Can we discuss passion and conformity?
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Comments (9)I am a tiny bit ambivalent about this, although I did cough up for membership, mainly because of the US majority usage. I also subscribe to Peter beales forum (free) which does have some useful database info but a tiny membership...and herein lies the rub because for me, it is all about user involvement. I have an inbuilt bias against company run forums as their agenda is mainly, either openly or covertly, to sell us stuff, GW has been a useful source of info and, I suspect that I would be more inclined to pay to use it rather than HMF. I also think that I do not make full use of HMF and in truth, could probably have got by without paying for premium membership...but I got excited and carried away. I never make comments or access much of the info on HMF, have failed to rate anything and only just got around to listing my plants (and only those I could remember at the time and have not updated the list). Of course, all these failures are my own, nothing to do with the virtues or otherwise of HMF. Not working at the moment either, so unsure whether I would renew my premium membership....See MoreDinner table discussions
Comments (14)Thanks everyone (esp. lynne and carole for the suggestions). I really should post about DD on parenting or cooking board. I didn't intend for this conversation to be about DD's picky eating. DS had some sensory issues (mostly motor delays - still has vestibular problems so he's just not a physical kids). Couldn't have his foods touching, preferred everything room temp (except when he was 9mo he changed to liking his milk cold, even when it was *my* milk!). So when DD came along we figured it was more of the same, except she was *always* very physical, just not verbal! Where DS was trying to get us to name everything from about 6-8mo (incl. colors, we found when he got frustrated pointing to each section of a beach ball and we kept saying "ball") and had a 400+ word vocab (I stopped counting) when he was 2, DD just screamed when she wanted something. We kept trying to teach her to talk, I couldn't even tell dr at 24 mo appt how many words she said b/c I'd never heard the same one twice (and not too many once!). We knew she didn't have a hearing problem b/c her receptive language reponses were age-appropriate. So no big deal about the food - she ate every kind of jarred baby food (though she was always a "grazer" even when nursing, wouldn't take bottle, wanted me, wouldn't nurse long or eat much at a time compared to DS at that age). When we got into table food, though, we got into a real problem with textures and temperatures. No big deal, we had worked it out with Ds. Well, she never outgrew it - it got worse. last year when she was 4.5 yo we toock her to OT, spent $1200 on therapy to see why she was gagging and in some case vomiting on foods that she said she liked - mostly meats. It turned out her chewing/swallowing mechanisms are fine, it seemed like she just didn't *know* when a food was chewed enough to swallow. Her OT said she just seemed to chew food (esp meat) for the flavor but once the flavor was gone or not intense, she didn't want it in her mouth anymore. Funny, b/c she doesn't really like intense flavors. Anyway, the OT got her to add raw baby carrots with ranch dip to her diet, and that's it. We quit b/c we really didn't have the $ (hi-ded insurance didn't pay any of it) and she didn't seem like she was making progress. She weighs 40 lbs now so she's normal (and she's short, so actually she's a bit heavy for her height). She loves oatmeal (the texture makes *me* gag!), any kind of bread/pasta, and most meats as long as they're not chewy, but she won't eat stew. Hates potatoes, corn, sweet potatoes! Of course won't touch green veggies but has learned to eat broccoli with ketchup as well as baby carrots. Will eat about any kind of fruit. So the only arguments come at dinner time. I tell her she has to eat what I give her (believe me, it's the tiniest bit) of meat and broccoli, she can have as much or as little as she wants of anything else as long as she eats those. But then she'll start negotiating - "can I have carrots instead? I don't want broccoli! I won't eat it! How much mac and cheese do I have to eat? Do I have to eat all this meat? I can't!" and starts crying and screaming, I tell her if she doesn't eat it she can't have dessert and then she screams that she wants dessert. So I say "eat your dinner first" and she starts the negotiating and crying and "I can't" all over again "But I want dessert (sob sob)". I just can't deal with it. Sometimes she'll sit there for an hour, everyone will have finished, I've got all the leftovers put away and the dishes/pots in the DW, and she'll still be sitting there - I'll tell her she doesn't have to eat it, but she still wants dessert so she gags it down (or it comes up and she gets upset b/c she tried and I should still give her dessert - sometimes I do b/c I feel sorry for her and she *did* try but sometimes I'm just so fed up I tell her dessert time is long past, it's bedtime now). Please note that we