Feeling overwhelmed and self reflection
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Comments (16)Here in Northern Europe most have made the decisions, ordered the roses and planted them before winter sets in. Fall is the time of reflection and garden planning here. Roses that did not fit into my plans or taste or underperformed get moved, perennials are divided and moved and new bulbs for the spring are planted if necessary. Near my house I only want roses that look great as garden plants, they must repeat bloom well and they must be intensely fragrant. Roses that did not do that or did not fit into color schemes and plant combinations gets moved to the plot of land that were supposed to be a vegetable garden. I also wanted lots of roses for cutting, but many of the roses I wanted were IMO very ugly as garden plants. Many HTs and old garden roses and modern shrub roses have an ugly growth habit and are simple too big for the limited amount of space in my garden. But I love the flowers! Many roses are less than pristine after a few days of rain and demands a lot of dead heading. That was the reason I made a cutting garden 5 years ago. First I wanted HTs, dark Red, yellow, pink, orange, mixed-colors and white and intensely fragrant, but I did not want to look at the stiff upright plants. So I planted lots of roses very closely in rows in the vegetable garden. I also planted 8 Eden Climbers (More like 4 feet tall bushes here) and lots of Austins and Romantica Roses. After 2-3 years they produce lots of flowers for cutting. I had some friends that worked at some of the leading florists and they were interested in getting extraordinary roses. Most florist roses lack scent and most people are utterly disappointed when they smell the roses from the florist. Also if someone ordered bouquets of old garden roses or English roses. No one were able to deliver them. So They would ask if they could buy some roses from my garden for special occasions and wishes. So they came to see what I have and cut the roses they needed. Now I have a list of roses I am able to supply them with. They call and hear if I have what they need and they pay well for the roses, from my cutting garden. A unique niche-production! Also for exhibition purposes it is nice to have many plants. On Old Garden Roses and Austins there may be few absolutely perfect roses Fx. The Bourbon Reine Victoria. On 5 bushes there may be only 3-5 roses in pristine condition and in perfect shape. Same with many Austins and other classes of roses. Since the bushes are smaller here in this climate I may grow 18 plant of one variety to be able to pick just one rose I can condition to exhibition quality the days before rose shows. I also really like yellow roses for flower arrangements. But I do not want them in my garden. So they are also grown in my cutting garden. A garden is a process. I want to see flowers and nice foliage all the time and grow many bulbs and perennials as companions to the roses. Roses are the stars in my garden, but without the clematis, bulbs, perennials and small shrubs, herbs and annuals (Like scented pelargoniums/geraniums)and bi-annuals like foxgloves, I would not be surrounded by beauty and fragrance from may to October. It is a constant puzzle and there is always 5-8 things I want to change every year, and I do it....See MoreFeeling overwhelmed, unappreciated.
Comments (14)Skaterio and Cube, I was thinking the same thing--FLYDADY. It's a great Web site for getting your house to seem more homey. Yes it's bizzare and out there, but you don't have to do all the things on the Web site, pick and choose what works for you. Once you free your home from CHAOS (Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome) then you can invite people over. I have about one dinner party per season and invite people who make me feel warm and fuzzy inside. It's a great pick me up, the whole process--getting the house ready, cooking, etc. Also, it might be helpful to find a spiritual community to join if you haven't already. I mean I should talk since I don't belong to one, but the idea is that a spiritual community can help people fee loved and appreciated and connected to a higher power. I was speaking with a pastor last year and he told me that your complaint is one of the prime one he hears from everyone. A couple of years ago I got a book called "Minyan" by Rami Shapiro which is about developing a spriritual practice. Minyan is a term in Judiasm which refers to a group of ten men, which is how many people you need to start a worship group. Anyway, the rabbi who wrote the book developed ten spiritual practices which, according to the review on Amazon, "ground a person in divine reality and balance external and internal affairs." Anyway, the book isn't pie in the sky, it is very practical and accessible to people of any religion or even agnostics. One of the practices is to read inspirational books every night. Like a devotion, read a couple of pages as your before bed reading. That's how I found the "Art of Happiness" book. Two other books I have especially enjoyed are: "Attitudes of Gratitude" by M.J. Ryan, and "The Simple Living Guide" by Janet Luhrs. There are bound to be other books out there, just find a few you like and then look them up on Amazon.com. They always tell you other books you might like or other books that other people who bought your book also bought, which gives you some ideas to try. Right now I'm reading "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari" which as a novel pretty much sucks, but as a guide to meditation practices is quite good. By putting the ideas in the form of a novel I guess the author is making them more accessible. But it's not really a novel, just a fable. Also, MJ is right, the TV is very damaging to one's self esteem, the world portrayed there is not even close to reality. The whole medium is designed to get us to feel that our life is inadequate. That way we will buy things to fill the void....See MoreFood Photo Tips: Part 10 Self-timer, Flash & Silverware
