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Comments (26)Thank you all so very much for your thoughtful, moving responses. Wow - I'm overwhelmed to know that so many of you feel similarly, and also wowed that there at least a couple of you whose lifestyles are like mine - with your hubbies staying at home while you go out there and bring home the bacon. (It is an unusual lifestyle, and I've found, surprisingly, that even in this day and age of acceptance, many people still raise eyebrows at the choice that my DH and I have made in this regard.) I think that women just lean naturally more towards that nurturing instinct than men, which is pretty much what Red said. Not that there aren't men who make a home and do it beautifully (I think of my own dad, who adores making homemade soup and knows how to clean house down to the last perfect detail), but more often than not, home-nurturing is a feminine trait. Perhaps it is a combination of seasonal change and hormones and "the grass is greener syndrome" rearing up in me that's causing my feelings. We don't have kids at home, although 7 indoor cats are demanding and force constant cleaning vigilance around the house. I must admit, I'm thankful that DH is home to deal with the nastier aspects of this, as I have zero desire to wipe up kitty barf or clean up the misplaced "tootsie rolls" that magically appear on the rugs at times. In my past life (when I was married to my ex), I spent 4 years as a full-time homemaker, and I absolutely adored being at home. That was a period in which some of my fondest memories were made, as my mom and I got to enjoy hours of "girl time" together. We shopped, we lunched, we traveled, and on my own I decorated and gardened and cooked and sewed, and did not for one minute miss the outside workplace. After four years circumstances dictated that I go back to work full time, and I've now been at this job for 15 years. Just as I was thankful for my time off work, I'm also thankful for my job. I know it's enabled me to do much and have things and experiences that I otherwise wouldn't have been able to. A very important part of my life nowadays is traveling. DH and I love Mexico, and I honestly am not sure what I'd do if suddenly I were forced to give up our twice-yearly trips down south of the border. This thread has reminded me that there are indeed trade-offs, and I need to be increasingly thankful for what I do have and love and enjoy, instead of pining for what I don't have. I feel I'm rambling now. Just wanted to thank everyone for the wonderful input. There's so much to ponder here....See MoreDo you run appliances when you're not in the house?
Comments (29)I live in Toronto, Canada. Unfortunately, we are one of the 10,000 residents selected to "test" the new "smart meter" - which means we are billed at different rates than the next door neighbours for using electricity at the same time of day or night. They have divided the 24 hours in the day into periods of low, medium and high energy use - and based the charges for those with smart meters on a sliding scale. So basically if I run my dishwasher and dryer from midnight to 7:00 a.m. I will be charged much less than say if I run it at noon. Yet our neighbours - with 6 people in the house - as opposed to the 2 of us plus dog - and no smart meter - can run their appliances at noon and be charged far less than we are. There is something wrong with this scenario. I have spoken with Hydro and the person I spoke with agreed, no way would he go to bed - or leave the house - with appliances such as these running. The ONLY good thing going for me at the moment is that I am on a fixed electricity rate for 5 years - which while sadly costs more per kw hour than the rate the NON smart meter people are using - I can run my appliances when I want and it will cost me less than adhering to the new rules imposed on me. But, when my term ends I don't know if I will be allowed to renew. The local firemen buy their firehouse food supplies where I shop and I asked for their opinions and they agree with me - and so did the dishwasher and dryer repairman who was here last week. What really scares me about the dryer is the lint/dust/hair you name it build-up in the drum. We needed new bearings and while I keep the lint trap and hose as clean as possible. I can't remove the drum since I can't re-balance it - the repair man confirmed that the average Joe can't do this - but he sure cleans his a lot at home. I cleaned it as fast as I could while he was working on fitting in parts - otherwise he would have had to stick in back in as is. When we are away I unplug everything I can - not the fridge though - but I think I will start turning off the washer hoses. Our insurance INSISTS that our outside water tap be turned off when we are away - too many instances of vandals breaking windows, tossing hoses inside and turning them on. Should this happen we would not be covered - not a risk I am about to take. When I call to tell them we will be away (a requirement) the first thing they say is to remember to turn off the outside hose - and forget timers. It is hard without family - and we don't have a trusted neighbour. But of course there are those who do have trusted neighbours, who unfortunately have "trusted" kids, with "trusted friends" and in the end a whole slew of people know your alarm code, things go missing, parties are held with underage teens etc. etc. I envy those with the true trusted neighbour! I missed the finale of Boston Legal because I wouldn't leave the VCR plugged in and set. Annoying....See MoreHow to decide what's functional when you're used to dysfunction?!
