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I feel like I have to apologize to Anglophilio

5 years ago

I have been very harsh to you. I thought you were uppity and I went after you. I have differing views about money, class,etc. I went very beneath what my father would have approved of to argue with you. I am sincerely sorry. We all have our opinions and I think some of my posts to you were attacking. Maybe I am just jealous you make your bed every day....Hope you are well.

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Anglophilia

5 years ago

Anne wrote me privately and I told her there was no need to apologize but I certainly did accept her apology. It was a very gracious lovely thing for her to do.

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Julie
5 years ago
I haven't seen the posts you're referring to, but some of these "discussions" tend to get heated. Especially when we want our views and opinions to be expressed. It's very nice and mature of you to apologize! I tend to bite my tongue and scroll on when I know my words will be ugly. So I commend you for stepping up. :)
eld6161
5 years ago
Anne, don't be too hard on yourself. We have all been there, done that.

But, we do have to be mindful that the written word can often be much different than hearing something verbally.

Sometimes, we aren't aware that we have pushed someone's buttons. Someone called me an idiot for stating my take on something.

Hopefully, Anglo will see this post soon.
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phoggie
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Anne, you are such a kind hearted person...too bad there are not more who are big enough to apologize if they cause hurt feelings because it seems to happen a lot on here.
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Anne
Original Author
5 years ago
I try to be kind always, but I do have this thing where if rubbed wrong I can be nasty. I don't like that I am that person. I wish I never need to apologize but when I should, I am willing.
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Thank you phoggie.....I took phoggie as a grumpy old man...showing my age I guess...and your response was so kind!
phoggie
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Anne. I am sorry you perceive me as "a grumpy old man". You must not follow my posts and pictures very closely or you would know differently.
mamapinky0
5 years ago
Phoggie is the opposite of grumpy. Kind, fair, and gentle come to mind.
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last modified: 5 years ago
I think Anne was commenting on the screen name sounding like "old fogey" and your comments being nothing like the name would imply. I believe it was a compliment!
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Anne
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'i was complimenting you sweet phoggie...for real
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5 years ago
I personally apologized to Ango...and she was beyond gracious. I am opinionated but also get my feeling hurt...not the best combo. When I am not kind I like to admit it. I am trying to figure out how to give or take opinions while being kind and not hurt....Anglo never meant to be rude and I didn't either. All good....and since I live in the DMV and the flood issue I feel horrible once more for not being kind. I will just say I really mean to be kind but sometimes I express my opinions in a way that my Dad would not have been proud of
mamapinky0
5 years ago
I wasn't commenting on anything Anne said...I knew what she ment..LOL

Annie you are a dear...such a lovely apology to Anglo.
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