I checked a few times too - but I remembered she posted she'd be gone and for anyone else to go ahead and start it.

My DD was born in late December too. Her birthday presents were always wrapped as birthday presents. I spent the same amount of money on birthdays for her and her brother. I always tried to choose special presents for each child. Still when she grew update she said there were noticeable differences. Most of them had nothing to do with me. One was the weather was always too cold to have her party outside which was her favourite thing to do. The other was that her friends were often too busy with family to be able to have the party on her birthday day. Another thing that I could do nothing about. We just planned the party for a week later if her friends were busy. She said all in all she felt that the gifts were fair. She thought that I baked and decorated better cakes for her brother who has a mid May birthday. I never thought so but maybe I was a bit exhausted so simplified my design on the cakes. Kids can be so sensitive to this stuff even if it has nothing to do with how you feel about them. As an adult she understands that things can never be exactly fair and even. Now she says maybe her brother needs and needed very special cakes because of his illness. I won't be able to see my daughter at all for Christmas or her birthday. It will be hard but we have chosen the hard but safe route through this pandemic. Happy birthday to those of you celebrating this December. May you find a way to make it special for yourself and family.

Rusty