Comments (0)Posted by canarybird (My Page) on Sun, Sep 20, 09 at 11:23 Food Photo Tips: Part 10 - Hi again everyone. I'm back with another entry on how to use your digital camera for taking tabletop photos. I apologize again for the delay in posting this next-to-last tutorial. After publishing the last entry I had computer problems and couldn't work until our repair man came with a new graphics card, which is now installed. The Self-Timer Function Perhaps you are accustomed to using the self timer so this will be nothing new for you, but if you have hesitated to try this very useful function on your P & S (point and shoot) camera you will be pleased to see how easy it is to not only to put yourself into a picture but also to sharpen some of your tabletop photos by avoiding camera shake when you press the shutter. Here is the icon for the self-timer and where it may appear on the back of your camera body: And here are the settings on my camera, which may be different on yours: And as seen displayed in the camera menu after entering the self-timer option you could have: OFF, 12 Seconds, 2 Seconds. The procedure to use the self timer couldn't be simpler. Assuming the camera is either firmly attached to a tripod or resting on a stable surface, find the self-time menu and decide how long you want the camera to wait before it takes the picture. If you are going to jump into a group photo, then give yourself the longest time in order to settle yourself comfortably in the photo, eg 12 seconds. On the other hand, if you are going to use the timer to avoid possible camera shake during a tabletop photo shoot while you stand behind the camera, then set the shortest time lag. Then press the OK button. Press the camera shutter button half way down and look to see that the green focus light doesn't blink. (If it blinks then you have to move the camera further or closer to your subject since blinking means the camera can't focus at the distance you have chosen.) When the green light is steady, press the shutter button all the rest of the way down. Take your finger off the camera and either run to join your group or wait without touching while it beeps a countdown and takes the photo. You've just used the self timer! By doing this you have avoided any possible movement of the camera that could occur as your finger presses the shutter button. While the camera is in countdown, you can do other things, such as holding a white reflector near your subject to improve the lighting. That's another advantage to using a tripod. Your hands are free while the camera takes the photo. The Flash Menu The flash menu is usually accessed by pressing the lightening bolt flash icon on the back of the camera touchpad. See again the above photo of the back of the camera with red arrows. Pressing the touchpad at that point brings you into the flash menu, where the icons are quite easy to understand. You may need to press the flash pop-up button (3rd photo) to begin using the flash. The flash will fire automatically when there is insufficient light. The camera decides if you need flash or not. Red-eye reduce mode. The camera emits pre-flashes before firing the regular flash in order to avoid red-eye. Fill-in flash. The flash will always fire regardless of light conditions. Useful for eliminating deep shadow on the subject's face when subject has back to sunlight, or in similar circumstances where you want to eliminate shadow. Always emits pre-flashes for red-eye reduction. Flash off. When the lightening bolt is surrounded by a circle or square, it means the flash will not fire even in low light conditions. Remember that a P & S camera flash will make your food look very flat and unappetizing, so don't ever use it for food photos. Photographing Silverware Although it doesn't quite fit in to the subject of food photography, a tablesetting is often included in a closeup food photo. Flatware can be a difficult subject to photograph due to the reflective surfaces, especially when dealing with spoons, where the room surroundings are often reflected in the bowl. I'm going to show examples taken in daylight by a window using white and black backgrounds, with and without a tripod. Here is my setup, using one and later two styrofoam reflectors on the dark side. Here below are examples on black velveteen. (One of my old Christmas party tops pulled from the back of the cupboard!) The first photo shows a bad example of how a handheld camera shot at this arrangement of three spoons reflects my hands and camera. In the next two photos, the spoons have been arranged differently so they reflect more the surrounding room. The following photos will enlarge with a mouseclick. Here at the left is another example of a bad reflection. Although the pattern of the silverware shows up nicely, the bowl again reflects the photographer. The centre photo shows a closeup using macro mode where the pattern is the prime object. But the picture on the right is not a photo at all, but rather one taken in a flatbed scanner. Don't forget that for posting to auction sites a scanned image may serve your purpose. Using the Tripod and Self-Timer When you have your camera set up on a tripod you will surely be able to take clear, sharp images of something as fine as silverware, where you want to display the pattern clearly. In order to get yourself and your hands out of the picture, using the tripod and the self timer allows you to duck out of the way so you are not reflected in the silverware. Here below is the sequence for doing this: 1) Photo left - set up the flatware on black velveteen, black or white paper or cloth and with camera on the tripod, adjust the level of the view and zoom a little until you are happy with the image in the viewfinder or LCD screen. 