One of my grandparents had an unusual name.
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Comments (10)Florence Thank you for the sequel to your story. I am like my little girl--always wanting to hear more. The photos of your father are a treasure as was he. What an amazing man! I sense his indomitable spirit in you. If your posts are any indication (and I know they are), you are a wonderful writer! I encourage you to preserve his story in paper and ink. I'm with Jeri. I worry about loss of connection to family and home. I worry about the pervasive rootlessness that has become so common. So many young people I work with feel like refugees. If stars could grant my desires, I'd wish us all healthy families (however we choose to create our families) and homes to come home to on land that has savored the work of kindred hands. I am so glad you are blessed with photos of your grandparents' home. Your paintings capture the spirit of the place. I wish my great grandparents' home was still in our family, but at least we, too, have some photos. My great grandparents on that side of the family (Dad's mom) were Missouri farmers, and my grandmother told me many stories about her childhood. I have a few items from the farmhouse--old books, a lamp made out of the barn's lightening rod ball, an old carved picture frame, my great grandfather's flow blue cereal bowl, and some photographs. Dad's dad came from a branch of the Lee family, and I have a photo of Great Grandmother Sarah and a couple of pieces of her Civil War era furniture. A chunk of my mother's side of the family came from closer to your neck of the woods--the Dana family from Massachusetts and New York. I have an ancestor that seems like he must have had some of your father's strength of character. He was visually impaired for a time, spent two years on a sailing ship and wrote about his experiences in the forecastle, and then returned to the east coast to practice law. He helped found the anti-slavery Free Soil Party. Wish I could travel back in time to meet him. Thank you for the second installment of your gallery show. Your work is such a joy! My grandmother (the one who grew up in the Missouri farmhouse) dabbled in oils and pastels but said she never stuck with watercolors because the medium is so technically difficult. I applaud your hard-earned skill with the brush! In return for your gifts to me, I'm going to attempt to attach images of two of my grandmother's magnolia paintings. Wish me luck! With great appreciation and gratitude, Carol This post was edited by PortlandMysteryRose on Fri, Jun 21, 13 at 3:42...See Morequestion about grandparents names
Comments (18)My mother recently remarried. She started dating him after I had grown up and moved away. My husband and I are expecting our first child, within weeks actually, and I have had some disagreement with my mother over what our child will call her new husband, Reed. He is technically my step-father, but I am over 25, and my father is still alive. Without going into detail, no one in my mother's family agrees with her choice (due to how he treats her), but Reed is her husband, and wants to have a "grandparent-type" relationship with our child. Because our yet unborn child already has two "Grampas", and I don't have a close relationship with Reed (nor do I want to), my mother has decided that my husband's and my request that he be called "Reed", just as he is to us, no longer stands. It will hurt him, and it is also disrespectful, she says. I don't want him to have an intimate, loving title like "grandpa", if his relationship with our child is going to be as superficial as it is with us. I've read over a few comments on this page, and others that have said that children respond to genuine affection, and if so, it will not matter whether or not the first name is used. We are not telling the child not to love Reed (the step-grandfather) or treat him with the same respect as the other grandfathers. He is as welcomed as everyone else in the family, but there is a distinction between him and the biological grandfathers. I figure that by the time our baby can address Reed with a title, he/she will have chosen a name based on the affection and genuineness of the relationship between Reed and himself/herself. So, any ideas? Am I wrong in wanting our request to stand as it is for now, with the babe calling him "Reed"? Pressured in Canada...See MoreNames for grandparents
Comments (3)There's no law carved in stone that all the grandkids have to use the same name for the grandparents, it doesn't always work that way. I think the grandparents should get to decide what they like and then, believe me, it is still subject to change by the small ones and acceptance by the grandparents. Your sister might have a surprise or two ahead where the names are concerned. In your case where there is a considerable age difference, it could well work out that there will be more than one set of names that gets used, I think, depending on how far apart the 'sets' of grandkids are in age. I guess what I want to say is: don't worry too much there's lots of time ahead for things to be sorted out and pregnant women do (please don't throw things at me!) sometimes get some odd ideas....See MoreMy Grandparents made me the man I am today!
Comments (4)Hi, I read your post with interest as we are in the process of taking on our 20 month old Grandson. His Father (our son) and Mother are both on drugs. Our Son is currently in jail and is back to being a normal person who you can have a conversation with. He doesn't know we are taking on his son as he has no contact with him and becomes very angry about the situation. He would dearly love to see him but before being in jail his girlfriend (the Mother) and he had a very volatile relationship and the 3 children were taken by child protection services. The older two (different fathers) were placed with their maternal grandparents, who thought it would be short term. Unfortunately their daughter is still on drugs and only maintains spasmodic contact, which is getting less. Our grandson was placed in foster care, he was 3 weeks old at the time. He is with a lovely family who have two teenagers and two other foster children aged 6 and 4 and our grandson 20mths. We didn't take on our grandson at 3 weeks, hoping the parents would come good. That is obviously not going to happen for the mother and my son would have to jump through hoops to prove he has drug taking and anger issues under control. My questions are "how important is it for my grandson to be with family? Should he be allowed to stay where he is happy and loved? (my fear here is he will become part of the "foster" system and be parcelled around). If we don't take him will he grow up thinking the family didn't want him? We will have him before he turns 2, are we being selfish to take on a toddler at our age ?(54) We just want what is best for him. The overall question I suppose is "how important is family ?"...See Morekathyg_in_mi
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