Remember Arnold Schwarzeneger(sp) and his affair with the housekeeper? She was not that attractive, perhaps he was looking for a personal relationship. And look at Trump, his wife is pretty and he had that incident with Stormy. I'm not sure attractiveness has anything to do with how tight the marriage bond is.

Cheaters cheat. If the nanny is much older than he MAYBE he will keep out of her bed. It seems she does not comprehend what is meant by ADDICTION. The partner matters little in that case. Trump has cheated on his wives since always. This one was a mistress first and so on and so forth. She knew what she was getting. These women who cry foul when they too were the previous mistress, I don't have time for. If this singer values monogamy she should have chosen more carefully who she married.

I think this gal is trying to control something over which she has no control. Cheaters gonna cheat; if she thinks not hiring a pretty nanny is going to stop it, she's living in Dream Land.

I think she is trying to remove a possible temptation from her husband. But temptation is everywhere for an addict. Only he can control his behavior.

This won't prevent him from cheating. Just her saying this to the press is a bad omen for the marriage. She clearly does not trust him and when the trust is gone......?

Good grief...what is wrong with her? Why on earth would you stay with such

a jerk? An illness? I don't know...but I wouldn't put up with that. Seems she

knew exactly what she was getting and went ahead. Feel sorry for the kids.

I can see a point in not having your children looked after by your husband's mistress.

I too don't understand the other woman marrying the man she knows to be a cheat when he has done it with her and expecting something different. Who wants a used husband? Or wife when the shoe is on the other foot. It seems maladaptive.

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/jana-kramer-tells-moms-husband-185753524.html

Perhaps if she hired a male nanny the nanny would be safe from this man but even that is not a given. It does not matter for her husband if the person is attractive or not they are there and female.

I agree with what others have said. When a male has trouble keeping his pants on, that's what's going to happen, no matter where and no matter how.

Doesn't matter what she looks like if the guy is going to cheat. I don't think they really care.

I'd stay home and raise my own children.

I think she makes a valid point though. Why put a bottle of vodka in front of an alcoholic...right?

AR girl, that was my thought. It's like making sure your car doors are locked. It may make the thief move on to the next car instead, but at least you didn't serve yourself up on on a platter.

I'd stay home and raise my own children.

Yes, iin this case the father should do just that.

I had to go look up the article (didn't see that you did Lucille). Her words are pretty smart all the way around (may not agree with her choice about the husband, but then, I am single for a reason) after reading them. I guess I agree with what she's saying.

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"'Guys, our nanny quit,' she says to open Monday's (April 15) episode of her Whine Down With Jana Kramer podcast. While she's been looking online for a replacement, Kramer adds that she's astonished at some of the overly flashy pictures some care providers have posted to accompany their listings.

'I just don’t understand some of these girls that post pictures on Care.com because I’m like, ‘Don’t you know the female is hiring?' she says with a laugh.

'The wives are hiring! I don’t see a guy going on Care.com and going through the nannies,' the actor and country singer observes, adding, “Maybe they do — and that’s awesome — but I personally am doing it. This one photo was like, ‘Hi, I’m 22 years old and I have perky boobs.' Like, don’t post the perky boob photo. You’re not gonna be hired. I’m not hiring you.”

Kramer says she's not suggesting anyone deliberately post an unattractive photo."You should dress for the part,” she observes

Who in her right mind would say this to the public?

I'm starting to see the case for mistresses. It's one consistent 'other woman'. You know where you can find your DH. You know he's not getting infected. It's not happening in your home -- the relationship doesn't touch your family. I wonder if it's more expensive than catting around for the active Tom.

Is a sex addict happy with one consistent mistress? Or is the thrill in the chase and conquest?

She should have been more concerned with the qualifications of her husband before he became such than with the appearance of her nanny. How about raising your own darn kids? You made them with prince charming, how about putting more effort into their care than trying to futily reign in the uncontrolled desires of the pig you married? Her making excuses for him speaks volumes.

I think her statement to the press is a prelude to their divorce. She is just leading with her side of the story.

I hope so. Look, I can forgive cheating......once. But enough to call him a sex addict? Nah.

So she is assuming every woman, pretty or otherwise, is going to hop in bed with her husband? I want to see this irresistible man! Personally I've always been turned off by horn dogs.

Money overshadows many things that most women willing to be mistresses might otherwise be turned off by. Is this guy rich in his own right? If so, that's enough for such women....

I haven’t read the article but I can’t imagine why she’d want to stay with someone who doesn’t respect her or the marriage and that she can’t trust. Life is way to short to waste it on jerks.

Everyone has their own levels of toleration, but I could never and will never forgive a cheat.

Since she is a singer there is little "stay at home mom" that she can do. That is where she gets the money to live on.

Many women work and raise their children. Because they have to. I guess if you have the means to pay someone else to do it, thats your right. And since you're paying for them, you can require they be fat and ugly so that your husband will be less tempted to cheat on you with HER, never mind that there are tons of other women in the world. What a life.

Geez.

Imagine THAT ad:

Nanny needed for x amount of active children, x ages.

Must have x amount of education, x amount of experience, verifiable employment and character references,.reliable transportation and clean criminal background.

Must be sufficiently unattractive so that husband will not want to cheat on wife with you. Will consider being x amount of pounds overweight unattractive depending on said weight distribution. Applicants should submit full body picture as well as short video of you walking away for consideration.

I think she was being facetious in that statement. She just wanted to put it out there as to what kind of man she was married to. Of all people, she knows full well she can't control him.

I have zero hope for that marriage. Once someone begins bad-mouthing their spouse in public, I think it's already over. There is no loyalty left.

Two words: Lorena Bobbitt.

Well you have to read her interview and take it in full context. All she is saying is that her marriage is good now, they've worked through their problems and some nannies are posting inappropriate suggestive pictures, comments, "I have perky boobs" and profiles on the nanny site.
https://people.com/parents/jana-kramer-wont-hire-hot-nanny/

Some years ago a friend was talking of her life with a husband who travelled quite a bit and had been found to have been unfaithful on, I think that it was a couple of occasions, maybe more, over a number of years.

I suggested that I thought that, had such happened to me, as a wife, possibly after the first, but more likely after the second, and very likely after the third, I'd have told him to listen, and pay close attention, that if I became aware of his doing that again, that I'd go out and do exactly the same. Don't know whether suggested that I might aim at his best friend.

She said that, after a/(some?) repetitions, she had told him she'd do/give serious thought to doing that.

His very vehement reply, "I'd kill you!!"

He was still alive ... some time after the divorce ... married his secretary, who'd been a collaborater in the troublemaking ...

... how deep a thinker/visionary of potential future possibilities do you suppose she might have been?

ole joyful

Being married to a cheater is terrible - always very hurtful. Unfortunately, many women are not aware of this until after they have had children. In the end, they must decide if they're better off with the guy or without him. In many instances, it's still with him for many good reasons.

I could not handle a husband who cheated with the nanny or any other help I employed. I would expect him to at least have a modicum of discretion.

Believe me, if the man is wealthy enough, he will appear "attractive" to many women, regardless of his actually appearance. Remember, there were willing women with Harvey Weinstein who is a gross pig, to say nothing of The Donald, no "looker" himself.

She doesn't need a new nanny, she needs a new husband.