2) Photo centre - set your timer for the delay in seconds, enough for you to move away from the camera. Press the OKAY button to confirm your choice. 3) Photo right - press the shutter halfway and when the green focus light gives a small beep and a steady green light... press the shutter the rest of the way down. You haven't yet taken the picture but the camera is now counting down the number of seconds you have set, so move yourself out of the way. The shutter will open and the camera will take the photo without your touching it. Remember that if in step 3 the green focus light blinks rather than stays steady, the camera can't focus at the distance you have set. Change your zoom level (more zoom or less zoom) or if necessary, move the tripod further away. Here's the photo just taken in the example above, at left. Centre and right photos are a couple more done using tripod and timer where the reflection in the spoons is of the window. I hope you are understanding it all and if you have questions please ask here or PM me. So thanks for joining me. The next tutorial will be the last one, so I hope to have it ready soon. . And please feel free to save the pages on your computer. Sharon (Canarybird) :-) (All text and photos copyrighted) Free for personal, non-commercial use Follow-Up Postings: o RE: Food Photo Tips: Part 10 Self-timer, Flash & Silverware clip this post email this post what is this? see most clipped and recent clippings * Posted by publickman (My Page) on Mon, Nov 2, 09 at 2:45 I have a problem with the camera I am using now in that I often accidentally set the flash because of where the toggle wheel is place. My camera looks very similar to yours, and I find it very easy to press the flash without realizing it. Sometimes it is difficult to turn off the automatic flash, and this is most irritating. Most of the photographing I do now is of furniture and of cardboard models of furniture that I make at work, and I really do not need a flash for this. In the past, I have photographed wall sconces for tear sheets and these were difficult because the finishes were often polished silver plate or polished nickel. I had to be very careful about what was reflected in the mirror finishes. Of course I had to be even more careful when I photographed mirrors, and I often did those on a dock with the background very far away, so that it would be blurred. That was before I could fix them in Photoshop. Lars o RE: Food Photo Tips: Part 10 Self-timer, Flash & Silverware clip this post email this post what is this? see most clipped and recent clippings * Posted by canarybird (My Page) on Mon, Nov 2, 09 at 9:23 It's annoying when a flash goes off unexpectedly and also when the option to turn it off is buried somewhere down in a menu. Good idea of yours to take things outside to an open place if you can to avoid reflections of a room, but as you say, in the end one can also blur them out with an editing program....See MoreFeeling overwhelmed with,home repair
Comments (21)" I have never seen it in nearly 40 years of my real estate career." Now I have a question. Over those 40 years,how did lenders assure themselves pre-owned homes they were lending on wasn't near falling in from termites,wasn't half burned down,didn't have irreparable foundation damage or other issues that dramatically effect's value. __________________________________________ To respond to this question by klem1 ^^^ The appraiser is the one that notes any deficiency in the collateral. This is true for conventional loans and government insured type loans (FHA/VA, USDA). The appraiser isn't quite a thorough as an inspector, but they do check the foundations, the roof, HVAC, and electrical systems and other items and put those items in the appraisal. They will even make the value subject to repair of those items prior to closing in some cases. An appraiser can explain it in more detail. The appraisal is ordered by the bank and paid for by the buyer to protect the bank from loaning against inferior collateral. The inspection is ordered and paid for by the buyer for the buyers use. If there are surprises in the inspection, we go back in and renegotiate the price and/or the repair or cancel the purchase depending on the severity of the condition discovered in the inspection. We have the inspections done long before the appraisal is completed so if there is a price or other adjustment it can be negotiated prior to the appraiser getting to the property. One more thing: if the appraiser makes the condition a repair item, then the appraiser has to come out to re-inspect that item after the repair and prior to closing and submit photos of the repair (where possible) and paperwork to the bank that s/he has inspected the item. Inspections and appraisals are two totally different things - but they do overlap in some respects because the condition of the collateral does affect value. PS: Appraisers refer to their visit as an "appraisal inspection". This could be where the confusion comes from in the post by klem1. The "appraisal inspection" is nowhere near as detailed as an inspection done by a qualified inspector. HTH....See MoreTexas_Gem
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