Why don't you have facts to back your opinions? There must be some mechanism by which you came to have these opinions, what was it? I used to tell my DD when she was growing up, "You're entitled to your opinions, but you need to be able to say _why_ you have it. It's not enough to stop at "I just like it/don't like it."

I think that unless you're willing to do some reading and some serious thinking, you are always going to feel outclassed by someone else who does, or at least someone who puts up a good show of it. Bring partnered by someone who makes you feel inferior does not make for a happy marriage.

I agree with you. Its just hard because he has an opinion about everything and has such a broad generalization about it. For example he will say most homeless people are drug addicts and don't want a job. And everytime we see a homeless person he makes a comment like that in a negative way. It's just not needed everytime we leave the house. And to me I don't have much of an opinion about that but it gets tiring hearing that everytime we go out and sometimes ill push back saying not every person is like that and he feels he needs to defend his opinion which most of the times it's with facts. So I'll walk away from it feel like I shouldn't have said anything..so I don't and just become quiet a lot of the time. But like you said I guess I just need to put more reading and serious thought behind my statements.

Listen to Sushipup, When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

You state above - I don't have much of an opinion about that but it gets tiring hearing that everytime we go out and sometimes ill push back saying not every person is like that

You do have an opinion! (and I agree that the homeless are homeless for a variety of reasons) It is good to back up an opinion with facts, but of course you can't cite a fact for everything you say. You are, however, entitled to have an opinion and have an opinion that differs from his!

You told him your opinion. It sounds like he does not respect your opinion.

I divorced a man like that. He always talked to me like I was stupid. Now I'm very happy with someone else.

>> he feels he needs to defend his opinion which most of the times it's with facts<< Well, if you don't know the facts, you don't know if your fiance is actually quoting facts or making stuff up out of thin air.

But, this guy sounds like something of a bully and as has been said, he's on his best behaviour now, it will only get worse. I'd bail.

You should marry somebody who makes you feel MORE like yourself, not like you are less like yourself, losing yourself!

I hope you haven't married this man. He's a bully and he'll bully you. An "amazing" man? I think not.

Well my opinion is that he is making judgements, not opinions. An opinion is a thought that can be supported by facts. If people say things, that cannot be supported by facts - then they are just being plain judgemental.

Being judgmental, in my opinion, is not a good thing, it can lead to bigotry and mostly people are speaking out , because of some sort of emotion.

In the example that you gave, about his comments about homeless people, that rings alarm bells to me. He is making unsubstantiated comments about helpless people and it shows that he is not capable of compassion and understanding.

I would be concerned, if I were you about your future life with such a person, who doesn't seem capable of empathy and compassion and a clear understanding of the good values in a person.

Please rethink you path in life.

I won't say don't marry him --- but I will say, don't marry him yet. You two still need to go through some things first, including possible pre-marriage counseling to work through these problems that you are experiencing in the relationship.

It's Ok that both people have different opinions, but it isn't OK (in the long run) if one of them makes the other person feel worthless to give those opinions.

Maybe its not so much about your come-backs or if you are right or wrong but more about him being too opinionated about controversial topics or just the fact that he always focuses on things that could be considered negative. Maybe you just like to enjoy the moment and not always feel the need to judge something.