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Vacation Journal August 2008
Comments (3)Calliope and Rob's comments about Bulgaria in my patio thread got me thinking I should talk about what I know of the country and the trip before I go, and this is probably the most appropriate thread in which to do so... We are going because we have a lot of Bulgarian friends, and we have a priceless opportunity to see a new place in the company of insiders. We will be staying with a good friend who is a naturalized American but still keeps her apartment in Sophia. Also traveling with us is another native who now has an American passport, his wife (who's from ND, so you know she's cool!), and their 18 year old son. We'll also be visiting my girlfriend's parents, whom we've met before and who live in an apartment in the same building, and the wife of my girlfriend's brother. The brother is also a good friend of ours. He has a green card, so can't be out of the US for more than 6 months... and the wife is waiting for her green card and can't come here until she gets it... oh, and she's about 8 months pregnant. My friends promise to introduce me to a wide circle of family and friends. Most don't speak English, but my friends will translate... plus I understand I'll be able to converse with some friends in French... and I do speak a bit of Russian, if they'll forgive me for communicating in the language of a former oppressor. If all else fails, I'm a dang good mime. I'm actually surprised at how much Bulgarian I'm able to understand, and I can read the alphabet. We're planning on spending some time cooking together, some time visiting historic sites, like Rila Monestary, and some time at the Black Sea. From what I am told, these are some of the most beautiful beaches in Europe. I suggested we hit Greece, since we'll be so close, but I was met with disdain (and Bulgarian pride), after all, Greek beaches are horrible pebbly places, while Bulgarian beaches are beautiful and covered in sand. Bulgaria was dominated for centuries by the Ottomans, and there are lots of residual Turkish influences. Lots of Greek and Russian influences too. They are proud people, and while they have adopted many of the foods and customs of people who have dominated them over the years (they seem to be gifted at choosing the losing side in wars), they can be a bit touchy about the whole thing and are quick to point out All Things Bulgarian. For instance, Bulgarian doesn't use the Russian alphabet, Russia uses the Bulgarian (Cyrillic) alphabet. Bulgaria is part of the EU, but they haven't converted their currency yet. They produce most of the world's supply of rose oil, a component in nearly all perfumes. I was disappointed to learn the rose farms will not be in full bloom, because areas of the country feature valleys full of roses as far as the eye can see, and the scent is supposed to be heavenly. Oh, and nodding the head = "no" and shaking the head = "yes". Apparently this is the source of much confusion with outsiders. I have been told that this is because Bulgarians are largely comprised of three tribes of horsemen, and this body language emulates that of horses... (they nod when agitated) but I don't know whether or not that's an apocryphal explanation... We're leaving this week and will be gone for a while. I promise to take lots of pictures and post stories when I'm back and over my jet lag....See MoreH. "Dalton's Pick"
Comments (3)Steve- I either bought it from Naylor Creek or Sebright Gardens (can't remember which), but neither of them have it it listed for sale this year. I did find it at Jim's Hostas for $22. McTavish- Beautiful pics, thank you for posting them. That's what mine used to look like until my naughty dog tore it to shreds. (I love her, but she can be a garden terror sometimes. She ate two of my echinaceas as well! grrrrr!) I'm hoping there were a bit of roots left in the ground and this is Dalton coming up again. I guess only time will tell. Maybe I'll move him into more sun to speed up the growth. This post was edited by flower-frenzy on Fri, Jun 21, 13 at 13:26...See MoreWhen is it time to give up?
Comments (30)April...I have just read your plea for help with an imposible situation. As you know, I lost a daughter who was bipolar. Her life for many years was a hell that I know I still don't fully realize. We lived more than 100 miles away so weren't involved in her life on a daily basis. Fortunately she never had an addiction to battle along with the disease, but I know that for her husband of more that 20 years, everyday was an "unknown". What I want to tell you is that Terry's father and I gave our son-in-law our blessing the day he came to us and asked us to become more involved with her because he just couldn't take it any more and had to "get out". He assured us that he had no intention of leaving her abruptly. That he wanted to try to make sure that she had a network of family and friends that would be looking out for her before he did anything. He said divorce was not in his plans, because that would leave her without medical insurance. He spent several hours with us that day telling us many things about her that we needed to know if he wasn't in the picture to help in a crisis. That was 2 years before we lost her. They were in marriage counseling for most of that time...not counseling to save the marriage, but to help ready her for his leaving. He was still with her trying to pave the way for her to be on her own the day she died. And we were still supporting him in his decision to leave at some point. Some might think that we were wrong to show compassion for him, but there are times that this "for better or worse, in sickness and in health" stuff cannot and should not be honored. The bottom line April is that you have endured more than enough and your son is the one you must have the most concern for now. You cannot "fix" your husband. He can't fix himself. It is the nature of the illness. Go to counseling and a lawyer. Find out the way to best get out...not only for yourself, but for your husband. He is a danger to you, your son, and himself. Don't sacrifice yourself or your son for something that cannot be fixed....See MoreWhat other Gessies like being grown in semi hydro or wicking?
Comments (6)While I see African Violets successfully grown in semi-hydro - in hydroton pellets and similar media - Leca stones etc. - I am still waiting to see them grown exceptionally well. When I attend our Rocky Mountain African Violet Council Show - and I look at the sales and show plants - some growers consistently produce amazing plants - and it is not a national Convention - it is a small regional show. So far I didn't observe anything of the comparable quality in ceramic stones. Normal, but not to knock your socks off. If your AVs in semi-hydro achieved this quality - please post the photos - it will be very educational - and I will eat the crow, I am thinking that the other gesneriad requirements to soil are mostly similar to AVs - so you should have no trouble converting them to s/h. It probably be of advantage for the plants that hate an acid soil - like Gesnerias - provided that the air humidity is high enough. For our Colorado climate mats, wicks and peat based soil mix works really well. On the other side my friend in Tampa had so much trouble with peat going acid very fast in FL heat, he came with his own solless mix - he replaced the peat moss with Rockwool mini cubes - the smallest he could find - poprobably around 1/4 of an inch each. So his mix is perlite:vermiculite" rockwool cubes. He treats his mix the same if you would treat soil - and it is not deteriorating, not going acid , can be wicked and matted. I think the maintenance for this kind of soil should be periodical leaching to get rid of a residual fertilizer. I would say that it solves problems, plants are less prone to rot, do not need repotting that often and so on and so forth. It is significantly more expensive than peat moss. But in a hot climate it makes the diifference. This mix is suitable for producing show quality plants....See Moreamylou321
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