Comments (23)A good architect -- in person or one who works remotely -- will help you through in-depth conversation to figure much of this out in the early stages. The bubble diagram leela links to is also a very good place to start when determining what you want. This is very similar to what, in the Kitchen forum, for kitchen planning is known as the Sweeby test. A lot of the Sweeby test can be used for whole house planning, not just the kitchen. Here is part of the test, but I've changed the word "kitchen" to "house": To start by focusing on your house as a whole, from a far-off hazy distance — to wander off into your favorite kitchen fantasy and think about what it feels like, not what it looks like. (Your real house please, not the one where Brad Pitt feeds you no-cal chocolates while George Clooney polishes the brass knobs on your Lacanche.) Then using mood words, describe what your dream house feels like: warm or cool, tranquil and soothing or energetic and vibrant? calm, happy, dramatic? cozy or spacious? light and bright or dark and rich? subtle tone-on-tone, boldly colorful, textured?, woody or painted? modern, traditional, vintage, rustic, artsy, retro, Tudor, Old World, Arts & Crafts, Tuscan? elegant, casual? sleekly simple, elaborately detailed, or somewhere in between? pristine or weathered, professional or homey? whimsical, sophisticated, accessible, romantic? masculine or feminine? How much zing? and where? The list goes on and on… Once you’ve identified the way you want your space to feel, then write it down as best you can. Try to freeze that feeling in words so you can refer back to it if you find yourself losing your vision or going off track. Bear in mind that everyone, every family, is different and has different needs and wants. For me, reading through the GardenWeb archives -- kitchen forum, bathroom forum, this one (Building a Home), appliance forum, etc. -- was hugely helpful and educational. You can also search the forums for particular items, like rain shower heads; I find Google more helpful than Houzz's search function. Just search for gardenweb.com and whatever you're interested in. If you already know that your previous homes have had dysfunctional layouts, inefficient use of space, and basic features, then you know more than you think you do : ) . One thing you and each member of the family should do is to compile two lists, one of needs and one of wants. It might be helpful even before you start to figure out the difference for you between needs and wants. As far as the particular items you mention -- Pull-out drawers for my pots and pans? Sounds nice. If you read through the Kitchen forum, you'll find that drawers are recommended for all base cabinets. Much more practical. You'll never be down on your knees trying to get to the back of a shelf. And much more efficient than opening a cabinet door and THEN pulling out a pull-out shelf. Rain shower? Great. I like rain. This usually comes down to a want rather than a need. First read up on them, see the reviews in the forums (Building a Home and Bathroom), try one out if you can, and then look at your budget. Also, if you have longer hair and need a shower head that rinses properly, either a rain shower head isn't for you or you'll need one rain shower head and one regular one. Central vac? Ummm sure? Again, read through the forums and start gathering information. For some people this is a need, for others a want. If this isn't something you've thought about already, or you have a vacuum that works well that you like, this is a want rather than a need, and possibly a want that you don't particularly want : ) . Interestingly, one of the things you'll run across going through the Building a Home archives, in many of the "critique my layout" threads, prospective owners who've found an online plan or drawn one themselves or used a draftsperson rather than an architect, will bridle at the critiques they've solicited and reply along the lines of, "Well, our current house is dysfunctional and it's been good enough for us." But if you're spending all this money and time, do you really want to settle for "good enough"? Or do you want the best for you and your family? How much time are you giving over for the research phase? Because this is where you want to allow a decent amount of time. And it will save you money and time in the long run....See MoreWhen do you leave the decorative shutters on a ranch house?
Comments (14)Here are some of the homes with exterior color schemes that I find appealing -- would anything work for the ranch we bought? This one is just so cheerful! The house next door to us is yellow though, so it might not be a good choice: These two have the tone-on-tone I was imagining for the siding/shutters, although my preference is for shutters/trim to be slightly lighter than the main house color: I love these colors, especially the sage/purple!!! Would love to paint the house sage/purple. Not really sure how it would look on an understated ranch though. Another great one, love black and love this style of home. Our home has black slate entry floor and black slate on one fireplace hearth, I really like it. The trend I see is that I really like the aqua colored doors! However, I do also like the idea of a purple door. This one is really fun with the use of color blocking -- not sure if it would work on the style of our house though:...See MoreOakley
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