I would just ignore her, honestly.

Oh no how annoying! If you don’t stop it now it will never stop, so I agree just ignore her. You’ve already gone above and beyond. This woman needs to stop living in the past.

It sounds like she is grieving the loss of her home. I have the reverse feelings toward my previous home-I don’t want to see it and the changes the new family has made. Perhaps a gentle phone call explaining how uncomfortable this makes you would help her let go. Maybe not. Maybe you can explain you cannot make this house your special home while you worry she might not approve of the changes. Maybe she just thinks you can be friends, bonded by your love of the house. I’m sorry this is so painful for both of you. Perhaps the Realtor who handled the transfer could help?

I agree with Bri, I would just ignore her and hope that works. I don’t have a huge problem with conflicts, I certainly don’t like them, but will do it when necessary, and I don’t think this is a case where it’s necessary. You aren’t friends with her and it sounds like even if you try to break it nicely and with her feelings in mind, you’re gonna have to deal with a mess in the fallout. Block her number and then you don’t even have to see/hear the messages and on the off chance she happens to just pop in on you, you can honestly tell her that you never got any messages and then decide how to deliver the message that you appreciate her attachment, but are not interested in maintaining contact because you need to feel like this home is yours, not hers, and the follow up is preventing that from happening. Or you can tell her you never felt at home and you’re thinking of selling and ask her if she wants to buy it back. Lol.

Geesh, show the woman a bit of compassion, please. Who doesn't need more friends? I like asking the Realtor for help.

I've gone back to my previous house a few times just to see how some of the trees I planted are doing, but I have no interest in seeing the inside of the house, although I have seen photos on line, since it was turned into an AirBnB.

In my current house, we got rid of all the roses that were in the front and back yard and took out several trees to replace them with ones that we wanted. There was an ornamental peach tree in the back yard that was covered with pink flowers for a couple of weeks in the spring, and we replaced that with a white sapote tree that actually makes fruit. There were two or three plum trees (male and female) that we took out because we only got twelve plums (at most) from the trees. I believe our house was staged for sale, and so we don't really know what their decorating tastes were, and they were obviously ready to move on.

At most, the previous owner should only want her mail.

She’s pushy and out of line. Yes compassion is good but repeatedly calling and texting a stranger and demanding a visit- even if you were open to in general I’d want to keep her specifically away! Any normal person would have asked once or maybe twice that’s it

If it were me I’d ignore it a while longer but if there are more messages might start getting concerned Never under any circumstance let her in the house or on property again

Maybe talk more to the neighbor who knows her and get a better feel for the situation.

On one hand, I understand you're not looking for a new friend or any kind of contact, and want the house to be your own. But on the other, the house does have history and a special one at that with her and her husband actually building it. Perhaps she's not wanting to look at what you have changed but to see that you are loving the home.

A couple of years ago we bought an old house in our neighborhood after the one and only owner passed away. We gutted the house and doubled the size, but we also tried to keep the feel and spirit of the house. Her grown adult children visited it during construction and once since we moved in last summer. They love seeing that we love the house. They comment how their mom would be so happy with what we have done to it. Even some old neighbors who moved away stop by when they are around and say similar.

I could not imagine ignoring them or telling them "it's mine now". While it is our house, we also know we live in the "old Marbury house". It can be both.

At the very least you should respond to her that you are working on making the house your own home now and want her to know it is well loved and she can move on knowing that.