@acm...Yes! I have spent countless hours looking at photos here. Thank you for including so many great ones with your reply. The third photo down is one that I love and have shared with the cabinet maker. Wish I knew exactly what wood and stain was used on that cabinet. Hopefully our guy can figure it out.

Post a much better picture showing the whole space .

If, however, this is a DIY project and you do NOT want to refinish the wood with poly, you'd still need to clean any part of the cabinets you are going to paint -- and clean it thoroughly -- before painting the cabinets -- otherwise your paint job will not look good at all.. If the dark wood is the problem for you, then lightening up the upper half of the room above the cabinets could well change the vibe and likely make this "beachy" color a better fit within the room. Unless you're changing the floor to a very light floor (I wouldn't) , my inclination would be to NOT paint the lower cabinets at all and paint only the part of the upper cabinets: Paint all of the upper cabinets and doors on the end wall above the stove top the same white as the wall. You could leave the oven cabinet a natural wood as a balance to the glass front cabinet and, if you can replace the doors over the oven with glass doors, consider doing that ... or ... if you decide to paint the solid doors over the oven and its cabinet the same white color, stop at countertop level. For the cabinets with the glass fronts, paint only the interior of the cabinets using that same color that you paint the walls. Once the upper half of the room over the stove top and sink is lighter, would pause before deciding about painting the ceiling.

I hope you are aware that the grays have fallen out of favor this past year. While gray accents would have worked better before the pandemic people are now wanting lighter and brighter to dispel the gloom of the past year and almost a half. When you remove the gray other wood tones especially the lighter ones can open up an area.