rarely eat dessert in this house - when Ds and DD ask for it we let them have a small piece of candy from their jars - we have canisters full of candy they get at Halloween, Xmas, Easter, pick up from parade route at 4th, etc. - we don't buy it, it just finds its way into our house! I'm just getting tired of cooking hot dogs, kielbasa, mac and cheese (first she decided she didn't like the noodles that come in the box so I'd use elbows instead with the powder, now she's decided she *does* like the box noodles and *doesn't* like any others), baked chicken (we put BBQ sauce on ours, hers is plain), pork chops (ours with adobo), pork ribs (again hers plain), and broccoli all the time. I'd like to have rice every now and then! Maybe some kind of *flavored* rice or noodle, some different veggie?? I don't do casseroles, lasagne, etc. b/c my kids won't eat their food mixed together, even though Ds has started to like chili. DD used to eat the black beans (not pinto) and the meat as long as I didn't make it spicy, but then she started refusing those too. I stopped making her a PBJ sandwich if she didn't like dinner I was making, thought she should learn to at least try some new things. But now I'm stuck in a rut with the same old things, and she's starting to complain about those too. Like I said, DS started off picky too but he outgrew it. What worked with him doesn't work with her. At least she started to talk around age 2.5 (after I called birth to 3), now I can't shut her up LOL!...See MoreHow do you decide sink conformation?
Comments (6)It really does come down to how you use it. I don't do many dishes by hand and certainly wouldn't need a separate sink just to soak utensils and flatware because they go into the DW. A quick rinse under hot water is the most they would usually get before going in there and even that is not usually necessary. IF I went with 2 sinks, which I almost did because that is what I was used to, I would personally prefer the largest two equal bowls I could fit. There are a number now that can each fit a cookie sheet flat in the bottom. Some people do use a dish pan or drainer, but I don't really like either. However, I am not one who likes to hand wash dishes. I will fill a large pot individually with soap and water and wash and rinse it, I will even put a few things inside the pot I used to cook if they need to soak while I load the DW. But if I regularly had so many dishes I needed to do a sink full by hand in addition to using the DW, I would focus more on finding room for a second DW. :) There really is NO "right" or "wrong" with whatever your clean up procedure is, and some people are more flexible in adapting their habits to make best use of whatever equipment they have, be it single, double, equal double, 1 1/2, 1 3/4 or whatever, and others are very adamant that they don't want to change those things and become very frustrated if the type of sink does not fit what they already do. Only you know where you fit in there. Since you want to go with a Silgranit, and it sounds like you regularly do at least some dishes by hand, you might like the double better. Esp. since the Silgranit is not available with a built-in shelf that you could still use to drain dishes with the large single. How big a sink base will you have? That will narrow your options as to which silgranit sinks you even have to choose from. This issue has actually been discussed many times, although some of them have probably fallen off the board by now. Here is one and also maybe do a search for this forum only on "single or double sinks" Sue Here is a link that might be useful: sink discussion...See MoreOctober Discussion: Age of Innocence
Comments (36):::>>>I also read the novel as a commentary on Wharton's views re the "puritanical heritage" as reflected in the Old New York society Oh yes. Remember, there was a reason those pilgrims left the mother country - it wasn't religious enough for them. It wouldn't be very hard to change the religious strictness into class strictness ::: Absolutely and even today Americans struggle with puritancial heritage. European women are less embarassed to go "topless" than American women. A friend of mine had a friend who married a Danish girl, when they were visiting she took off her top and sunbathed in the backyard topless! She was mortified!! There is still a "class" strictness.. I found this out when I was on an airplane sitting in the bulkhead seat (the seat right behind first classs behind the wall)..so anyway I was four months pregnant...had to use the restroom..so I went to the closest one...in the first class section..yep, I moved the curtain and used their potty. When I got out a very rude man was standing there just to let me know he was waiting to use HIS bathroom. I'll have you know , I'm a quick tinkler, so he was standing there just to make a point. In regards to AOI, I loved the symbolism of the name "Archer", the cupid statues, the "archery" contest and the description of May's ability with the bow and arrow... I'm sure there are other symbols of love/passion I can't remember....See Moreilikefriday
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