wives at home...or the wife wants to read a book. They offer a discount for non-divers. Your also NOT allowed to drink alcohol or that's IT for diving until the next day. They do offer home made snacks, brownies or cookies inbetween the morning dive and lunch, the afternoon dive and dinner. Then when you come out of the water from the night dive they have hot bath towels waiting for you, hot chocolate,,,and pour hot water down your dive suit. Pure heaven! They leave chocolates on your pillow after a mid-week bed sheet change. There's a LOT to like about these trips! ♥

We'd like to do the Galapagos, Costa Rica and Maldives.
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glenda smith
Original Author
2 years ago
They got married in Bermuda and dived. Dived in Belize and lots with the group in Panama City Fl almost every other weekend, from the groups boat.

Son is not a drink and wife only wilne.

I'm so happy he's able to financially do these trips.
nicole___
2 years ago
Yeah....there used to be a dive line of yachts, where you book 5 trips and the 6th is Free! We got TWO free trips that way. Then when I was a travel agent for Cheap Tickets, I got us FREE airline tickets. I was 25 years old when I got Padi certified. I hold specialty certs of night diver, deep diver, search and recovery & advanced. My husband taught classes....he especially loved ice diving. The trips can cost a lot if you stay on land, like we did...then board the yacht a few days later, extending the trip.
OutsidePlaying
2 years ago
Glenda, I’m always happy to see people getting out now and doing things they enjoy. Glad your son and his wife are having fun!
katlan
2 years ago
What a great trip. it is even better that they Both enjoy diving. Would like to see pics if they are OK with you sharing some with us.

And yes, please pop in everyday, we will keep you company.
graywings123
2 years ago
I am so envious. Sounds wonderful.
tami_ohio
2 years ago
That's fantastic! I don't even swim, but love the water. I am sure they are having a fantastic time! So glad they can do this, and can enjoy it together.
chisue
2 years ago
Thanks, Glenda. Now we can join you in this vicarious fun. Oooh, I can feel the boyancy of that salt water already! Will there be photos of the divers and what they see?
eld6161
2 years ago
Nicole, i have a good resource for you for the Maldives.
provogal
2 years ago
I am so jealous! We own a condo in the Turks and Caicos and have not been able to visit for 14 months. Canada has some of the most stringent rules re travel.

Nope not gonna happen for me BUT son/wife

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