How Early To Book A Domestic Flight?
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Comments (20)Lots of good advice here. I certainly sympathize, but agree that your life will be better if you realize he won't change--at least, not much, anyway--and try to go with the flow. 1. Hire someone to do the cleaning, and the yard, too, if possible, and give your husband credit for not insisting that you do everything without outside help. There are men like that, too! To me, his willingness for you to hire someone takes the edge off the selfishness of his behavior. Praise him for being thoughtful that way. 2. See if you can get him to agree to spending some time with you at certain times each week or even each month. He might resent having to agree to a regular schedule for this, yet be willing to give you some time now and then if you ask for him to do something specific, like go to a movie. 3. Any chance you might join him, just a bit, in his hobby? (I hope that it wouldn't end up with him insisting that you practice as much as he does (lol), but it would be time together. And maybe you could work it so that his next obsession is with something you like, too.) 3. It is good that he does do a few things around the house, even though not the way you (or I) would like him to do them. Show appreciation for them and try not to criticize (though I fully sympathize with your feelings about the dog fur and mop left in the corner!). Instead, show lots of appreciation so that he will feel good about having helped and maybe be inclined to help again. I suspect that many men don't do household chores the way we want them done. They simply see things differently. 4. For the chores left over after hiring someone, if you \ resent doing them: It was a good suggestion from someone that you make a list of chores and select the essential ones to do yourself. But I suspect he might feel pressured and resentful. Instead of that, you might be able to introduce a few new chores for him, one at a time, with long intervals in between, and not labeling them as "his." You will simply "need" his help once in a while to do such-and-such, which is the truth, in a way, and when he does it, you will be very appreciative and show it. I don't see this as being manipulative. After all, when you do something for anyone, you appreciate their showing gratitude, right? The Golden Rule rules! You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar, and when it comes to catching flies, honey is better than a swatter. I hope you will be able to work things out so that neither of you has to go around feeling resentful....See MoreSleep help on a 12 hour flight
Comments (32)I take one Ambien 5 mg on the overnight home from Maui. Not a good idea to take a Tylenol PM or similar. The 'sleep' part is an antihistimine and dries out your sinuses -- which are already drying out in the plane's stale air. If you have pain, take Tylenol or aspirin. The warning about liver damage is for people who use both alcohol and Tylenol all the time and in large amounts. I *wish* I could take aspirin; it's a superior pain medication but I'm allergic to it. It won't damage your stomach if you take it with a small amount of food, like a cracker. Eye shades and earplugs, along with a pillow or neck pillow will help. The ability to project a cold stare is useful if you are seated with a Chatty Cathy. LOL I hope you are seated 'bulkhead' -- more leg room. I hope you are not seated in the last row in a seat that doesn't recline! (Look on seatguru.com to see your plane.)...See MoreOT....The demise of domesticity?
Comments (42)When at school we did 'Domestic Science' which was really just cookery. I can well remember my first lesson was 'rock buns' which certainly lived up to their names. Second lesson was pastry-making. Not easy as I had never cooked at home, only used to being my Mother's skivvy washing up, peeling spuds etc. My brothers did the usual woodwork, tech drawing etc at school. Nowadays little proper 'cookery' or needlework is taught I was expected to make beds, dust, wield the 'hoover' etc and didn't enjoy it. I really think parents should make children 'help' in the house and not sit about being waited on like little Emperors, although this probably goes against the grain of modern parenting where kids must be entertained 24/7. How many of you notice a change in attitudes towards the amount of 'help' men give around the house. When I was a young child (late40's50's) my Grandfather lived with us and did nothing except eat, sit and read the paper and sleep. My Mother claimed when she first 'joined the family' he was unable to get clean clothes out or put stuff to be laundered. His sisters and Mother had waited on him hand and foot and even cleaned his football and cricket boots! Difficult to believe he had been quite a sportsman in his day. He would let the fire go out rather than put a shovel of coal onto it and used to get me (aged 3-4) to make phone calls on his behalf . . . My father was able to cook 'basic' meals and was good at noticing what needed dusting/cleaning and would drive my Mother mad by telling her about the wives of friends, all paragons of virtue, who were up every day at dawn polishing, cooking vast meals, cleaning the oven every week . . . and apparently telling everyone about it. My DH is able to cook and makes excellent bread but is less interested in cleaning and is the world's most untidy person who never throws anything away. My older son and s-in-law are very domesticated and can do as much, if not more than their wives, from child-care to ironing....See MoreIn-flight reading?
Comments (34)cindy grelobe, I love David Lodge, esp Changing Places, Small World, and Falling Down. He's quite a joy to read (tho I think his more recent books haven't been as good) So do I. To your list IÂd add a book of short stories , I donÂt remember the title because IÂve got it in Italian and every time IÂm at home I keep forgetting to check out the original one. Besides IÂve got another book written by David Lodge, titled Ginger yourÂre Barmy, it is the first book that D.Lodge has written and was published in 1963, I seem to remember,(at the moment it is out of print) and it is about two blokes serving in the army in the 50Âs . I think it is also a bit autobiographical. But IÂve never read it yet, because when I got it I wasnÂt able to read in English and the book hasnÂt never been translated in Italian. IÂm going to take it with me on my mountain holiday next August. grelobe...See More- 8 years ago
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